How can I ask my Fiancee, in the kindest way possible, that I want to sign a PRENUP with her?

Answer 1

'honey, I know we have true love and all, but just to exclude the possibility that you are a money-grabbing whore I have this contract here that I would like you to sign'.

Please post the video on youtube.

Answer 2

LOL! So are you just getting married to be married for a little bit and then move onto your next wife? This is hilarious. You obviously don't think you or your fiance will take your marriage vows seriously. Think about what you're asking her. It's stupid, you shouldn't get married and she should have a brain for not marrying you. Hey honey, I love you, but I want a prenup. If I was her, I'd yank that ring off and walk my *** the other way and never look back. No one cares about their marriage vows or their commitment to each other. You're setting yourself up for failure and by thinking that something will happen it will. Do all of us a favor and stay away from marriage. Do you read the Bible? I'm thinking no. If you haven't, you might wanna check it out. It'd give you some valuable advice instead of getting a prenup! Pathetic! What a retarded question. Why even ask?

Answer 3

There is no kind way to say "Look, I think I love you, but just in case that changes, can I make sure I get the house and the car?"

If you're sure she's "The One", there's no need for a prenup. There's always couples therapy if you run into a problem together.

Answer 4

Tell her to Sign-up or Break up! LOL ... just kidding!

Let her know....or remind her that you have been hurt in the past....or have seen others go through painful relationships. (I assume this must be your frame of mind.)

Also let her know that statistically, relationships don't last anymore......

Then hold her hands, look straight into her eyes and with all sincerity, tell her that for HER own protection and comfort, you'd like to lay out the facts in a prenup to keep things legal and aboveboard in the UNLIKELY event something should happen to the marriage.

Good Luck!

C-F

Answer 5

If you have financial assets to protect then its understandable and you could explain in very technical terms even saying that if the tables were turned you'd expect her to want one. On the other hand getting a prenup is like divorce insurance, and why has this never been discussed before? These are things you talk about before you give her the ring ehen you're getting to know eachother. It's too late now, I'd blame it on my lawyer.

Answer 6

Add it to your pre-wedding checklist, as one more benign thing to check off.

Say, "I know we both have worked hard to get where we are, so I have covered the issue about protecting our assets". Tell her you have done all the work, and that she can speak with your lawyer if she has any questions.

Overall, a lot of couple's do this nowdays, especially if one makes a large salary, and the other does not.

I also have to point out that a) If you think she may take your money and run, maybe you shouldn't be marrying her, and b) If she is your loving wife for 15 years and bears your children, maybe she IS entitled to 50% of your assets, especially if you initiate the divorce.

If she is smart, she will ask for an exception-If you cheat, you will pay.

Answer 7

Good question, and one that has caused much trouble with many couples. One argument is that if you don't trust her to "do the right thing", why get married in the first place. But there is a reality here; around 63% of first marriages end in divorce, 70% of second marriages ditto. Statistically, your first marriage has only a 37% chance of success...so a pre-nuptual makes statistical sense. Also, much will depend on which state you're in. Community property state? If so, pretty tough to beat the cp laws with a pre-nup. Are you planning on children? If so, might make sense to agree in advance about specific provisions for any children. Also, to be valid, pre-nups require that BOTH parties have full legal advice. So this is going to be expensive. Good luck with this one.

Answer 8

amazing how all the women answering this question take it so personally and can't wait to take their pound of flesh from this poor guy. sign it or don't, it's up to you. he has a valid concern about his stuff and divorce settlements as done by a court and lawyers are DEFINITELY going to be unpleasant for both of you. sign it if you want, but have a lawyer look at it and make suggestions. Ideally both of you should independently have lawyers look at it--after all if this is just some garbage piece of paper that he wrote himself it is highly likely that he has not considered every issue and it is possible that the entire thing is unenforceable. This does not mean that you are in imminent danger of getting a divorce. A man has a legitimate right to figure out in advance what is going to happen in the case of a divorce--and you also have that right. This can be mutually beneficial because in the event of a divorce this should simplify things. Also both of you might like the certainty of having accounted for everything in advance. Completely legitimate planning move for both of you. I wouldn't just sign the stupid piece of paper, no way. You have to get an attorney's opinion about this. And so should he. good luck. p.s. The underlying message of him asking you to sign this is--I want to be sure everything is okay. The underlying message of your saying you refuse to sign this is--I AM going to divorce you, and you better watch out. The underlying message of your saying "I am going to take this to a lawyer" is I understand that this is important, and we have to proceed carefully, and there are important implications to this that we need to consider. He might not like your taking his post-nup to a lawyer but you absolutely positively have every right. Should not be the same lawyer for both of you, because there might be a conflict of interest. Look for someone who specializes in family law, not some family friend corporate lawyer or bankruptcy lawyer or some sheise. p.p.s. and this absolutely does not mean that the marriage was doomed from the start!

Answer 9

If you are successful and she is not, you might just say honey I love you but I really feel I need a pre-nup, I would also recommend that after a certain # of years that the pre-nup would be void, or a percent after so many years until the pre-nup is void. Say after 5 years then 10 then 20 etc. This way you are saying I love you, but I still have to protect myself unfortunately because of the society we are in, someone would probably help you bring me through the ringer if something ever happened, so this is for my protection and to also let you know that it will become void after x amount of years. Iam not sure how else to tell you. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I know it's old school, but if you need a prenup, is this a person you want to marry?
Trust me, once you have kids, the money will be a LOT less important and if problems the kids and you would really suffer and there's no "prekidnup" so to speak.
Looking back would you think "I knew she wasn't trustworthy"??

Answer 11

Just because you will have a pre-nup, doesnt mean you wont have to "give" her anything if you break up.

All it means is that you will have to come to an agreement before you marry, and she may not agree to what you want....................because whilst you are married everything is considered matrimonial assets, and should be split 50/50.....it has to include inflation ...and it also has to include the best interest of both parties etc......circumstances can change throughout a marrigae, which can also make the pre-nup nil and void.