Well I have a boyfriend and everything is going...well ok. And it just feels like I fell out of love with him. But he really loves me and I want to make it work. But I'm not sure how, all my friends tell me we make a cute couple but it just feels like I'm lying to myself. What should I do?
Im 15 but please dont give me any thing like your too young concentrate on school. just give me advice please.
2007-01-02 16:07:12 · 33 answers · asked by Elise. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Please take off your Santa outfit. Holidays are over.
2007-01-02 16:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Relationships are a full time job, you have to tend to them or it dies away. If you are turely not happy then you need to make a desicion, stay or leave. What is good for you, don't worry about what he thinks cause there are plenty more guys out their that would make you happy. Don't worry about what your friends may think because you are the one that has to live with it. Your friends are just looking in, they are not around you and your boyfriend all the time. Do you believe in meditation? If so meditate on it for a while, or just think about it. Weigh each side of the situation. Do you know the expression the grass is not always greener on the other side? Maybe you can try to sit down and talk to him about it, Tell him something like, I have been having these feelings that I am not in love with you. Don't be mean, because open communication is the key to a good relationship. I hope everything works out with your heart and all. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-02 17:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer_moonfire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're old enough to feel, age isnt the issue but i will say things get a little easier once you understand. you know what i mean when you get just a little older. i remember being inlove at 15. and seemed like all the sudden i just looked at the guy and relized that i wasnt inlove with him at all. at the time i thought i was falling out of love. but as an adult i relize i was more inlove with the idea of being with him because he was such an amazing person. everyone thought i was horrible for dumping him and he hated me for about a year, but now we are the best of friends and my husband even lived with him for a while before we were married! i was the same age as you and he was 17 at that time , now i am 24. life will be in a whole different perspective even in 6 months for you. do what you feel . dont stay with him if you know you dont love him. let some one else love him if you care for him at all!
2007-01-02 17:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not going to tell you to concentrate on school i was stuck in the same problem as you when i was 16 im now 19 and still with the same man i was with wen i was 16 after 6 months of being with him i though i fell out of love with him but then i really thought about why the hell i fell in love withhim in the first place and then i rememberd it was his humor his smile his affection and it made me remember why i fell in love with him in the first place dont quit and say oh **** it just give a bit more time n see wat happens but if you cant bring your self to love him then dont drag him along let him go asmuch asit may hurt him he will get over it hes young he has alot to leran about love and so do you so get thiking girl.
2007-01-02 21:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna tell you to concentrate on school...I'm 18 and have been with my fiance for 5 yrs. For a while I thought I fell out of love with him...but its just your age. We have deep emotions, and think alot about our boyfriends, and all that...but just take some time to consider ur real feelings for him...(how does he make you feel?? is he nice??? is he someone u really can see yourself being with???) don't consider what ur friends think...b/c its ur life, not everythings based on cute couples...but if ur not happy...then find sum1 new...but give ur head a chance...take a nice hot bath, and think deeply on what u want for yourself and what will make u happy...GOOD LUCK!!! <3 - Courtney
2007-01-02 16:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Mrs.Madrox*~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel and at the age of 15 you really dont want to be in that mess, tell him that your both young and you just dont have feelings for him like you used to, and if you want then ask him to be friends im sure he will understand just give it time he will come back to you on the friends key. Good luck sweetie
2007-01-02 16:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
im 15 to....talk to your boyfriend about it.but first tell him that you do not wont to break up.
next tell him how you feel about what you are feelimg
then see what he says
i be having boyfriend trouble but all i have to do is tell him how i feel and everything gets better. if you feel that you cant talk to him about it,just take a deep breathe and let it all come out.if you really feel like you are lying to yourself try to take time off from the relationship.....about 2 weeks and then see what happends after that...good luck
2007-01-02 16:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! my room mate is going through the EXACT thing! she has been with her man for 4 years and about 2 years ago started to just fall out of love with him... she said that she still loves him but she is not in love with him anymore. she broke up with him a week ago because she just couldn't lie to her self any more. she realised that she has to live her own life for her slf and not for him. he loves her and she is scared because he has been so dependent on her all this time he will never get over it. his mates dont understand because they have a different woman every night! he ended up having to talk with my boyfriend who is her brother. he said that if he doesn't give her space he will just push her away forever. is that kinda what you are going through? well, if it is just know that she spent 2 whole years thinking it... what a waste. live your life girlie.... with no regrets
xx
2007-01-02 16:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by ruthybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are a little young to be in "love" but I won't go there. Just because your friends say that you make a cute couple doesn't mean that you should date him.
If you don't feel attracted or connected to him anymore then break up with him. It is NOT fair to lead him on, or lie to yourself.
2007-01-02 16:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not too young. You well understand the situation. The only advice is please do not be carried away by emotions. People who are advising you to concentrate on education have tasted the life and are your well wishers. Listen to your parent and friends.
2007-01-02 20:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by snashraf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if it is true that you dont love him anymore or you feel like he loves you more then you love him. The only thing you should is end the relationship bescause its not fair to either of you if you both dont love each other. good luck with evey thing
2007-01-03 05:01:46 · answer #11 · answered by (intellgentsweetgirl) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋