would you let your mother in law live with you? What if your wife pressured you to do it because they are il?

Answer 1

If her mom is ill you definitely should take a good care of her. If my husband refused to move in my ill mother, I would threw him out in a second. People must take a good care of their parents and of each others' in-laws. This is exactly what makes this world go around.

Answer 2

Living and staying are two totally different things I know. We had my mother in law stay with us when she fell and fractured her knee. I took care of her 24/7 for 2 weeks. It was the best time I ever had with her, of course I knew it was temporary, but we became close and good friends. Prior to her staying with us, I was intimidated by her. We had nothing in common. She seemed so old to me at the time and I had no idea what I could do or say to her for an extended stay. She became my Ali, my friend, my confidante, she told me how to perfect a meal and sew a seam, while she read her bible I did up the housework. My embarrassment at taking her to the bathroom soon became our hour of laughter and jokes. I don't know if you would have this same experience as I did but someone never knows what the outcome of a situation will be until they have been there. And for the record, I too was pressured in the situation in the beginning. Good luck to all of you in your decision

Answer 3

I don't think there should be any pressure. I would do it in a heartbeat. I've told my wife her mother could come with us. My wife has also agreed that my mother could come live with us. Would her mother have offered YOU a place to stay if needed when and if she was able? Let her stay. I feel like Dear Abby sometimes.

Answer 4

You must know what would have happened to you if your mother left you when you are 2 years old. Think. Also when you have kids and when you age how would you feel when you are refused by your kids? So go straight and give her VVVVIP care at your home.

Answer 5

Your mother and mother-in-law should be in the same class. If it was your mother, what would you do, do the same for your MIL.
Just as your wife adopts your parents as her own, so should you.

You should take care of them, when they are ill. You should not be pressurised to do that. You should volunteer.

The children should care for their parents and more so when they are ill.

Answer 6

I think you should help the parents.Doesn't matter yours ,or your wife's.But everything has a limit.If she is too IL(i mean pupping in her pants)then i wouldn't.Help her,you never know what life has stored for you.All of us are going to get there someday.

Answer 7

Now what if this was your parents you were talking about????

Is your wife supposed to stand by and not care for her ill parents. She could always move in with them to care for them. Which would you rather have, wife home, with a little more responsibility, and happy knowing her parents are safe. Or, you caring for yourself while she stays with them to care for them.

Answer 8

I took care of my mother while she had cancer and she passed away in our home. My husband loved her enough to let me do that for her. I told him if his mother ever needed care that I would certainly do the same for her. She died in surgery, but I would have been honored to care for her in her time of need if that's what it took.

Answer 9

No way I would ever let her live with me. Thankfully my hubby feels the same way about this subject.

BTW to the 2 people that gave me the thumbs down. This "woman" only ever talks to her son when she wants something from him. If she doesn't need something from him, he never hears from her or returns his phone calls. This women also holds it over his head that no one knows who his real father is and she herself can not keep her story straight about who it is.

Answer 10

NO NO NO!!! Mistake! Never have a mother or father live with you and your wife. Bad news!!