I am happily married with a wonderful child but lately am confused as to why things are the way they are- I believe in God but am not religious and lately am consumed with the overall population and behaviors as a WHOLE versus just my happy piece. It just seems as if we are living in world where women are stuck with childbirth beauty standards and hormones (which cause mood swings) while men only have pressure for success. So, on top of this, I am tying this into men who frequent strip clubs while they are married- is this God's plan to make men disrespect women by sticking them with all of these things while in return he has not hotwired women to disrespect men? It seems as if men have no problems seeing other women's GOODS while most women were not made to do that. Those types of guys are basically publicing admitting they wish their wife looked that way- so while some of them behave this way, was it God's plan to make women with the shorter end of stick and disrespected or what?
2007-01-02 12:29:57 · 11 answers · asked by Bella NYC 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hormones and childbirth are part of the natural evolution of females -- all female mammals share similar traits with human females in that regard. Doesn't have anything to do with any made-up god.
Unrealistic beauty standards are a social construct, and don't have anything to do with either evolution OR a made-up god. From my experience, women are the ones who put unrealistic standards of beauty on themselves, not men who impose these things on them.
The issues you mention are almost all social situations, again having nothing to do with made-up gods. It's up to each couple to decide what works for them. I don't go to strip clubs (never thought they were great even when I was single...who wants to look but not touch?!!). My wife and I are very happy, give each other lots of space to do our own thing, and have been happily married 15 years with 2 kids. We share the workloads very nicely, and it works for us. Do what works for YOU, and don't try to blame it on made-up gods and made-up "plans."
2007-01-02 12:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, I think you need to step outside of yourself and see things through your "human" eyes, not your "female" eyes. When you do, you will see that we men have just an many problems as you. We get just as much disrespect from women as women do from men. Many women only see the GOODs some men have, while not all men have those things women desire either. Some women wished their husbands had more money and a rock hard chest. Many men feel THEY have the shorter end of the stick. SO theres problems regardless of if your a man or a woman.
And it doesn't end there. Then you can break it down to race, and those people have their complaints too. So no, Gods plan (if theres a God) isn't to make things hard for women.
2007-01-02 20:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all .. it is of my opinion that the only one who can honestly answer your question is God. All human answers are just "best guesses". Secondly, I am a married guy and I don't go to strip clubs .. I don't even like the idea of going to one. Does nothing for me. My wife prefers to not have any children. So we will not. As far as guy's pressure for success .. I have not worked for the past 5 years .. although I keep up my end of the expenses by paying bills, food , etc.. on money that I have saved up through the years .. I really think you need to look at each person .. male or female ... as to why they do what they do in their lives and why. Personally, I don't think what you have stated is "God's plan" .. but on the small chance that it is .. you will need to take the matter up with Him/Her. Good Luck ! :) PS.. I could care less about the idea of success. I'd just like a job/career that I would really enjoy .. that is what is most important to me. :)
2007-01-02 20:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, men have it alot worse than you think. Not only are they pressures to be successful, but they are also pressured to take more risks, be more manly, look the best, get the most women, etc. And they are also responsible for providing for their family and acting as head of the household. They are supposed to go out and brave things that women would never do, and they are supposed to be able to fix things, and so much more. You are crazy! Women have it SO EASY!
All we have to do is sit around and wait for men to come to us if we are halfway decent looking. And even if you're not, you can still get a man usually.
And FYI: men have hormones too, and it is arguable that they have a harder time dealing with theirs. Why do you think they are always wanting sex while women can deal with it? Get into the real world!
2007-01-02 20:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How women were made and what makes them tick is God's plan. However, the sinful nature of us humans, especially us men is not God's plan. Beauty standards, men's desires to see naked women come from the human sinful condition.
Celebrate who you are as a woman, but recognize that all of us are sinful, which was not God's plan.
2007-01-02 23:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't fair. But there is a good side and bad side to everything. Some men could complain that women have it easier. Being disrespectful is not limited to men, there are alot of women who use their sexuality to control, use or abuse men.
2007-01-02 20:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by letgo 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think honey, that you may have some underlying issues and may need at least a couple of counseling sessions. Don't worry, your hormones will settle down, your husband still loves you, and your body will go back to the way it was as long as you work hard at it.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 20:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are over-thinking this whole thing. A man that is attracted to a woman other than his wife is not secretly admitting he wants his wife to look like her. he is merely being a jerk! A jerk that doesn't really care about you. It has nothing to do with any master plan.
2007-01-02 20:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not God's plan. It's YOUR plan. I am also a woman. I have no mood swings (okay, not very severe ones), no children and I don't care if people think I look good or not. Grow up and own up to your choices.
2007-01-02 20:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by LGuerrrr 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now you're going to get the whole 'Eve ate the apple excuse'. You're right women did get the short end of the stick.
2007-01-02 20:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋