We have been friends for about 6 years now, and both 20 yrs. old. We have already earned our associates and are going for a bachelors degree.
I did initially want to attend the same college as her, but it is more economical for me to go to school closer to home.
I have tried to tell her, but she keeps telling me how happy she will be next Fall and how excited she is to be my roommate. She also keeps showing me the dishes she has bought and other things for the dorm room. I feel horrible because I keep putting off telling her. Does anyone have any advice?
2007-01-02 17:01:09 · 6 answers · asked by JuneBug747 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's tough!!
My suggestion is for you to sit her down and tell her calmly your reasons for not going to the same college as her. Explain how you'd love to be roommates with her and stuff but it's best for you to go to a college that's closer to home due to economical reasons. If that doesn't work, write her a note and tell her that way.
Don't hold off anymore, the sooner she knows the sooner you will be able to actually relax and the sooner she'll be aware of your new plans before it's too late. She may feel hurt, but don't let that you make you feel guilty of changing plans. It's not your fault you had to change your plans. Sometimes people have to face news the hard way and it may be what they want to hear-but that is just how things end up sometimes.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 17:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her a note.
Tell her how sorry you are to disappoint her but that your finances have dictated that you attend such and such school.
Tell her in the note how much you value her friendship and that it is for that reason that you have had a hard time telling her because up until this date you have been searching for a way to come up with the money.
Tell her that you love her (dearly not queerly) and that you would still love to come there and visit her.
Tell her that you were too depressed to face her and that is why you had to write her the note.
If she does not reply in a way that is compassionate, then she really did you a favor because a friend would!
If she understands, your friendship might grow that much stronger.
EIther way, I think you are making a great decision since the two of you together might make it hard to meet others....
2007-01-02 17:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, PLEASE tell her SOON! If she's your best friend indeed, then she'll understand your reasons for going to a different college. Tell her that you badly wanna go to the same college that she'll go to, but you can't and that you're very, very sorry it has to be like this. But I can imagine how hard it'll be for you to tell her and for her to hear it. Just take it off your chest; she's your best friend, so it'll be ok.
Just keep in strong touch once college starts then.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 17:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You by probability drop this piece of paper and he or she would be able to be sure it. Then her thoughts is merely not harm. yet in a distinct way is to assert this without postpone. i don't desire to room with you. yet you desire guts to do this.
2016-10-19 09:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth.And tell her you tried but she wouldn't listen.The sooner the better.If she is your best friend she'll understand.
2007-01-02 17:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u are stuck. but u have 2 options....the first is jus dont hesitate jus go tell her da truth... the 2nd advice is 2 jus go to college and be her roomate.
2007-01-02 17:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋