Whom will u love n care for - ur newly married wife or our mom? plz reply
2007-01-02 18:24:37 · 33 answers · asked by Kirsten 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can care for both...just dont place one above the other...and they should never put you in a position that you might have to do so. If they wanna be petty with each other let them deal with it but DONT take sides it will make it worse
2007-01-02 18:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loving wife and a loving mother would understand the two different types of love and there should be no conflict. However, some wives and some mothers make it a battle; neither is right to do so. They are equally important in separate ways and more time should be spent with the wife. If the Mom requires the reasonable help of her son, he should help and have the support of his wife. It's all about communication.
2007-01-02 18:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by rng4alngtyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old mom will always be your old mom. Your new wife may not always be your wife.
Interesting question. Is your new wife asking you to make a choice? She really shouldn't ask for the choice. If Mom and new wife don't get along, and if you and wife live near mom, seriously consider counseling. Mom and wife don't have to love each other, just tolerate each other. What are you going to do when mom's grandchildren come along? Exclude mom because wife doesn't like her? Mom's going to cause problems about that. This is not a choice anyone should have to make...so refuse to make the choice and get all three of you into counseling.
2007-01-02 18:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God says to love your wife like Jesus does God. Aso the wife does the same and has to listen to her husband. Thats a laugh here in the USA.Your mother is a different love and you are to respect and love here or honor her.You will always care for both.If your newly wife has a problem with your mom, then tell her as it is. Your mother cared for you and now it is your turn. Thats the problem with Familys now.
2007-01-02 18:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife is suppose to be first in your life, only one you should love more than your wife is Jesus Christ. Did you marriage vows not state, that you will forsake all others. Your newly married wife should be first. You will always love your Mom, that is a different kind of love anyway. You should never be put in a position to make that choice , it is not fair to you.
2007-01-02 18:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming there's more to the story than you're letting on.
First off, if either one is asking you that question, you need to set them straight. Love has many types, and the love for your mother or new wife are different kinds of love.
If they are making you choose between the other, some serious talks need to happen. These women are both your family and need to make peace with eachother.
2007-01-02 18:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Josie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man should love his WIFE and MOTHER. But he has to remember this....he CHOSE to marry his wife and he needs to stick to his marriage vows and stand by her no matter what. I know that his mother brought him into this world and raised him and whatnot, but he needs to realize that his wife is his new family now. BUT, on the other hand, the WIFE and MOTHER both need to realize that the guy needs BOTH of them in his life. He shouldn't have to choose between the two. They should both love him enough not to make him choose. I couldn't choose between my dad and my husband. That would be really hard.
2007-01-02 19:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by mother_of_a_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each has her own individual place. One has given birth to you raised you and deserves that respect, the other will tomorrow make your home and be the mother of your children.
Give each their importance and create a balance without making either party feel more superior or inferior.
And teach your wife the same. Respect for an elder person, but not to the point of being bullied or mistreated.
2007-01-02 18:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by shahpaarw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not really care what people say that you should love your husband/wife more for me I will love my husband but I will always love my parents a little more because they raised me and gave me everything I wanted and they will always be there for me and forgive me more and most importantly they will never hurt me because some husbands or wives cheat on you. They will always be important but when I have kids I will put them first but the love for my parents will be the same. It's my opinion
2015-08-08 12:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ivette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose the WIFE or you won't have one for long- the Bible says to cling to each other - not to mommy dearest.
You want heartache that never ends- choose mom.
You want your wife to feel honored and loved and cheerished? Choose her. Do you want your wife to fulfill all your desires? She will never do it if you choose mom.
Parents are suppose to back out and let the spouse take over, if they are wise. Other wise- they are controlling and will never have a relationship the way it is suppose to be, they will always be interferring.
2007-01-02 18:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by northville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to pick. If your wife loves you, she will respect that you love and care for your mother. If a guy asked me to choose between him and my family, it would be a no-brainer---my family. That being said, a man needs to respect his wife and his relationship with her. It can be difficult to keep everyone happy, but if a wife is supportive about a man's relationship with his mother, it will make him love her more.
2007-01-02 18:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by schweetums 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋