We have been separated for over two years. Divorce is in the future...for sure. But we have two small boys and I find out tonight he is having some health problems and he was a bit dramatic about it, but he did not say what it was. Now he is not a dramatic person and he has never been very open about things. And though we are getting divorced, I still have a lot of love for him. I care for him and I want him to be happy and healthy. Do I have a right to push for knowledge on what is going on? Do I have an obligation to be there for him...not that it feels like one. I would in a minute!
2007-01-02 17:26:02 · 5 answers · asked by sammiejane67 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally can't pick a best answer here. You all make some good points about what some concerns should be. I will tell you that I found out it is potentially very serious (life threatening). However not in the way of AIDS or any STD. I never thought that anyway. And we have not been exposed to each other in that sense since before we even separated. I have gotten in touch with my lawyer and I am going to push things through. I did have a friend say that I can still be there for him as much as I am pre-divorce. Makes sense to me. Anyway, thanks to all for your input.
2007-01-05 02:55:15 · update #1
As his spouse with an insurable interest, you have the right to contact his dr to determine if this is genuine. If you have not started legal divorce proceedings, his health issue may block any divorce action. You are obligated as much as any spouse for his medical bills because you are still married to him. Contact his doctor and get the truth ..
2007-01-02 17:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You share one thing, two beautiful boys. Would you want them to grow up and know that you didn't do everything you could for their father? A friend in need..........yes, push the envelope, for your son's sake, you deserve to know what is wrong. is it hereditary for example? is this something that your boys may come down with in the future? Is it a sexually transmitted desease, therefore, is there a chance you could be effetcted too? Talk to him like a friend, and the mother of your children together!
2007-01-03 01:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be playing you for sympathy. so make sure he doesn't. say you want to meet his Doctor and see what is going on, I mean, if it's terminal cancer it's one thing, but what if it's HIV OR AIDS? do you want yourself or your kids exposed?
Maybe he is trying to get out of child support and alimony.
Find out the truth in no uncertain terms. If he does not want you to meet his treating physician then he is full of it and you are being played
Be smart and careful.
2007-01-02 17:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST ASK HIM IF HE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT IT. YOU DON'T NEED TO BE THERE FOR HIM UNLESS HE WANTS YOU TO BE. SOUNDS STRANGE THOUGH BECAUSE YOU SAID HE NORMALLY ISN'T DRAMATIC. MAYBE SOMETHING IS REALLY WRONG WITH HIM. HAS HE SEEN A DOCTOR? I HOPE HE ISN'T PLAYING YOU, THAT WOULD BE CRUEL. IF HE IS PLAYING YOU, TELL HIM THE ONLY SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEM IS HIS HEAD AND HE DEFINITLY NEEDS TO HAVE THAT EXAMINED. STAY SAFE THOUGH IN CASE IT IS A STD.
2007-01-02 17:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by REBECCA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take out some life insurance while you can. You have 2 children to worry about. They are your only role.
2007-01-02 17:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋