I have this guy friend that I've known for 9 years, and we've never really been more than friends. But now he has a girlfriend and I'm feeling kinda jealous. I'm starting to like him. I want to tell him, but I'm afraid of how he'll react and I dont want him to treat me any differently. HELP!!!! I need advice!!
PS: He's totally in love (well, I wouldn't really call it LOVE) with this girl, and she's one of my close friends
2007-01-02 16:18:43 · 21 answers · asked by lulumagoogoo@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Back Off
He's your friends guy now!
2007-01-02 16:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you have with him is just a friendship, don't destroy that by telling him that you have feelings for him when he has a girlfriend already. You should have told him a long time ago that you had feelings for him before he found a girlfriend. Don't destroy what he has now, just be a friend and support him.
Don't you think that if he had feelings for you, that he would have made the first move? So do the right thing, leave them both alone....he is happy now that he has found a girlfriend. If you say that you are friends, then treat him like one. (smile)
2007-01-03 00:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really wanna ruin 2 friendships over something that could be done in a month or two. Maybe you are feeling jealous because he is spending less time with you? Wait and see how you feel after they break up, and go from there. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 00:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too at one time had the EXACT same problem. I liked a guy who was my friend, and he started dating one of my really good friends. I debated on telling him for months, but in the end, they broke up, and I was the one still friends with him. If he is happy with her, then you need to let the relationship take it's course, continuing to be his friend. If and when they do break up, THEN take your chance to say something to him. I am still friends with the guy I liked 12 years ago, and she is nowhere to be found, and hasn't been since they broke up 11 years ago. So keep being his friend, and be there for him. I chose to keep my guy as a friend, than nothing at all!!! Just keep your cool and see what happens with them! Good luck to you!
2007-01-03 13:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by candyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a little jealous, just because he has found someone else that he cares about. If you have only been just friends for this long, I would say if you truly had deep feelings for this guy, you would of know it before now. Just be a friend, and be there for him.
2007-01-03 00:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too late to share your feelings now that's he's off the market. Friendship first is one of my mottoes. You can't go wrong treating him like the friend you've always been and who knows? The relationship may or may not work out but it's beyond your control. For now, I'd respect their relationship and continue to be his friend and if you and he are meant-to-be, that will be revealed in due time.
2007-01-03 00:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you screw things up for your friends by saying it. You had nine years where I am sure he was single at one point where you had your shot. I had a similar thing happen but the woman in this case was never single one day I was friends with her, but then she was and well things didnt go so well...leave it alone, don't go try and poach your friend's man, that is wrong...(oh and btw, he is off limits for good even if they break up unless you get consent from your friend to pursue it...)
2007-01-03 00:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm the thing i would probably do is call him and kinda give him clues of how you feel (If you are unconfortable telling him strait out) Then maybey after that talk to his girlfriend this might resolve some of your pressure, just letting them know how you feel, instead of keeping it a secret.- I hope all goes well!....Good Luck : )
2007-01-03 00:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny that you didn't know you cared for him after 9 years. Then when he gets a girlfriend, you get jealous.
Leave him alone and let him and your friend be happy.
2007-01-03 00:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him, explain what you feel and let him decide what to do from there. If he wants you then he'll come and if not then he is just a friend and that is all it can ever be.
2007-01-03 00:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by sweetsexxythang_69@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well me i kinda had the same prob i jus kinda gave him hints along the way, then he started saying that he had feelings for me 2 jus didnt pay it no mine cuz we were friends u kno...but it's ur choice u have kno him for 9 years...give it a try if u dare...
2007-01-03 00:30:50 · answer #11 · answered by Baby Phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋