I currently attend U of I at Urbana Champaign a pretty reputable and popular school. But I am on the verge of getting dropped because of my grades but it isnt official yet. I managed to raise one of my grades and the other is still on standby until I have a persuasive meeting with my Professor. But I am having second thoughts on fighting to stay, because I am trully miserable there. It is kind of like being in abusive relationship you feel you should stay because this guy is so attractive and people would bend over backwards to get with him but you arent happy in the relationship. Same with UofI I know I should stay because it is a very good school and Im lucky to have gotten in but I want to leave because I don't feel like I belong, Im not happy. I feel alone like I have a couple of friends that I knid of run into but no steady relationships and I figured if I havent made a steady friend in a whole semester then I probably wont make one and that UofI is wrong for me what should I do?
2007-01-02 10:32:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I am not planning on dropping out just going to like a communtiy college in my hometown to be closer to my family who will be there for me even when I get lonely.
2007-01-02 11:35:15 · update #1
It is ok to leave a school if you feel it is not right for you. If you are on the verge of having to leave anyway, are you able to bring your grades up if you do stay? Maybe you are just not ready for university of any kind yet. Do you have a plan? What will you do if you leave? That is what you need to have - a plan for next term that will be productive and interesting for you. You are young. There is plenty of time.
2007-01-02 10:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a serious look in the mirror. How would you feel if you "dropped out?". What would your alternatives be? Is this your first semester -- in which case things may improve.
Other things to consider -- Is it your major that you are having a tough time with? Is it the residence and the people in the residence that you don't connect with?
In general --whether its U of I, or any other school, being a freshman is tough. That is part of the "growing up" experience. My advice would be to stick it out. Relax about the whole experience. If you need help with study skills and things like that -- please see the paste from a previous posting:
Set up a study schedule that is realistic and stick to the schedule (Do not structure something that is too ambitious i:e: Studying 10 hours a day -- set up something realistic like may 3-5 hours a day).
In addition, some hints that I have learned -- read the chapters BEFORE the lecture. This will give you "reinforcement" as opposed to hearing the material for the first time -- which is an inefficient use of time. Also -- make your notes as soon as you can directly after class. Input your notes into files on your PC (and make backups) of the files. Print hard copies for your easy reference.
In other words -- be organized, and engage in "active learning"
One more hint -- use "old" exams to study from -- which are usually available in the library. This will give you a good idea as to the type of questions that are likely to be asked,
2007-01-02 18:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by yahooguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strenuously disagree with anyone who says go ahead and drop out. You'll always regret it. I hear you that you're having a rough time, but you don't want to establish a pattern in life that you run away when things are difficult. Fight like hell to stay, and do your very, very best. You'll always be proud of yourself when you think back on turning this situation around.
I wouldn't liken the college experience to an "abusive relationship" with an attractive louse. There is no parallel there. I do understand that it must be lonely since you haven't made any good friends yet, but that will come. You didn't say, but I am assuming you are a freshman? Go see an academic counselor and find out about tutoring or study groups for students who are having a rough time with their courses/grades. It will be a way to meet people and get support. Good luck and above all, hang in there! I want to read a post in a month or two that you stuck it out and are doing better! God bless.
2007-01-02 18:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting such bad grades? Is it just social reasons? You being miserable and thus not in the mood to study?
How active have you gotten? If you're in the dorms, maybe you need to switch dorms. Have you checked out clubs on campus? Gone to sports events or local hangouts to talk to people?
College is a pretty shocking experience. I came from a tiny high school to a large state university. I had no friends my freshman year. It was especially hard cuz I commuted from home so I didn't even see the two people I knew from high school. So, after being lonely for a couple of months, I started being active in clubs. Met people there and eventually grew to love my time at university.
Living on campus makes it easier to be involved. I met a lot more friends and reconnected with my high school ones once I stayed in a nearby apartment instead of living at home.
2007-01-02 18:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Linkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy, maybe you will never do as well as you could at the U of I. If you are looking for a smaller, much more personal school in the area, try WIU. I can tell you from experience that it is among the best schools for people who might be a little frightened by larger, less personal schools.
You must decide for yourself what you want out of life. If what you want requires an education, you must be confident enough to persue the degree. If you are considering graduate school, the location of the undergraduate degree matters less than your letter of intent and your writing sample. Even your GRE and GPA are more important than where you went to school.
If you are considering employment, your schools career services department is what matters, of course along with your resume and interview skills.
2007-01-02 19:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by DR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not attuned to the atmosphere there. And that's good. Bum around the real world for a few years and decide what's best for you. I'm 42 years old and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Hell, I don't want to grow up and that's O.K. too!
2007-01-02 18:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation like that years ago. I just dropped out and never looked back. Regreted it ever since.
2007-01-02 20:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by namegoeshere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋