What are causes and factors for the failure of a marriage?

Answer 1

I often hear that financial difficulty is major reason why couples divorce. A failed marriage may also be the result of infidelity, as well as people just growing apart. A marriage takes a lot of energy in order to be successful. Unfortuantely, it takes virtually no energy in order for it to fail.

Answer 2

I think that for a woman, it would be not feeling loved or a lack of trust through infidelity. Those can be some major hurdles to jump over, but if the husband is unwilling to do his part then a woman will give up and move on.

For a man it seems like a lack of respect or infidelity and finding someone else that treats them like they want to be treated.

Another cause can be abuse whether it is physical, verbal, emotional or sexual. When that happens it makes the relationship unbearable and the other person wants out. It makes the spouse feel badly about themself and disapointed that the person who promised to love them forever has broken their promise.

Marriage is hard work. Love isn't always that feeling you had when you first met. It is a commitment to always put the best interest of your spouse first and living sacrificially for another. It works when both people live like this. Unfortunately we all are selfish and want our own way. Divorce is a very sad thing and can get very ugly with all the emotional hurt that occurs.

Answer 3

People could list hundreds of factors for the failure of a marriage. But, the one that truly makes a marriage a failure is when one or both parties just gives up and quits trying.

Answer 4

Good question, but an easy one. Causes for failure is "lack of knowledge". To be a success at anything, you need to know how it works. Marriage is no different. "love" is not the key ingredient to a successful marriage. Do you know what makes a woman tick? How she thinks? What makes her feel secure? What are her needs? How to make her feel good about herself? What she needs from you? What causes her to feel loved and accepted? Does your wife know how to answer those questions about you? Of course not. So learn how marriage works and what it takes to make your mate feel special and needed and secure. Get with a Marriage counselor. Get in a marriage class and/or a marriage support group. I would recommend a book by Gary Smalley called "Hidden Keys to a loving,lasting marriage". You can get it at most Christian book stores and probably others. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Cheating = Loss of trust.
Broke= Money issues
Children= Pregnant too soon in the relationship
Job= Not enough education to get a decent paying one
Alcohol= Drinking too much
Drugs= Partying all the time
Yelling/Fighting= Lack of Communication
Parents= Interference in the relationship by others
Friends= When more waking hours are spent with them than your spouse and kids
Chores= When your not holding up your end of the work

And today the biggest one I hear the most about is the COMPUTER= Time spent on it versus time spent with your spouse as well as WHO your on it with or gaming time

Answer 6

Loss of that "new" feeling. After being married for a while, you lose the funny feeling in your stomach and you stop thinking everything your spouse does is cute. Some things even become really annoying. If you go to someone else with your complaints or look for that new feeling in someone else, you are just going to go through a vicious cycle.

Marriage should be permanent, with both people committed to making it work no matter what. Divorce shouldn't even be an option.

Answer 7

There are many factors to these.

Causes are issues like, money problems, incompatibility, interefering inlaws, infedelity, and not living up to the vows.
There are probably many more too.
Now, factors, I think it's pretty much the same meaning as a cause., BUT not sure!

Answer 8

Givingup, understanding is the main part. In which both of them failed in the failure of marriage.

Answer 9

Selfishness and waiting for the other person to make an effort. It's called being lazy. It's also called disposable. Marriage is no longer special, it's disposable like an old pair of shoes...It's too bad.

Answer 10

mine went wrong because i was the only one trying. i got tired of asking if i can spend a few bucks on milk or something. i got tired of begging him to be nice to me. i shouldn't have to beg for anything. my failure was, my marriage should have never happened. alcohol played a big factor too, he told me i could spend money or have a say in money when i made as much AS he did. he didn't see it as 50/50. since i left, i have learned to love myself