I regularly see a person at my AA meeting who claims 10 years of continuous sobriety I enjoy talking to this person and found a wonderful warm ,generous person with a great sense of humor. I tried a free trial on a popular dating site and saw this person on there looking for a partner or (whatever.) But the profile of this person did not sound at all like the person I thought I knew!. This person said they drank cheap whiskey and tequilla on a regualr basis and was into animal sacrifice and all kinds of voodoo and wiccan. The thing which disturbed me was the fact that this person is claiming to party every day on booze and then comes to an AA meeting and claims to be sober. Should I confront this person ?
2007-01-02 12:41:37 · 12 answers · asked by tattiehoker54 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A picture (of a person) paints a thousand words. Most definately these people are both the same
2007-01-02 13:01:18 · update #1
He might have put all that stuff on so that nobody has high expectations of him when they meet. He's likely to come across as a nice guy, as you yourself found him. (I keep saying he and him - my apologies if its female). Lets face it, if someone is expecting too much, they are usually disappointed!
2007-01-02 12:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet this life experience is quite sobering. I do not make a habit of drinking but this is...boy I don't know. It's a tuff call and depends on your personal judgement as to how much you want to associate with a person who you have figured out is not a consistant personality. On the other hand aren't we suppose to help friends that are aiming for the same goal? Also are you sure that ad is definately your friend? They say we all have a twin.
2007-01-02 20:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you POSITIVE that it's the same person? It is an internet dating site, it's easy to pretend to be someone your not, and it's possible an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend could place that profile on a site to get back at him/her. If you are really concerned you should talk to the AA leader (or sponcer, or whatever they are called). But just so you know, REAL wiccans DO NOT do animal sacrafices. Voodo is another story.
2007-01-02 20:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by leckscheid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you might be fairly new.....i went through the same thing..this is my experience.... it's like church..the hypocrites...don't confront, there are more at the tables.....maybe ask this guy how his lovelife is doing these days.............AA will give you a better education about people and life than any university....use all of it you can to your advantage...don't let anyone brainwash you...or tell you how to live your life.....if you are turning it over everyday..your life is YOURS AND GODS...learn to be an independent thinker....you sound like a very trusting person.....but you have the right to not trust anyone blindly!! don't blind trust...i think it's 'as bill sees it" page 140,141 about BLIND TRUST....people need to be assessed for the capacity to harm......stay sober, stay well, if you like AA great....if it's not really for you, don't let people tell you "well that's because you're not working the program"...and heaven forbid if you ask a lot of questions or think for yourself!!..AA is not a cult...no leader....but it does have a cult mentality so watch out for that....now i'll stop preaching..hehe...godspeeeeedddd!!!
2007-01-02 21:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Summer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a person who is leading a double life. He is lying to someone and if he can lie to one he can lie to all. And that includes you.
Does this look familiar?
12.Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Paying particular attention to the last nine words, I must ask, isn't honesty part of that?
Make a clean break and find a new friend, confidences are important, too important to be entrusted to this person.
I know exactly where you are coming from. I spent my time looking for the bottom of bottle.
2007-01-02 21:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what are you the moral inventory taker? it may be an old profile that the person cannot get rid of cause they donot remember the password or they may have ben drunk when they put it up and have no recollection. I would NOT confront but I would ask the person. a friend of mine in NA had an old profile up on the net I saw it and they said did not even remember putting it up as they were probably so high when they did it. Do not judge isn' that part of your program? just ask honesty is one of the virtues we learn and are valued in a 12 step program and btw I just thought ....what kind of dating site would allow a person to admit to animal sacrifice you are making this up is what I think
2007-01-02 20:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by vilynblackthorne 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it a common name? An online dating sight might have several people by the same name. The person that you're thinking of may not even have a profile on that dating sight.
2007-01-02 20:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Titainsrule 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, tell the AA leader or his/her sponsor. Sounds like this person need help,
2007-01-02 20:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by fleshy queen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would if I was sure that it was the same person.
2007-01-02 20:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by cheri b 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lesson Learned : you never really know anyone !
2007-01-02 21:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋