What do you think of abortion?

Question

im not positive if im pregnant..but if i am..i dont know how im gonna tell my parents...im considering having an abortion..but i dont know if its the right thing to do....what would be the right thing to do...abortion...adoption...or keep it...im so lost...i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of abortion. This is a personal decision and you must do what is right for you. Answers concerning abortion here tend to be very strongly opposed to it from what I have read.

There is a lot of information available concerning abortion but very little of it is unbiased.

Abortion is by no means an easy answer from the experiences friends have had it is something that will stay with you for ever regardless of whether or not you regret it. There are services available that offer counseling and advise but again please make sure if you do seek advice from a service they are not pro life/pro-choice but rather a unbiased advisory service.

Whatever you choose to do it is important it is your own decision but you must get some support.

Answer 2

Wow... there is a lot of judgement going on in here and not a whole lot of good advice.... My advice is that if you are doubting any choice then you need to become more educated about the choice. Talk to people that have done any one of the three options. How is their life now that the choice has been made, What did they have to go through to get back to their "normal" life, what does each individual choice entail.
I am a birthmom, meaning that I got prego and placed my daughter for adoption 5 years ago. I think it was the best decision that I could have made. I don't regret it and I get pictures and letters from my daughter (more pictures then letters right now ;) )
Also, Just because you were "mature" enough to have sex (although I don't think that there is any "maturity" required to have sex) doesn't mean that you are "mature" enough to raise a child. I have a really hard time with the people who think that if you can get prego then you can raise a baby. Something I say about the birthfather of my daughter is "he accidentily became a father, but he never chose to be a daddy since he left" I say the same thing about mothers and mommies. It takes a choice to be a mommy not an accident.
and just so everyone knows..... just because you don't raise the baby doesn't make you a mommy especially if you made the best choice for the baby - that is what being a mommy is all about!

Chech out the website itsaboutlove.org if you are interested in adoption. They offer free counseling to help you make an educated choice and they have offices all over the country. That is the agency that I used.

Or you can email me if you have anyother questions about my adoption decision
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Good luck and I hope that you have the courage to make the decision that you feel is right for you!

Answer 3

I have always thought that if you are old enough to have sex, and if you had unprotected sex, then you should accept the responsibility of what that brings. And that is a baby. I always had a strong belief on this matter. I am a mum of three, and only one of my chilren is planned. I first got pregnant when I was 18, and I was young, and alone. I never thought of anything other than having her, and I knew my parents would go mad and disown me. But I went ahead, and tellling my parents was the hardess part. Tell your parents. Its never as bad as you think it will be. They will be shocked, maybe even disappointed, but they love you and will support you in the end,. mine did. My third baby was also unplanned, id used protection (the pill) but been sick so it did not work. I was scared as I had two children and did not think I could handle a third as my children were both under 5. Until that point I had never agreed in abortion, but I had to consider it, could I afford another baby, would I have less time to be a mum to the children I already have. I even went as far as booking an abortion, and I hated my self for it. But I never went. I couldnt do it. And now my youngest son is three, and Im so glad I had him, hes the best. When he says mum I love you, i makes it all worth it. My point is this...Dont rush into anything, dont do it because you think your parents will disaprove, they love you and always will no matter what. Dont do it because your a bit scared, your bound to be, there is support out there for you if you ask. Only do it if you, your self, no it is what you want. Because if you do it for the wrong reasons, it will haunt you for the rest of your life. I no this because my best friend had an abortion, all because the father said he wanted nothing to do with her or the bay if she kept it. He didnt stick around even after the abortion, and now every time she gets drunk, she is in tears of regret at a mistake she made 6 years ago. Seek help if you are unsure, but just do it for your self, not because of anythng else. I wish you all the luck in the world, what ever decision you come to.

Answer 4

Hi, hon. I'm going to be blunt here, but it is out of genuine concern for both you and your baby. I think you know that paying someone to kill your son or daughter is never the right thing to do. Abortion has the potential to seriously injure you as well. Please take some time to look at this information before you do something you will regret the rest of your life:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

You can get a free, confidential pregnancy test at a crisis pregnancy center in your area. You can find one by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

They can also give you any type of help you need, including helping you talk to your parents, if you want. They'll be able to sit down with you and talk through all your concerns. They've helped many other girls and can help you, too.

You can find support specifically for pregnant teens here:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

And advice on telling your parents you are pregnant here:
http://lifehouse.glorifyjesus.com/questions/pregnancy/tellingparents.html

You CAN do the right thing. You do NOT have to abort. Be strong for yourself and your baby.

Answer 5

This is one of the hardest decision that a woman has to make in her lifetime. And it's a personal one, and so no one can tell you what to do. If you can tell you parents, it's a good idea to do so, so that you'll have their support when you need it.

Other than that, you just need to educate yourself on the choices.

Adoption - http://www.adoption.com/
There's closed and open adoption depending on how involved in your child's life you want to be.

Parenting - http://www.parenting.com/parenting/
Very hard, but from what I've heard, very rewarding too.

Abortion - http://www.prochoice.org/
It is OK to get an abortion. It's a very safe, very effective, and very easy (physically) procedure.

There are pros and cons to all of those choices, take the time and decide what's right for you.

Answer 6

You should really speak to your parents - seek advice - there are pregnancy crisis centers that can help you out - whatever choice you make, make it your own & feel good about it - no matter what choice you make, it will stay with you. Pregnancy is scary even when planned - Personally I think abortion is wrong, I think it will hurt you more than help you... but only you know how you feel about it. The right thing to do is listen to what your instincts are really telling you. No matter what, its going to be difficult - but know this, there is alot of help out there... I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 7

This is my order of decision when I find out I'm pregnant...

1. Keep it and raise it because I made the mature decision to have sex, so I need to be mature and handle my consequences.

2. Put the baby up for adoption. Just because I have a baby and don't want it, doesn't mean I should deprive a family that wants a baby and can't have one.

3. There is no option 3, because abortion is murder. From the second you become pregnant, you have a growing child inside of you. If you have an abortion, you have to live with the fact that you tried to play God. You took away the life of a child. You took away someone's right to live.

Thats just my opinion and it will probably be ridiculed, but whatever.

Answer 8

the beautiful thing about our day in age, is you have a choice. You choose the destiny for you and your life, if your not ready, your not ready, Im AGAINST it, but if i ever was pregnant id have a hard time deciding too, im only 21 i feel like theres so much more to experince before i bring a child into the world. You should be Responsible and use protection,be safe!!!
But Follow your heart, there is no right or wrong descion. as long as your happy with the choice you made... LIFE IS ALL ABOUT CHOICES. dont let people tell you diffrently. andif your religious. GOD IS FORGIVING.

Answer 9

I think abortion is a good thing if the child is no going to have a GOOD future... If you don't think you are able / ready to bring up a child i don't blame you for thinking about abortion.

You should really think about adoption, there are lots of coupls that would do anything for a child but can't have them themselves. There is also a LONG waiting list to adopt

Good luck in your dicision

Answer 10

honey, ignore all the judgemental people on here, they talk a good talk and curse u but are THEY gonna adopt the baby, look after it, put it through college????? No, thought not!!! Don't do anything rash and consider all your options carefully before u come to a decision. But don't feel bad, whatever decision u come to. Good luck sweetie