11 month old bitng when angry?

Question

I have an 11 month old who screams, kicks and bites when angry. I know shes too young to understand, but it only happens when shes mad. What can I do about this?

Answer 1

I disagree that she's too young to understand. but she may not understand that she's hurting someone in the process of trying to get her way. She's using a tantrum to try to get your compliance.

If a swat on the hand and a gentle explanation of why she got it doesn't help, then I definitely suggest a nibble back as far as the biting goes.

I was bitten once by each of my children. I bit back. Just hard enough to apply discomfort and wahlah, the end of that. Followed by an explanation of why I returned the favor.

The other part of the tantrum...well walk off and leave her there in a safe place to roll, kick, scream, whatever. She's performing and every performer needs/wants an audience. If she has no one to act up in front of and get her way, she'll realize she's wasting her time and energy.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First you have to ask yourself why is she getting angry. How can we help her with her frustration. I imagine it must be tough when you don't have any words to express yourself. It must be frustrating to not be able to speak and get your needs met. If this child is kicking screaming and biting its probably because she is being taken away from an activity or toy she wasn't ready to let go. If you observe her and the situation you may be able to understand her by respecting her need and talking to her constantly so she could start acquiring vocabulary. Interact with her and play with her 15 minutes a day. Maybe all she needs is attenion and understanding. Screaming, kicking and biteing is a sign of extreme frustration and sould be paid attention to. Find out the source of frustion. And try to minimize it by helping her cope. I would be able to give you more feed back if you you descibe in more detail the situation that makes her kick, scream and bite. It seams like you are more focused on the behavior than the cause. If you focuse on the cause and solve the problem you would be able to eliminate the behavior. Remember children don't just kick, scream, and bite for no reason.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

She knows perfectly well what she is doing. My 10 month old screams when angry too. However, about the biting, my younger sister did that when she was a baby as well. My mom would "bite" her back. Not literally, just hard enough to make her realize that biting and disobeying brings pain. I must say that it did work.

Answer 5

I used to be an assistant director of a day care. In the Infant room, this was common. Kids this age are just getting to the age that they can use SOME words, but communication is still difficult. Especially when they are emotional. I used to tell the infants "NO biting." in a firm voice. Then I would tell them "biting hurts". We would also tell them that they could be mad, but they can't bite. Sometimes, I would ask. "Are you MAD? Then you can tell me, say teacher, I'm MAD." I would usually talk very grouchy when I was telling them to tell me "I'm MAD" I would scrunch my face up and show them while I said the words. Remember that kids sometimes don't have the words that they need to tell you. When you see something, and notice things, give them the words to tell you. "Do you need help? Then you can say- help please!" Things like this make a huge difference! If you have access to learning some simple sign language, babies are capable of learning sign before they can talk. This is a great tool to use in concert with verbal instruction. simple one word signs like more, please, thank you, cup, toy, done. They are huge in helping kids to master communication.

while I never did this at the day care, I totally agree that a lot of kids don't relise that biting hurts until they have been bitten. a light bite from you would not hurt.

Answer 6

When my two older boys were babies, they tried biting whoever they were playing with to win whatever dispute they were having. I only had to do this once with each of them: I plucked the little guy out of the fight and bit him lightly on the arm (no marks, but I made the point). They looked really surprised, but never did bit anyone again.

I don't think they understood that it hurt until they received a bite themselves.

I wouldn't bite somebody else's kid, though.

Answer 7

Are you using gel for her gums? She is still cuting teeth and may not feel well.