they say hes gay and ugly
2007-01-02 14:56:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't tell him. Ignorance is bliss. The talk bothers you and you're not even him so think how devastated he would be.
Chances are, he will find out sooner or later, but if you tell him he might go defensive on you and wonder WHY you're telling him this and ask you if you believe it. Don't put yourself in such a situation.
Yes, you are his friend, but part of a friend's job is to do what is BEST for him and telling him will hurt his feelings unnesscesarily. Also, ask yourself if these people will ever tell him themselves.
If they are the type who just talk bad about everyone, then why bother at all? Chances are they are just mean people who need to get a life.
By not telling him you're saving him from alot of insecurities and emotional problems. You're also getting yourself out of a situation where you might be the butt of his anger.
2007-01-02 15:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Tira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are his friend, then dont you know about what they are saying, whether its true or not. I would not even being associating with those people that are saying those things and if I was around and heard someone saying things like that, I would question them as to there vadality, just by asking the 'bigmouth' person, do they have any proof. Remember this friend of yours is that, your friend, and as long as his sexual preferences dont include you, then it really isnt any of your business. You can choose to listen to gossip,( and I say that because you dont know if it is true), then you are not his friend. At some time during your friendship, this situation will arise either in conversation or reality, and again, if it doesnt include you, and its not causing you any grief, then leave it alone until you know the truth. Will he be less of a friend because he might be gay !!!!!!!
2007-01-02 23:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things just shouldnt be passed on as all they can cause is hurt. If your friend isnt gay when he gets a girlfriend these gossips will have to eat their words.
People just love to be cruel, but it doesnt hurt if you dont know about it. Let your friend stay in ignorance of these morons comments and just set the record straight if you hear it said in front of you.
2007-01-02 22:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful cause it could get ugly, I would ask him if he is gay in front of them. Tell him that he is ugly while you guys are joking with each other. One thing you can also tell him is to be careful with them because they are not his friends if he persists on knowing why just tell it like it is. Good luck!
2007-01-02 23:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by laurechery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but if he is your friend then you should either stick up for him or walk away from it...it is going to hurt his feelings that you have a friend that talks behind his back and besides, usually when people do this watch your back too because they are usually talk behind yours as well...
2007-01-02 22:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you feel right about telling what people say back to him but should it really matter. i mean words is just words. i know they can bring you down but let me tell you this you might not know it but every one got something wrong with them. no ones perfect! but the next time you hear someone talking about your friend you say " if you got something to say about my friend don't say it when he's around the corner say it to his face". because if they so tough to talk behind his back they should be tough enough to say it to his face.
2007-01-02 23:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by sexybritt_92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that you need to tel him, however you do need to make sure that you are sticking up for him.
It will not hurt that bad if he hears the rumors, if he knows that he has a great friend who is defending him as much as she can.
If is becomes worse, or if they are threatening him then you should tell him, but for now, spare his feelings
2007-01-02 23:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell your friend as he has every right to know. To me, I think it'd be a very painful experience for him when he finds out about it and it'll hurt him even more when he finds out that you knew about it all along.
2007-01-02 23:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by ganja_fafine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, cause then that would mean that youre listening and believing what they are saying. keep it to yourself. then he cant get mad at you for telling him. take care and good luck. also it depends on how he would take it. he is your friend you need to decide which would be the best way. tell him or not.
2007-01-02 23:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to tell him because it will hurt him but i would tell the people thats talking about him that he is your friend and dont talk about him in front of u
2007-01-02 23:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by lil lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋