does this make me a bigot?

Question

somebody the other day called me a bigot for not approving of the homosexual behavior. i don't think that makes me a bigot. in fact, two of my best friends are bi and one is gay. i've come to realize that gay people are some of the nicest around...yet, i am still called a bigot for not approving of the behavior. what you y'all think?

the behavior that i'm referring to is the act of being gay...it's just not my thing. and if i were a bigot, would three of my close friends be homosexual?

Answer 1

No your not being a bigot.

In fact, I think this is a case of the pot calling the kettle black. I mean that the very people who are calling you a bigot are themselves acting like bigots.

What they're doing is saying that if anyone disagrees with them then they are bigots. No one is allowed a different opinion. Everyone has to approve of their lifestyle.

It that case, the Pope is a bigot and so was Mother Teresa.

Answer 2

You're not a bigot for not approving homosexuality. You are a bigot for calling it a "behavior." Exactly WHAT behavior? Holding hands? Hugging? Kissing? Being parents? What you are really saying is gay people are "some of the nicest around," as long as they never ever act on it.

Answer 3

It doesn't make you a bigot just because you don't approve of homosexuality.

I think if you have best friends that are gay, in time you will realize what a non-issue it really is and will feel less dissaproving of the behavior.

Seriously sit back and think about the truly terrible things in this world that you could focus your disapproval at. Two consenting adults falling in love is really no big deal.

But no, you're not a bigot. If you were spewing bible versus and acting "holier than though...you're going to hell and I'm not" type of deals...then you'd be a bigot.

Answer 4

I'd say yes you are a biggot, only because if you called an African American the "n" word, you'd be called a biggot because they were born that way and can do nothing to change it so you are rude to be derogatory in any way. Same thing for gays, they cannot help that they were born this way, therefor, any derogatory terms you say would make you a biggot, plain and simple. And you can't use the old argument of, well, they can change, they weren't born that way. Why? Because you aren't gay so how in the world can you possibly know. Besides, I'm gay and have probably done more praying than you can possibly imagine that God would change me into a straight guy, but no matter what I do, I wake up on my tear soaked pillow just as gay as before. Then I have to deal with people like you who say "they just don't agree with the lifestyle." Well, once you become God and change me, then I'll listen, you biggot.

Answer 5

I think you are entitled to your opinion. As long as you're not judging and puting others down for their preference, I think you're fine. I think if you don't approve of a behavior, then you shouldn't engage in it, but you shouldn't fault others for not sharing your beliefs, and it doesn't sound like you do. No, I don't think you're a bigot. Does it hurt your friends to know you don't approve though?

Oh, I've changed my mind. After reading the answer Chris24 gave you I'm afraid I do think you're something, I don't know if bigot is the right term though. I think I'll go with ignorant. How mean spirited of you to call people stupid for expressing who they are. I hope your friends read that and find other people to spend their time around.

Answer 6

One day ago a question titled "I have two questions for people that are against gays" was asked, and your response included "it is just gays that i am against. yes, they have a choice to be gay or straight. there is no gene, just stupidity and a longing for un-needed attention."

Firstly, you are entitled to your opinion as long as it is an informed opinion. In case you are not aware, it is NOT a choice to be gay or straight. The only choice gay people are faced with is to be honest with themselves about being gay or lying to themselves and others about being gay and pretending to be straight. This does not necessarily make you a bigot since the definition of bigot includes having a "fixed and intolerant belief"; if you are willing to change your opinion based on facts you are only uninformed, if you are unwilling to change your opinion based on a personal dislike that would make you a bigot.

Secondly, you say you have gay friends and that gay people are some of the nicest around; but in the question your answered a day ago you said gays were stupid and longing for attention. This does not make you a bigot, but it does appear that you are not a true friend. Also, if you have not told your so-called friends of your feelings that they are stupid and longing for attention it would make a casual observer think that you are two faced.

Since one of your friends is bi, you may be confusing their choice of a boyfriend/girlfriend as choosing straight or gay, when their choice is based on the person and not their gender since they are attracted to both genders. Gay and straight people do not make a similar choice based on gender since they are only attracted to one gender.

I do not know if your answer to that question is how you truly feel, so I do not know if you are a bigot or not. I purposely used the words 'appear' and 'casual observer' because I do not want you to feel as if you are being attacked due to your disapproval of gay people's behavior. Even if you are a bigot, by questioning yourself you show the ability to be more tolerant of others and it is up to you if you want to be tolerant or intolerant.

Answer 7

Yes, that does make you a bigot. You need to get over the fact that it's two women or two men having sex and instead look at it as two people that love each other having sex. Homosexuality is something that certain people are born with and it is completely natural despite what some may tell you. If you really care about your friends it shouldn't be that hard for you to accept what they are doing.

Answer 8

Oh, you might be a bigot in the minds of some folks. But the precise definition is moot--it's OK to argue about if you need something about which to argue. To me, it's more interesting to think and talk about how humans get cranked up or don't.
BTW, bigot just means a person who is intolerant. I guess whether you are a bigot depends on how upset you get about homosexual behavior.

Answer 9

If it was just disliking what they do, that is, it "turned you off," then it might not be bigotry. Everybody has prejudices. the problem is that most adults understand that having a prejudice doesn't make that prejudice "correct."

There are all manners of sexual behavior that turn me off. But I know that these are mostly my own hang-ups or idiosyncratic preferences. They cannot be the basis for judging others. It would be almost like judging someone because they eat a flavor of ice-cream you dislike.

In your case, since you've decided that you're "correct" by "not approving," you may well be bigoted.

Answer 10

I don't think that just because you don't agree or understand you are a bigot. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. It does tick me off when people try to push their views onto everyone else. I am a straight woman but I get really mad when our president trys to ammend the constitution to ban gay marriages, or when people try to say that gay mirrage is wrong or a sin. I think people who say that or feel that way are really just threatened by something to do with a gay lifestyle. It makes me think that we are not as far removed from the days of segregation as we would like to think. This country thought that slavery was an o.k. thing once upon a time too. I feel like when we start ammending the constitution based on what is an opinion then we are doing to gay people what we did to black people all those years ago. I hope this answered your answer.