what do you think of abortion?

Question

im not positive if im pregnant..but if i am..i dont know how im gonna tell my parents...im considering having an abortion..but i dont know if its the right thing to do....what would be the right thing to do...abortion...adoption...or keep it...im so lost...i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, if you are pregnant and aren't ready yet to be a mother, there is no good route for you to take. Each of them have their own consequences, and, utlimately, it's up to you to decide. Basically, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Abortion is viewed by many as the murder of an unborn child. Personally, I don't see it this way. Assuming that you are pregnant, right now, it's relationship with you is basically that of a parasite and its host, and there are so many things that could happen during your pregnancy that would prematurely terminate it that the fetus is nothing but a *potential* baby. It just has a little bit more potential than every unfertilized egg had that you've ever lost during a period.

That's not to say that abortion won't have its downsides. Many women experience depression after having an abortion (although the same can be said of giving birth to a child; then it's called "postpartum depression"), and some are rendered unable to conceive later in life when they are ready to have children as a direct result of the abortion. There are also some risks of complications (such as septic shock or a perforated uterus, bowel, or blatter), though, while the risks of such complications and/or death as a result of the surgery increase as the pregnancy progresses, I believe they still remain smaller than if you were to carry out the pregnancy to full term and then give birth. Also, you may want to take into account what reaction your parents, family, and friends may have if they find out that you have had an abortion.

Adoption is another possibility. This, too, however has its own consequences. Aside from the world's already growing population problem as a whole, there are many unwanted children already waiting to be adopted, and when people look to adopt a child, they generally are looking for a blonde-haired, blue-eyed baby boy. The farther your potential child is from that "ideal," the lesser its chances are of being adopted. Let me mention once again that there are many health risks of giving birth at all.

The last option is to keep the baby once it's been born. I'm sure you'll have a few people, maybe you already have, that will tell you that you should have to pay the consequences of getting pregnant in the first place. While I'm usually all for taking responsibility of one's actions, I ask you to keep in mind that your child, should you actually give birth to it, is going to be a human being, and please do what you think is best for it. It's going to need to be cared for, and, even if you get help from parents and family, you're going to have your hands full. Before you decide to have a child, make sure that you are prepared to raise one, financially, mentally, and emotionally. It's going to need food, water, shelter, all of the necessities to survive, but it's also going to need love.

Good luck telling your parents. I really don't have any advice for you there.



I hope this has helped and that everything works out for you, no matter what path you choose to take.

Answer 2

Abortion hmm. Well abortion is anyone's right, but I think it's probably one of the hardest decisions anyone would have to make. You have a lot of after-effects as well, pyschologically speaking. It lives with you forever.

I do not however believe in late term abortion (after the 2nd trimester), or abortion by those pills they can give you from an abortion clinic since it actually hurts women and can sometimes kill them (there has been many cases). I also do not believe in multiple abortions, I wish they could record how many you have and set a limit and make you have adoption after that if you don't want the baby.

For other things like that, I believe in abortion for medical issues(life threatening, etc), or if a woman has been raped.

But then again, it's everyones own personal choice and they are the one's that will have to live with it. But adoption is another thing to look into, especially open adoption if they still want to keep in contact with their baby now-a-days. You actually birth the baby and have 7 days after the bith to consider if you still want to do the open adoption. Then from then on out, your still allowed to see him/her and the family that has adopted the baby; you just don't play the role as the momma. A lot of teen mothers and single mothers of 2-3 or more that can't take on another baby are doing this today.

Hm lol, anyways this is what I think of abortion while also trying to change anyone to thinking about going for an adoption if they're to be put into that situation. :)

And to your actual question, when you find out. Take some time to really think about so you don't regret anything. I would even possibly just tell your mom about it, and if you still wanted to do either an abortion or adoption you could have your mom's support with you. And if you didn't then you atleast had that out of the way of telling and start talking about plans of keeping it.

Good luck with your results! (thinking as if you haven't tested yet)

Answer 3

Thats a tough question that only you can answer yourslef since you will have to live with your desicion for the rest of your life. I'm not saying that to be harsh but I have been in your shoes and trust me you need to have your mind made up on it one way or the other. You may think that an abortion is an easy way out as most people tend to view it. Its not, you will always think about it after the fact. Little things will make you emotional, like babies familys maybe when your child would have been born or later in life when you dicide to start having a family you will think back to it, also wonder if having it complicated anything for you concieving children later. And then theres also sharing this secret with people which you probably wont want to do so its alot to hold in inside and deal with all alone. Its alot to think about, Im glad I did it because I was young and had no sorce of income and quite frankley I'm not strong enough of a person to carry a child for 9 months and then give her to someone else nor would I want her to feel like I abandoned her as I was adopted as a child and know what going through that feels like. If your have the support from your parents and only you know their personalities than you may have a great environment to keep and raise the child until you can get on your feet and out on your own. Good luck with everything you have a tough choice to make. I hope my imput helped you a little.

Answer 4

Abortion is a very personal decision and can have effects such as severe depression and guilt. I had one and I feel that it was the right decision at the time. I have one child with another on the way. My friend recently gave up her son for adoption, and made a childless couple very happy. If I had to do it over again I would opt with adoption. There are so many people that want a child that cannot get pregnant. Weigh your options, but make sure if you decide abortion to do it before 15 weeks because once you feel the baby move it will be harder. Good luck with your decision

Answer 5

you posted this question on here so I think deep down you know that having an abortion is wrong. personally i'm against abortion because i feel life begins as soon as your pregnant. that is when the baby get its soul. so to me when someone has an abortion they are killing a living, breathing person... no matter how small or underdeveloped it is. And they develop faster then you realize... because after a few weeks they almost look like a regular baby, have a hearbeat, move around and all that good stuff. i know its hard to tell your parents but i think whatever your decision you should tell them. remember that they love you and will help you out no matter what. they might even give you good advice. if you don't want to keep the baby you should seriously consider giving the baby up for adoption because there are so many parents out there who can't have children and desperately want one. why would you want to deprive your child of living life? of going to school... having a future.... being on this Earth... please don't deprive your child of this miracle. you will regret if forever if you get an abortion.

Answer 6

Ultimately it is your choice. I am for abortion, but that is only my opinion, so it should not affect how you would think on it. If I were in your situation, I would try to look at different options about pregnancies. Abortion is a good method to use because you don't have to have your baby if you don't want to. You don't have to go through nine months worth of doctors appointments and the baby kicking you in the stomach while you are sleeping. Another option I would suggest is adoption. You can give your child up, not having to worry about the responsibilities ahead of you with a kid. But with this, I would caution you that the foster care system is not really great these days, so read up on this. But the first thing I know you should do is talk to your parents. They need to be notified of this. If they try to force you to do anything with your child, remember that you can make your own decisions. They cannot force you to give your child away if you do not want that to happen. If you genuinely in your heart want to keep this baby, then go for it. Just know, with the baby you need to have more determination, to know you want to achieve your goals.

Answer 7

Adoption: if you had the baby, then had to give it up, it would go to an adoption agency or an orphanage. but what if they couldnt find a home? they would keep the baby and raise it till it's old enough to be out on their own. (some orohanages do do this)

Abortion: could you go through with it? even though you (technically) are kinda saving it by killing it

Keep it: your parents could help you raise it (if they arent mad) but what about college (if youre not already there and gone) you have your whole life ahead of you.

Finally: its your choice
i dont know if that helped or just made it worse

Answer 8

You will probably one day regret having an abortion, you will never regret having your baby. Work hard, finish school and you can provide a good life for your baby. There is adoption also, and even open adoption where you can still be a part of the babies life. You can even choose the parents.

Answer 9

abortion is a personal choice. i'm in favour of teenage abortion rights, however, abortions can lead to some mental problem. your body is not ment to lose a child that it is carrying-that's why people who miscarry are generally depressed afterwards. you have to be careful. if you do get an abortion (if you're pregnant) then see your school counselor. make sure that you are okay. in the state of california (if you live here) it's legal for a minor to get an abortion w/o parental notification. the thing is-you have to make the correct choice for you, we can't do it. i would have gotten an abortion but as an adult isn't not for me. it all depends on how you see it, and what's the best choice for you. planned parenthood can counsel you on making the correct choice for you. look them up.

Answer 10

That's a really tough situation, and I'm sorry you have to face it.

I think if you feel like you can go to full term and give it up for adoption, you should. There are a lot of couples out there who can't have babies just waiting for the opportunity to adopt. It will be hard to tell your parents, but they will forgive you, and they can probably help you find the best way to give it up, and help you with medical care and other things you'll need.

I'm afraid girls who have abortions are often sad and regretful later. It seems like the easy way out, but you'll always remember it.