how do you get over losing someone close to you?not in death...?

Question

more like the death of a relationship.Over a few years,we broke eachother's hearts a few times,although we were lovers and best friends.Now i broke his heart for the last time,but i lost my best friend at the same time.I want to be strong,i don't want to dwell,but how do i get over not having this constant in my life anymore?Pathetic as it sounds,i even told myself he was part of another chapter of my life and a new one was opening,and sometimes you have to leave people behind.its not helping though.maybe you can?

Answer 1

I feel like you just asked something i used to ask myself everyday until i read the following...i didn't write it but it sure made a difference in my life and hope it does the same for you... it should help you accept things a little better...so here it's...it seems like a lot to read but it's worth it..


>People come into your life for a
> reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know
> which one it is, you will know what to do
> for that person. When someone is in your life for
a
> REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have
> expressed. They have come to assist
> you through a difficulty, to provide you with
> guidance and support, to aid you physically,
> emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a
> godsend and they are. They are there for the
> reason you need them to be. Then, without any
> wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient
time,
> this person will say something to bring the
> relationship to an end. Sometimes they die.
> Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they
act
> up and force you to take a stand. What we must
> realize is that our need has been met,
> our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer
> you sent up has been answered and now it is
time
> to move on. Some people come into your life for
a
> SEASON, because your turn has come to
share,
> grow or learn. They bring you an experience of
> peace or make you laugh. They may teach you
> something you have never
> done. They usually give you an unbelievable
> amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a
> season. LIFETIME relationships teach you
lifetime
> lessons, things you must build upon in order to
> have a solid emotional foundation. Your job
> is to accept the lesson, love the person and put
> what you have learned to use in all other
> relationships! and areas of your life. It is
> said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
> Thank you for being a part of my life, whether
you
> were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Hope it helps...
>

Answer 2

Time will ease the pain, but it will still be there. I suggest Scientology. It helped me from making the same mistakes over and over again. You really need to confront how you got in this situation in the first place and fix it. Some people might go to a psychiatrist, however I don't recommend it, if you really want to feel better without medication. Psychiatry just puts a band-aid on the problem and doesn't really fix anything.

Answer 3

I was with someone for FOUR years. However, he wasn't just my boyfriend, I grew up with him. We as well, broke each other's heart. The only thing that got him off my mind and to stop the hurting was going out with friends, doing things to keep me busy so that I wouldn't wonder about him. If everything you do does not work, the best thing might be to confront him about how you feel. Maybe instead of lovers, you guys could remain friends..... do what feels right in your heart, but most important, don't be afraid to talk about it.You need to get it off your chest.

Answer 4

You are experiencing withdrawl symptoms from the drug called "love". Why did you want to give up this drug? Because it was damaging you? Remember why you wanted to break it off. There must have been a good reason to do so. You must remember what it was, and that if you return, the patterns will be much the same. "Insanity is doing things the same way and expecting different results", right?

Answer 5

Move away. Part of getting rid of "poisonous" situations is to completely clear the are so you arent affected by the "residue" left over. I find that a new job, new friends and new location are key to peace of mind, of couse after tying up all of the loose ends

Answer 6

You may not have even realized this before, but you have "Inspired" many Young women who have experienced "heartbreaks" in the past. Your deep love, affection, and hope for this man of whom you speak of, not only sparks a flame of hope into "our" hearts, but remains "Burning" inside of yours as well!
By keeping "memories" in, HE will always be alive! now I am not saying you must completely "Destroy" every loving memory with him...but at least letting yourself "forget" every once in a while, will always help you!
Do something nice for you, and ONLY you! go shopping, buy yourself a nice cup of caffe latte, or Mocha Frappucino while you enjoy a book, or a movie. Engorge yourself in manicures or pedicures...maybe both....A day for you and ONLY you!!!
Everyone can be a Princess!
YOU Deserve it!
having time for yourself and not THOUGHTS of someone else, will automatically "Program" your mind, heart, and soul to forget pain, hurt, struggle, hardships, and heartbreaks!! and Lead you into the light of NEW hope, Strenght, Happiness, and Courage.
Believe in yourself, Trust your inner Beauty, sister!!
Go TO Cosmogirl.com, so that you will READ amazing, and talented advise from "Experienced" women.
Step into the light!!!
God Bless You!
(*you've made other girls here, feel better and inspired...thank you!*) =)

Answer 7

You never get over it. You learn to deal with it. But the loss is always there.

Sometimes it is best to leave all behind and start new.

Answer 8

loss is the hardest thing we humans have to deal with. On time you will start putting him in the past. It's not 1.2.3 when you have had such a long-term relationship, but it does happen