I think i am a bit jealous of my brother and a bit angry because he is getting married, has a house and spends alot of time with his fiancee. We used to hang out all the time and now that hes married things have changed and we dont really spend time together. I now feel angry and i act like i hate them both. How can i stop feeling this way.
2007-01-02 17:27:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
u just gotta realize he is grown up now and starting a new life. ur always guna be there, ur his brother and best friend. just hang in there, and just be happy for him! this is an exciting time in his life, u cant be selfish because he isnt spending as much time with u.. u know? good luck, hang in there!!
2007-01-02 17:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by jerseygirl<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about getting with your brother and asking him to meet with you like 2 -3 days a month were the two of you and only you hang out...just let your brother know that you would like some one on one time with him and then once the feeling of being hurt and angry with him start involving his wife that way you can slowly get use to the idea that he has a family other then what it use to be like when u were younger ...aslo try hanging out with your other friends more and it will help the feeling angry move away . this helped me hope it does the same for you
2007-01-03 01:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by s_collison20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you two use to be really close and I can understand why you feel jealous. But I think you need to let your brother know that you miss spending time together. And that even though he is getting married you still want to stay close, a good brother would understand.
2007-01-03 02:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by dandanthecranman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to stop hanging out with him. You can't just sit on the couch scratching yourselves though. You now have to do things with him AND his wife. It can still be fun. There's plenty of things that a married couple and a single guy can do.
For the longest time after my brother got married, we would rarely see each other (once or twice a year even though we lived in the same town). However, things changed after I got married. Now we do "family" things.
You got to remember that he's got a new family now. His focus is on the family he's trying to develop.
You need to be a supporting family member to your flesh and blood and swallow the anger you have.
You've spent all your life with him up to now. Allow others to join in and experience the joys your brother has to give.
Love him for who he is, not for what he can give you. Just because he's married doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He still does. He just loves his wife also.
Trust me, after you get married also, your frame of mind will change. You then cherish all that you've got and you will cherish your family much more.
2007-01-03 01:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You are jealous. later when you get married how would you feel if he treated you like that. Be a adult, the guy has a right to his own life, does not mean he is not still your brother. I bet your brother feels bad that you treat him like this. He will always be your brother, grow up and stop treating him like that. It is your fault, not his. He is doing what men normally do. He would probably feel better if you change your spoil brat ways and be nice to him and his lady, could end up being a very happy family. Stop the jealously, you only hurting yourself.
2007-01-03 01:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you invite your brother for lunch and have a man to man talk. Just tell him how you feel. No need to be angry though. Be happy for your brother that he's happy. Ask if you and him can do things together once in awhile.
2007-01-03 01:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to accept him for his decision and respect him for it.
And when you can look at the mirror's reflection and do what is right, then you will know.
Until then, only you can choose what you want to do with those feelings.
Keep the faith, you cannot chose your family, only your friends and family is the most important thing there is. Make peace with yourself and then you will be able to find peace with the family situation.
2007-01-03 01:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Angela W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sweet, wish my sibling will love me like that... but, you have to accept he has his own life now. If you love him then you should be happy for him. One day you'll find someone and spend most of your time with your partner, too.
2007-01-03 01:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and be happy for your brother. If the shoe was on the other foot, don't you think he would be happy for you?
2007-01-03 01:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot her have him come visit u in prision
2007-01-03 01:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋