during visitation, do you think the judge will be on my side? Especially because this girlfriend is someone related to me?
2007-01-02 17:06:24 · 14 answers · asked by Miss k 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, they are his children. I just don't want anymore pain for my children, they will get really confused.
2007-01-02 17:12:42 · update #1
So emotional harm is not enough?
2007-01-02 17:18:59 · update #2
She's always had her attitude problem. But that's what I get for letting people stay at my house.....never will I do that again.
2007-01-02 17:29:23 · update #3
I knew someone once who had it put in his custody/divorce agreement that both he and his ex wife had to have permission for any girlfriends or boyfriends to be allowed around their children. You can do this too...you can demand that it be put in the divorce/custody agreement.
If I were you, I'd start acting like everything's fine w/ who he is dating...for the time being...then after he signs the decree, you can then just fail to give him permission to have his girlfriend around your kids.
2007-01-02 17:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by brittany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do accept ask. You can ask your soon-to-be ex if ya'll can have a "time" limit. If the relationship lasts at least 6 months, then you both will agree to slowly integrate a new person into the children's lives. They need time to adjust and you don't want them getting attached to someone who might be just another ex. See if he will have lunch and agree to it. Also, you might want to suggest things such as what the children will call these people. By their first names, or like Miss Lisa, or Mr. Gary, etc. If he won't agree, and is not being open about the idea, tell him you are going to address it with the judge. Point out that the children are already emotionally distressed because of the divorce, but to throw another person into the mix so soon could have serious ramifications for them. The judge has final authority, but you could be getting other issues regarding his freedom of choice, etc.
2007-01-02 17:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless your ex's new partner is a drug dealer, violent alcoholic or otherwise represents a threat to your children's safety, I don't think any judge will tell your ex she cannot be present when he has the kids for visitation. Just because your kids will be confused by the family relations involved is not a good enough reason. All kids who experience their parents breaking up and finding new partners probably go through some stages of confusion.
2007-01-02 17:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Legally you can not dictate who your soon to be Ex has a relationship with. If there is a problem with someone that is around your husband the courts would not permit him to have any unsupervised visitation with the kids. Unless she is a child molester or a drug addict I doubt the judge would care less about how you feel concerning this female
2007-01-02 17:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I am so sorry to hear that you have been betrayed by both your ex husband and a family member!
I would think that since she is related to you that you might have some dirt on her.
Has she always been a dirty snake?
Obviously your ex and your relative have very low moral character and maybe that will count for something in court.
KUDOS to you for thinking of your kids first, it seems like you are the only one doing so.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
2007-01-02 17:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is somehow unfit to be around the children then no the judge can not order someone away from your children just because you don't want them around them.
2007-01-02 20:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is related to you, she is related to your kids. Sounds like you are hurt and trying to punish him/and your kids too. What comes around goes around! If she is not a stand up woman, they will soon find out and appreciate you for you. IF however, your kids do not want to be around her, then you need to make that decision for what is best for your children. Try and keep your personal feelings out of this, and do what is best for them.
2007-01-03 01:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that the new girlfriend wants to be around your kids.........?
It's not their fault that the three of you can't work things out. If your kids are smart and mature, they will eventually see and learn for themselves if something is not right with the girlfriend and choose on their own wheter or not they want to spend time with them.
I've seen it happen.
2007-01-02 17:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Summer Breeze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There's nothing you can do about that. I would say the only way the judge would be in your favor is if the woman was abusive or on drugs.
2007-01-02 17:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is messed up on your exes part. Divorcing you and dating your relative. Woah. But i cant answer your question, what does she do to not let your children be around her?
2007-01-02 17:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋