I have a friend and she is the COMPLETE opposite of me in that she can put all her trust into ppl...the thing is she gets hurt b/c of this but she just can't seem to change her ways...i don't want her to become like me (not being able to trust)...i mean she's awesome the way she is...but it hurts to see her get hurt, she's like my sister, you know? i just want her to watch out for herself. And then when something bad happens to her she says she did it to herself...i don't know wut to say...or wut to do. she's been crying a lot lately and i want to make her feel better but i just seem to be at a loss of words...please HELP!
2007-01-02 15:04:24 · 6 answers · asked by Person 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's tough, I'm sorry you are in this jam. I've been there before with a friend and it tears you heart up to see them do this to themselves when it's so unavoidable.
Really there may not be much more you can do than you are already doing. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink stands true. Keep feeding her the answers and maybe she'll sell it to herself, until then beleive you are still doing a great service to her by just letting her vent to you.
You might suggest counseling to your friend, sometime a professional can explain things more clearly than we can. Just stay in there for her, however if she begins to make decisions about keeping friends that could affect your safety and well being, don't stick around. As MLK said "Only when it is dark enough can you see the stars". . .it might take seriously falling on her face to limit her trust.
2007-01-02 15:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we all have to learn on our own. It is sad to see someone you love and care about get shi* on so to say......especially when you are on the outside looking in. But, we all have to learn for ourselves. I use to be the same way as your friend, and I can tell you all I got out of it was a broken heart. And I never did learn. I can't help it. I am too trusting. I have a big heart, it is just who I am. It has happened to me in friendships, relationships, etc. I am a very strong person, and while one of my best qualities is the size of my heart it is one of my weakest as well. Be there for your friend and support her.
2007-01-02 23:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her make her own decisions, bad or good and always be there for her to pick her up when she is down. That is all that you can do. She'll hate you for interferring. Besides....she will grow from her mistakes, even though she don't see itnow and eventually she will do better, just always be there for her......no matter how much it hurts or how frustrating it is sometimes......just don't ever let go.....and most importantly .....never say I told you so!
2007-01-02 23:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by sixicenine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm......i guess i would let her see what not to trust in other people...to show her how to build walls that can catch her when she falls....like if some one lets her down...she will be emotionally prepared type thing.....
2007-01-02 23:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Punkd_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you get your own kids.
2007-01-02 23:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
darn...its time to give her a huge hug and teach her the facts of life....
2007-01-02 23:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋