i just ended a 5 yr relationship with my bf.when i first met "tom" at work he use to drive in with this blond "val".he told me they were just old friends.later after we had been dating for about 3 weeks(and after we had sex)he told me they were dating and if i did not like it i could leave.i later found out from his sister he left his wife for this girl.did i leave,no i stayed hoping i could win him over.i watched as he sent her flowers at work,heard about the jewelry he gave her,the expensive diners ect.all i every got was invites over for sex and a movie.after 5 mons he left her(not because of me he told me he could not keep her happy) but over the last 5 yrs i have caught he sneaking around on the internet/phone with her and would tell me i was over reacting,with their history i think not.has he cheated,more than likely.now on top of all this add a controlling in your face exwife with a kid and a huge debt and i STILL STAYED.love is not blind its dumb.oh yes we were all in our 30s
2007-01-02 13:00:29 · 7 answers · asked by kellymarie908 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it is all happened because you have a competitive side in you and an achiever by nature. Maybe it was all about achieving, winning him over and keeping him. It is like in all those psychology tests: if you keep the cheese high enough, the mouse will keep jumping. It is good that you see now that the "trophy" doesn't worth the trying.
2007-01-02 13:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do stupid things when we are in love and u just dont see it at the time, but try and not look at it as time wasted look at it as a valuable learning experience, u'll know not to do this again. just always remember that you are worth more than being someone's sloppy seconds and judging by the way he treats people he will get it all back in face someday because what goes aropund comes around. Good luck in the future.
2007-01-02 13:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by louisem28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl you have wasted so much time, money and energy, over someone not worthy of you, but its ok.. better yet, give thanks that even though it has taken you a long time, you have finally come out seeing the truth.. Thank God and move on.. A loving good man is out there for you, take your time, try not to be bitter and move ahead.. Good Luck
2007-01-02 13:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i think you should of left him right when you found out that he's having this relationship with the other woman. isn't it wrong when a guy practically dates two girls at the same time?
dont be too harsh on yourself. you made a mistake because your human. everyone makes mistakes. its ok. you'll from this and have a better man in the future.
2007-01-02 13:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Zsofi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, what can you say, crap happens, but then you learn from it. Love is both blind and stupid, it will make you do stupid things, and make you ignore the people that really matter the most. Move on, leave this loser behind, and never look back.
2007-01-02 14:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Hexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted so hard for this to work. Forgive yourself, learn from it and get rid of this user. Be strong.
2007-01-02 13:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don*t need him !! we all live & learn !!!
2007-01-02 13:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Barbie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋