I am 25 wks pregnant and this pregnancy has not been the easiest by far! Between the morning sickness and tiredness and all the other lovely pregnancy ailments i am rather tired of being pregnant now. Love my baby of course, the best moments are feeling baby move, but can't wait to have this gorgeous baby in my arms instead of inside me!!
My fiance was talking this morning and mentioned that he wanted more kids and "why don't we keep them close together - say within a year of eachother". I had scissors in my hand at the time and offered to give him a free vasectomy right then and there!! lol.
After having been through this (well part way so far) pregnancy i have absolutely no desire to go through it again - certainly not any time soon!! I cannot imagine going through pregnancy again - i know all are different but i don't think i could handle it again!
Anyone else have thoughts like this with there first pregnancy? Just curious as to other peoples stories :)
2007-01-02 15:02:43 · 13 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I feel exactly the same way as you do (especially after some really intense "morning" sickness)!! Luckily for me though, my husband and I decided before we even got pregnant that we only wanted to have one child and he is getting a vasectomy. I am only 16 weeks and there have been many times already where I have told him that I'm glad we are having a baby, but I'm glad we only want one, because I never want to do this again!! My friends said they wanted to have a huge family with ten kids when they first got married, but the husband got a vasectomy after their second baby! He might change his mind about having more kids after the first one arrives!! Thanks for posting! It is reassuring to know that I am not the only person that has had that thought!! :-)
2007-01-02 15:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by socialwork2010 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny, i told my hubby i would give a home vasectomy too.....he didn't take me up on the offer! We currently have 2 sons, twins who are 2 1/2 years old. They are adopted. I am carrying our first and LASSSTTT child. I too have not had a pleasent pregnancy, but for me the option of an only child didn't appeal. I am so thrilled we already have the twins and this will be the only pregnancy. I think once you have the baby, you won't care how much you suffered for him/her. When i see my two boys i already have, it makes carrying this one seem not so bad. If you decide you only want one, there is nothing wrong with that, but tell Fiance to ask you about more children AFTER you have the baby and see how adorable it is and how great parenting is....cause this pregnancy thing, no fun! haha. Good luck to you and congrats!!
2007-01-02 15:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a tough pregnancy with my son. I had pre-eclampsia, threw up from the time i was 2 months til the day i had him and i had him at 35 weeks by c-section at age 21. He was a planned baby but after going through all of that i am scared to get pregnant again even though i miscarried last year at 5 weeks (unplanned). I am scared it will be like how it was with my son if i get pregnant again.
I am now 27 with a 5 year old and not sure if i will ever have anymore or not.
2007-01-02 15:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first was my last, then my second was my last, THEN my 3rd was my last and now in 5mo. here comes baby number 4. Don't let the miserable effects of pregnancy make up your mind. Base it on how your birth goes and how you enjoy your child when it is born. In my opinion the good of a child out weighs the bad of a pregnancy any day. This is a decision that you and your husband should take your time on and talk about. Good luck!
2007-01-02 15:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Charity D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a fairly easy pregnancy with my first baby, but after I gave birth 10 months ago I still can't imagine going through another birth!
Maybe after a few years I might forget and want another one or maybe I'll get a c section next time.
I think what you are experiencing is normal, especially when you have so many pregnancy symptoms, but once you hold your baby you might think differently.
Good luck with you little baby :)
2007-01-02 15:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a terrible birthing experience and swore to everyone that I did not want anymore kids. But, watching my little baby grow into a big boy...all those negative feelings went away!! Children are sooo precious and stay little for such a short time! I got pregnant with my daughter 11 months later!!! And, we plan to have another once my oldest learns to potty train!!! Once you see your baby...all the bad and negatives feelings will go away...you'll realize it was worth it!!!
But, do not hate yourself if you only want one child...there is nothing wrong with that!! Just do not decide yet until you've had some time with your little one....you may change your mind!!!
2007-01-02 15:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably change your mind sooner than you think! Yeah, being pregnant can really suck and it can take so much out of you (I am pregnant with #2), but you will forget all about it. I started wanting another baby when my son was about a year old. And now that I am pregnant again - it sucks, and I am miserable, but I am sure I will want to do it all over again later!
2007-01-02 15:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I haven't been pregnant yet, but my husband wants seven kids...and to have them all within 15 months of each other...I would imagine if you have a rough first pregnancy you won't want to do it again! But your next pregnancy could be way easier. Good luck to you!
2007-01-02 15:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are allowed to feel this way way right now, but you might surprise yourself after you have him/her in your arms, do yourself a favor and don't make any decisions until at least 6 months post delivery. And remember every pregnancy is different none of mine have been identical just like the kids themselves.
2007-01-02 15:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by jeanetteann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL after 5 i think that's enough for me. Although i loved the pregnancies (morning sickness and all) but i think my body's gone through enough. First two are 11 months apart i think that's as close as i could have gotten it without killing myself or ruining anything inside my body for that matter. GL on your pregnancy.
2007-01-02 15:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by dragonlady042 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋