what do i do if at fifteen i do not have a boyfriend cos i am fat and i have at bad and unfriendly attitude.?

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i also have a skin disorder which is of course not contagious and the only person who asked me out has a slight emotional and mental problem so i did not agree.i also find it very difficult to make friends and i am mean to those that love me.i obviously have a lot of problems so i need help fast.Thank u very much if u reply my message.

Answer 1

You have to look into why you have such an unfriendly attitude. More than likely, you aren't happy with yourself and you just have a tendency to take it out on other people. You need to learn to love yourself first and foremost, or no one else will ever be able to make you happy anyway.

Is there anything that you can do about your skin disorder? Are there any medications that a dermatologist can prescribe to lessen the effects? I'm sure this would help you feel alot less self-conscious. Also, if you feel like you are fat, just start exercising. Start eating healthy. Being overweight is a choice, just like being healthy is. Its not going to be easy, but set realistic goals for yourself. Try to lose 5-7 lbs a month. I know that doesn't sound like very much, but over a few months time it will definitely start to show! Also, when you lose weight over a period of time, you'll be more likely to keep it off!

And ... you need to learn that your worth is not decided by how you look or if you have a boyfriend. I know that's alot easier said than done. Since it seems like you have big self-image problems, you might want to talk to your parents about seeing a counselor. Work on your feelings about yourself and you'll find it much easier to be nice to other people. You'll also notice people wanting to spend more time with you because your attitude will improve! Boys come and go, but having self-confidence problems can cause a lifetime of unnecessary hardship and pain. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

You having a skin disorder and a bad attitude, is a dead on combanation of why your over weight. You probaly eat to comfort these things, and food is not the answer.

First of all, lets start slow, because this will take some time, i mean 1 to 2 years. Start with a review of what your eating. make sure your eating a breakfast, mostly whole grains, cerals, some orange juice. try to take your lunch to school, take only lean meats, chicken, fish, turkey. and some fruit. cut down on portion size for your evening meal, and try to always have a vegatable. try not to eat after 8pm. especially 3 hours prior to going to bed. Now start taking an evening walk. 30 minutes a day. walk with someone, or not. I know its kind of dark out after dinner, but this needs to be done. on your weekends start doing aerobics. get you a fitness tape, something that gets your heart rate going for 30 minutes.

This is not going to be a quick fix, this takes time, your body has become use to the weight it carrys, and it will put up a fight to keep it. so thats why you got to make changes slowly.

The bad attitude, is due to the stress and strain on the heart muscle, trying to breathe and maintain the extra weight, while dealing with the emotional side of being a teen. The skin disorder, may be from the foods, your eating, especially if your not eating a lot of vegetables or fruit, which can give your skin that healthy glow. Why do yoy think cosmetics companys always use like a fruity title to there product.

trust me go slow, take your time. read a lot of the health magizines at your local grocery store, catch the overall theme there trying to tell you, you'll see, you will see.

Answer 3

At the age of fifteen it is not critical or even wise to have a boyfriend.

Stop and think, what are the reasons for having a boyfriend?

My only answer is the reason for me to have a girlfriend is to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her.

Is there any other good reason?

I mean, what other reason is there?

So at the age of fifteen I hardly think that you will find true love.

When your heart is broken after you give it to someone you lose part of your heart. Wait until your atleast age-worthy to understand love then consider with alot of time and knowing a person that you would love them and be loved.

Once you find what love truly is and maturity has set in (no offense) then when you find love, it won't matter what weight you are, and by that time perhaps life will have tought you lessons on how to treat others and you will have changed socially.

Skin disorder will also mean nothing if you are truly in love.

Only God and family will be the highest appreciations in a true love situation and if this is true it won't matter what physical attributes you have.

So my advice is- wait. It sucks, believe me, but

"if it's worth waiting for, then it's worth waiting for; if it's not worth waiting for- then it's not worth it."

I hope I wasn't thoroughly confusing. If you want to talk more on the subject, you can email me at my yahoo page, or consult more of my best answers to get further clarity.


There is a reason why courting and waiting for marriage etc, produced longer relationships that could span up to 70 years.

I myself know people in that situation. But now in today's have it now have it your way society things fall apart because no foundation was laid.

There is a reason the old-folks have things that work in life.
And there is a reason why less works today.

Rambo.

Answer 4

Sweetie.. You need to work on your inner self before you tackle your outer being. You are too absorbed in how you look to make a difference. Once you feel comfy with your inner you can start to make a difference in your outer self. HEY I have been there as a teen.. I mean i was fat.. had acne like crazy.. Try to watch what you eat..get some exercise( i know you have heard this before.) They have jells and creams for your face over the counter. Try to watch all that chocolate and cola's. 15 is the time when you have lots of skin problems. ITS in the hormones. Trust me. You have to go through with this ..all teens do. But just work on your personality. You dont have any more probs. than any other teen. Obviously you must have friends and you can ask them what you need to do. Just dont seclude yourself from them. If you can go to a skin specialist for some ideas on your skin. I take it you just have acne. He can help if you will let him. Keep your skin clean and wash it 2 times a day. Sorry didnt mean to be so long but i want you to JUST be yourself. Would love to know how things are going with you as your question touched my heart. Good luck.

Answer 5

First work on your attitude, perhaps counseling that is the biggest thing keeping people away from you.

Talk to your doctor about the weight and for the skin problem he might be able to recommend a dermatologist.

But the attitude and how you treat people is first, seek counseling.

Answer 6

You are only 15. Who needs a boyfriend then? They are nothing but trouble. Wait until they (and you) grow up a bit. You are still becoming the person you are meant to be. Don't be so hard on yourself. Focus on improving what you can. A lot of things seem to work themselves out all by themselves as you get a little older. Best wishes to you.

Answer 7

Celebrate because you won't up end a single baby momma on welfare like so many other teens.
Your appearance issues will clear up while you are in college and life will be way better because you be on track to a successful career .
God must have something special he wants you to do after the teen years pass.

Answer 8

Sounds like you answered your own question. You know the problems.... So what more would you like? I'm sure if you start being nice things can work out for you. Have A Happy New Year!

Answer 9

i don't think that you're going to find any quick fixes here, you need to see a professional about your attitude. maybe you could talk to your school counselor. you have to remember that you are in control of everything you say and do, from being mean to people and treating them like crap to what you are eating that's making you overweight. you need to gain some self-respect among other things.

Answer 10

well, now that you know you have a problem, it is time to do somethign about it.

work out and drink plenty of water to keep pounds off and keep your skin clear.

you know you have a bad attitued towards people, now you just need to learn how to control your emotions, because as humans, we are all completely in control of whether something makes us mad, happy, sad, or excited.

you just need to work your problems out.. fix yourself first.. hold off on a relationship because that will only complicate things.