Should I worry about this?

Question

My friend is 14 years old ,and I am scarred of her getting raped.She is ALWAYS telling me about all these guys that keep doing all this stuff to her.And I have seen this before.And,her older cousin always brings his perverted friends around,and they are always doing crap to her.I am 14 also,and I dont want my friend to get raped.I am not going to rat her out because I really dont know if this is true or not,but I think it is.I tried to talk to her about this,but,it seems like she doesnt get it.And,I dont wanna see that to her.So,what should I do? Thanks for the help,peeps!

Answer 1

Call a police for help. Explain everything to the officer, before it's too late.

Answer 2

I don't want to be offensive, but I think you should try talking to her one more time, but this time come armed. Start off the conversation by giving her a condom, and then you can tell her how worried you are about what she might be getting herself into and how you at least want to see her prevent getting pregnant and/ or a disease. You could also try telling her how these guys aren't treating her with respect and that she's only going to make things worse by not removing herself from these situations. The more she lets them do, the less they are going to respect her. If she wants to fit in or find love, these actions will do nothing to help her. I've been a victim of rape before, and it happend with an older male friend. I was fourteen. Many years have passed since with much time for contemplation, and I think part of why it happened was because I was too scared to leave etc. I didn't want him to think I was a loser. That doesn't sound right to me now, but at that age it was important. The problem was I didn't realize what a loser he was and how it didnt' matter what he thought about me, no one should care what a pig who would do that to someone thinks. Do your best to make her see what losers these guys are, do your best to let her know how wonderful she is regardless of what they think. I really hope you succeed, because rape is a horrible thing to deal with, the emotional scars can last for years. It sounds like she already has confidence issues, and should this happen, they will only get worse. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey Jessica P, Im 15 years old and i have the same problem, my friend is always talking about this 24 year old guy she knows and she says that he wants to rape her. I don't know what i should do either, but after taking the time to think about what is best, i thought well, "maybe she is saying this stuff to show off?" but i highly doubt that because as far as i know she is truthful. anyways, the best thing in both of our situations is to, sit down, and NOT act like your worried. but ask her some questions, like, "so, did you have sex with him?" and if the answer is yes, then you could possibly say, "gosh girl, i would never do that..., that's dangerous." and when she says no it's not, tell her why it's dangerous. i wish i could help you more, but this is all i have. im sorry, and don't forget that others have the same problems and understand... good luck & god bless!


I really like chaosinmo's answer because, she has good advice, the part with just confront her with a condom, yeah you should do that! again best of wishes <3 good luck babe!

Answer 4

Since talking didn't work just try to be around her more and when she has something to talk about be there for her and listen. Also dont be so quick to give criticism, but be honest. This will let her know that you are there for her. If the behavior persist with the boys then maybe you should go tell someone who could help the situation. This will be difficult but your life and your friends life relies on it.

I hope you guys are okay!

Answer 5

When I was younger it seemed that some girls seemed to let guys do a lot of stuff to them sort of to avoid getting raped - like they thought if they were always willing and never said no, there would never be a fight about it. But still she is being abused if things are happening that she doesn't want to happen. I would try really hard to talk to her about and help her to keep herself out of situations where she is alone with guys and that older cousin.

Answer 6

There is always someone you trust that you can tell w/out making it seem like you told. Maybe an older bro./sis. someone who she respects and trusts. Try talking to her again. She might be doing this for a lot of different reasons (not just sex) maybe she is lonely and wants to feel liked. if something does happen you will feel really bad that you didn't stop it. Try your hardest to help her. If nothing works then at least you did everything you could.
Good luck.

Answer 7

My personnal opinion is that you wouldnt be ratting her out as much as possibly saving her life!! She might not only get raped, but something worse could happen! You are just being a friend to her & dont want to see anything bad happen to her. I suggest you get straight out blunt with her and tell her exactly how you feel. And make sure you let her know that you are not trying to be nosey...just worried about her well being.

Hope this helps!!

Answer 8

Well,You don't want to tell on her,and shes not listining to you!Well face it this is a problem,Does she dress or act like this for a reason,has she had sex before?I mean all I can tell you is Yes be worried and try to talk to her again if she doesn't listin,face it your going to have to rat,or watch you friend get raped or even worse..there are alot of weird people out there we as teens (i'm 14 also)see weirdos more and more try to help her.Good luck!Sorry I couldn't help to much

Answer 9

Unless you're willing to rat her out there's not much you can do. If you don't want to tell her parents then maybe there's a teacher or someone older that you can go to and explain that she's hanging out with some bad people and you are worried that's she's going to get hurt. Maybe if someone older tells her she's doing wrong she will listen.

Answer 10

Yes, you should be worried. If your friend is letting guys "do stuff" to her and she doesn't even realize it's wrong, then there's a problem. I suggest you talk to your school psychologist, guidance counselor, or social worker of your school. Ask someone to help you to help her. This girl needs someone to explain to her what is appropriate 14-year-old behavior and what isn't. You're a good friend for being concerned. Good luck!

Answer 11

all you can do is let her know you think,,as a friend that she is wrong,,that she is making herself out to be someone who these boys see as a toy,,someone who is 'up for it',she may have self esteem issues and the older she gets she will likely see her choices have led her to where she doesnt want to be but at 14 she may think she is in control and if she will not listen,she will not listen.do not be dragged down through peer pressure to become one of the girls,,it wont do you any favours.