Some people that i have met are very cautious of me because they say i'm too nice!......What is wrong with being nice?.....i'm up for a laugh, can be sarcastic and sad but i always try to be nice it's the way i was bought up.
2007-01-02 18:33:06 · 20 answers · asked by crazeeladee no more 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm nowhere near perfect and haven't said that i am....i also don't have hidden agenda's....i used this Q to fnd out why ppl are like they are and i have some of the A's i was looking for
2007-01-02 18:51:11 · update #1
I am very outspoken and not afraid to speak my mind........I just like getting on with ppl......why is that so bad.....and btw, I really do not lack confidence
2007-01-02 19:26:03 · update #2
There is nothing wrong with just being nice. The reason people always think there are hidden agendas is because its hard to come by a genuinely nice person these days.
Don't change ever and if people find the fact that you are nice hard to comprehend then it is their loss hun.
I'm glad there are still nice people out there, good for you!
:o)
2007-01-02 22:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by BlondeBabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In our very fast paced society, we are creating an eat or be eatin mentality - survival of the smartest. People have more hidden agendas today than say 50 years ago when you kinda knew where you were going as you grew up - follow in your parents footsteps so to speak or a job - there was alot more security then and more trust as a result - one of the reasons seniors are as trusting as they are.
So being too nice raises alarm bells for many people. Time to be a ***** - just kidding. People that have been around the block and hold high positions like tough, aggressive people who speak their minds - the lack of fear usually means they are being themselves and that builds trust. This is the case with most people. I personally don't trust people who are to nice and never challenge what I say.
An old saying - Be Tough not Hard. If people are saying you are too nice, maybe they are really saying you should be standing up fpr yourself more often or that you need to feel your feelings more. Many things can be part of this - only you know.
2007-01-03 03:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
from one z to another,lol, this is my take based on what i've experienced.
Your description of nice is one o two things, although i don't know you, so i don't know which one it is..
1. Your nice in the "dont swear, don't ask the hardball questions, ect."
2. YOur just a guenuinely caring person, and treat poeple well, sometimes above and beyond...
SO depending on which it is (and it could even be a combination, idk, idk you) It could be people are uncomfortable around you as they feel they have to elevate their standards, or they are not used to the kind of attitude you have and behavior, and thus be somewhat cautions or uncomfortable again.
As far as I go, I stil have trouble sometimes when dealing with nice people,. the gueniuinly nice people. Because I have been surrounded b shitty poeple most of my life, so when I encounter someone who treates me very well, I typically keep my distance, since Its not a feeling I'm used to, and maybe I'ma slight bit afraid the person mght screw me over, so I want to keep some distance in case that happens. Were talking friendship, relationship, or anything else.
2007-01-03 06:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very modest....People are put off by people being "too nice" because it seems like they are trying to hide/mask hidden intentions. It is a trick several serial killers have used to lure there victims into a sense of false security. Also some people will try to take advantage of someone who is to kind/nice, They will see your kindness as a weakness that can be exploited.
2007-01-03 02:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't believe that us kinda people are genuine, they look for flaws in us, that arent really there. Maybe they're kinda envious because you have such a good auora around you and have a positive effect on others. Dont worry about people who try to undermine this about you, this is the way you are, and like many others - be proud.
2007-01-03 04:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people today just cant take nething on face value, and being nice is just 'unbelivable'...so they try to figure u out...ppl try to find out ur hidden agenda....also ppl may feel ur putting up an act bcoz'no one can b sooo nice' sugary nice is not always so gud.....me for one cant say m very nice...mnasty at times tooo n i like it tht way....
2007-01-03 02:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being nice in a sarcastic way, is not being nice. The world does not revolve around you, so drop the sarcastic, be truly nice and maybe people will stop being cautious of you. Apparently , you think sarcastic is nice and they do not. They probably have good reason to be cautious, and I think there is more to all this than you are saying here.
2007-01-03 02:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm also excessively nice at times, but I think I'm tolerated more because I'm a guy. Girls just have it tougher. You gotta be in the pack!
I recently asked a Yahoo Answers question which was really more of a competition: I'm going to award a prize to the person who most resembles his or her avatar. Out of 16 replies, 2 people took me seriously, providing a link to a real photo, and the rest talked about the possibilties of my being a nail bomber, hacker, etc! Society is overly suspicious now.
2007-01-03 02:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by rage997 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
zena u see that ur nice but make a habit to make ur self look from all sides nice and better, everybody try their level best to be nice in all means but no-one's perfect since we all are human beings and we learn from are mistakes, so jus try to over come ur scary laugh into a coolsmile by daily practicing in front of mirror .
2007-01-03 02:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by sexy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hear you on this one ...I have the same problem .I say be who your are and not live by anyone else's standards..Considering that most people come from broken homes with no people skills.
2007-01-03 03:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Gentelman 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋