I've been at my current position for a year and a half. It's an extremely rewarding and professionally beneficial position to be in at this point in my career. However, I'm engaged and while my fiance would be willing, it's not possible for him to get a position in his specialized field where I live currently. Since I'm not happy where I live (my job is wonderful, the area, not so much) I have no issue quitting. How do I do this and when do I do this, meaning giving my notice. I personally don't want to keep my wedding plans a big secret. How can I avoid having responsibility taken away if they know I could be quitting in the next year or so?
I want to get married and not put my life on hold longer than necessary, despite being career-driven. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years and lived at least 2 or more hours apart since we first met. So it's understandable I don't want to delay moving on in my personal life longer than necessary.
2007-01-02 12:34:32 · 8 answers · asked by Hippie-not-yippie 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
P.S. We did live together for 6 months during the last 3 years, when we were between jobs. Also we see each other every weekend, so yes, I'm sure he's worth quitting a job. Plus I can find work anywhere, I just need to know the best way to do it without losing responsibility before my departure.
2007-01-02 12:52:03 · update #1
If you are leaving this job sooner than later, talk to your boss first. Explain to them that although professionally you know this may be a bad choice, personally this is something you need to do for your upcoming marriage. Be honest to them. If the boss doesnt know yet that you are engaged, tell them first. You do NOT want them to be the last to know.
You want to end on a good note, you never know what the future may hold professionally for you. A nice gesture is a letter to your boss on your last day letting him know how you loved your job and mention a few key areas that you will always remember. It leaves a good taste in their mouth that you were professioanal to the end.
Give as much notice as you can as well, they will have a hard time replacing you.
Congrats on your wedding!
2007-01-02 12:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cariad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few issues at stake here.. 1. If you are getting married the 4 children should be looked at as 'yours' - meaning both of yours to support and be proud of. 2. I would have to agree that living together as a "trial run" is not fair to the children (hers or yours). That being said I would take a vacation together, spend a few weekends at each others house and make sure the children all get along. Yes they will fight as all siblings do but if they can't get along they can destroy your marriage. 3. Now as for her quitting her job- In this day and age that is crazy. With 4 kids to feed, support and send to college? Unless your salary is in the millions I don't see that as possible- maybe part-time but definitely not quit. To me it seems you have jumped into the proposal without considering the ever after that follows the wedding. You two need to sit down and talk and have a serious what do I expect in the future conversation.
2016-03-29 05:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would begin a career search where your fiance lives right away. If you find something suited to you in that new location, consider moving before getting married.
Notice I did not say, consider moving in together.
If you don't find position openings in your career arena near him, you might have to consider widening your search...either to neighboring locations, or to career fields related to yours.
Perhaps there is a career field that interests you that is altogether different from what you currently do? Maybe the time is right for more than one, or even two changes...location, marital status, and employment field? Just keep in mind that change can be stressful.
When the time comes, be prepared to shift
positions without having to give more than 2-4 weeks notice. Offering to help train a replacement can be a good peace-offering.
Remember, you don't have to answer the "what are you going to do now that you're married?" question in any useful manner in the mean-time.
2007-01-02 12:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the news of your engagement and leave the details out as to whether you are moving there or he is moving near you. Alot can happen over the next year so continue to give 100% to what you do and they certainly won't take work away from you. When the time comes, you simply give your two week notice (or longer if you need it) and go on with life.
2007-01-02 12:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U THINK YOUR FIANCE IS WORTH YOUR PROFESSIONAL JOB THEN U MIGHT AS WELL QUIT. IF U R GONNA QUIT U MIGHT WANT TO MAKE URESELF REASONABLE AND APPRECIATIVE AND SOUND VERY GROWN UP .......U SHOULD TELL YOUR BOSS: I HAVE APPRECIATED THIS OPPORTUNITY OF HAVING A GOOD JOB BUT I HAVE CHOSEN TO MAKE SOME BIG DIFFERENCES IN MY LIFE.....I THANK YOU BUT KNOW I MUST LEAVE THIS PLACE TO MY FUTURE LIFE.......
2007-01-02 12:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by REALity. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say nothing at your job until he is established and sure he wants to stay at the ne place.; then give 2 weeks notice and go.
2007-01-02 12:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try to ask your spouse to be to Quit the job instead of you doing so!
2007-01-02 13:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by secret society 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably give your boss a few months warning, so they can find, and possibly have you train, a new person.
2007-01-02 12:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋