Plus you don't have any job and you are not citizen of this country you can't get a real job either...
what do you do?
2007-01-02 17:38:36 · 22 answers · asked by JUST ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him go. If need be you can go home.. but either way.. dont stay with him for the worng reasons!
2007-01-02 17:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really wants to leave I don't know how you could stop him.
You should consult an immigration attorney if you want to stay in the country and find out what kind of visa will allow you to work. A friend of mine was in a similar situation, and she went back to college (student visa) and is living with her brother's family until she can obtain the right visa for full time work. Meanwhile, she works part time and also does babysitting. She can afford it with her family's help, but if you are all alone in the country it might not be possible.
You should contact people in your community who are from your country if that's possible. Some cultures discard the woman if the man leaves and I hope that is not the case with you.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-03 01:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Meira 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would first say you should be seeking out the way to be made a permanent citizen of this country. That way you will know you can survive on your own.
After that everything else will come together. You can get work and then a place to live. After you've done that, if you choose to seek counseling with your husband that would be great if he's willing. If he's not willing then you don't have to worry so much about his leaving.
2007-01-03 01:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a good divorce attorney and it is going to depend on where you live now, where you are from and how long and where you were married, but in many countries a marriage is a fast lane to Visa, which would allow you to stay and legally obtain work.
Also, as you have not been working, you would be entitled to temporary maintenance/spousal support for a few months while you get on your feet from your soon to be ex-hubby. A good attorney will go after your husband for your divorce and attorney fees, so don't let that be a deterrant to trying to find one.
2007-01-04 05:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is a citizen and you are not and married him anyway, then you could have a problem. What do you mean, you can not get a real job. There are lots of jobs, plenty illegals get jobs. If he wants to leave, probably can not stop him, so I say, get a job and learn how to take care of yourself. You did not state why he wants to leave. All I can say is, sh*t happens.
2007-01-03 01:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First pray.....then take steps to get on your own two feet. Apply for citizenship, find a friend or family member to live with, make a living by doing under the table jobs, maybe try cleaning, babysitting, or cooking. Go to school so that you can earn a degree in order to get a better career. It will be hard, but you can do it. The sky's the limit.
2007-01-03 01:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by rememberns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he is leaving ???????
Talk to him ask him questions, don`t lose your temper.
At the end of the day if someone wants to go there is nothing anyone can do to stop them. If he wants to go after you`ve spoken to him, then you have to let him go.
You need to go to an advice place and see what your options are.
It maybe that you`ll have to go back to the country that you came from, then again you might not have to.
without a job you`ll have to get some advice, you have not a lot of choices at the moment.
2007-01-03 03:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to not let the door kick him in the a** on the way out.
Get a job, get your citizenship, get an education, take him to court for financial support since he is responsible for you.
Try to find a place you can afford.
If not then go back home.
2007-01-03 04:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to leave then you are better of with out him as an unhappy marriage sucks.
If you want to stay in the country then you should start the proceedings and in the meantime ,baby sitting,housecleaning will help.
Friends can also be of great help.
2007-01-03 01:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Susan M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, STOP DEPENDING ON YOUR HUSBAND IF HIS A** WANT TO LEAVE AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU
THEN WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO HOLD ON TO SOMETHING THAT IS NOT GOING TO LOVE YOU BACK? GET
YOURSELF A JOB QUICK, SOMETHING THAT WILL PAY FOR YOUR BILLS AND WOULD PUT FOOD ON THE TABLE. NEVER DEPEND ON ANY MAN, MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY
FOR YOUR KIDS (IF ANY) AND FOR YOURSELF. JUST DO
WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO SURVIVE. I'M A SINGLE PARENT
AND I KICKED MY DAUGHTERS DAD OUT OF THE APT.
A LONG TIME AGO AND I RAISED HER BY MYSELF. I WORKED. THE ONLY DIFFERNCE BETWEEN YOU AND I
IS THAT I WAS BORN IN THE USA, SO AS FOR YOU, DO
WHAT IT TAKES FIND A JOB.
2007-01-03 01:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe u r a brave lady, show him the door, he really isnt worth it. Would you want to stay with a man who just leaves u like this.
Get up lady, the world has a lot to show. Yes you will be all heart broken and weak but dont let it get you!
I am sure you are confident enough to get on with ur life!
2007-01-03 01:43:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋