Help me with my teen aged daughter, she is driving me crazy.?

Question

I have a 16 year old daughter who is driving me crazy, she seems to think that she has to have a boyfriend always. She can date one for a while and then go to another. She is going to have a bad reputation, if she don't already. She hardly ever runs around with girls, or girls her age. Most of her girl friends are at least one to three years younger than herself. She used to be very popular in school and ran with the upper class kids. Now she seems to run with the kids that get into trouble or are headed down. She is very pretty and has everything, even a brand new car she got for Christmas. I have tried taking to her and she comments, you never like any of my friends. I just don't like the ones she chooses. She can be easily influenced and it worries me to no end. What do I do to help her. Her class mates say she is a big flirt and I see this getting her in trouble. Her teachers say she is a pleasure to have in class and is a good student, but I see beyond all this. Help me.

Answer 1

Girls her age tend to be rebelling against their upbringing, and they sometimes get attracted to the kind of friends that are different than she is. I can sympathize with you because I had the same problem with my youngest daughter, we raised her to respect her elders and be on her best behavior as there are people that always like to gossip. But to no avail she got into the wrong crowd and I even had to change her from one School to the next,Eventually she realized that what she was doing was wrong and from that point on she started to be the daughter that I had before all this happened. My advice to you is above all else tell your daughter that you love her and are proud of what she had accomplished, and that you expect greater things for her in the near future and hope that she does not disappoint you. Maybe your daughter will realize that what she is doing is going to hurt you and her. have a long talk with your daughter, to make her realize what a big mistake she is making, and hope this will help to come to terms with her. Good Luck, and I hope this has helped you some.

Answer 2

Your dilemma is real. I agree with you that your daughter will either get pregnant or have a reputation that will attract bad people to her and drive away good people. Her life is in a downward spiral that will only end when she crash and burns.

How is that for drama? Lady, you're only living the life that millions of other parents are dealing with. You raised your daughter. Its now up to her to make the choices that you hope will be the correct ones. All you can do is establish guidelines for your home that she must follow, many children are looking for parents to blame when they talk to their friends.

You can also love her, support her and I suggest you sit her down and tell her of your concerns. She will brush you off, but at least you will have planted the seed of awareness within her. Hopefully that will keep another type of seed growing in her.

Answer 3

We all have, in our own way to be different,She is growing and maturing.Because she's popular.does'nt mean she has a reputation.If her school work is alright,it shows her head is ok.Let her enjoy the moment.Seems to me she's a bright girl and in a couple of years she'll be a prim little madam.Then you'll wonder what all the worry was over.

Answer 4

This is a phase. If you push her she will do the exact opposite of what you say. Try not to be too b!tchy about things. My daughter is 20 and I know this from personal experience.

Answer 5

Really there's nothing you can do. Try reverse psychiology. But really in the end she'll do what she wants. Try to stop telling her what to do, try to guide her and gradually give advice. Now that I think about it she sort of sounds like my big sister :) :)