I had my daughter four weeks ago. My husband and I want to have sex... but the doctors say six weeks! WHY?
Can we have sex sooner! I feel fine!!
2007-01-02 10:14:24 · 20 answers · asked by NaVy WiFeY 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok ok ok..i asked this question last week...my baby will be 3 weeks tomorrow and me and my fiance were DYING to have sex.
everyone said WAIT until youre healed, even if you feel good doesnt mean your body is ready...
i heard a lot of "theres other things that you can do"
well believe me, we did it all and we just wanted to have sex. soooo even though we WERE trying to wait the full 6 weeks (my fiance had been rather adamant about waiting to make sure that i was okay) we kind of got caught in the heat of the moment last night...and you know what??? it was GREAT! he didnt stay in long or go hard or anything and was very careful.
i know that there are risks involved, but everyones body is different. i had one small tear, the stitch fell out already and i am back to pre-pregnancy weight. i am very fortunate and didnt gain a lot of weight, had an easy pregnancy adn easy delivery.
so my doctor may feel a bit disrespected but most women know their bodies and know when theyre ready.
i would say, know the risks. know that the risk of infection is high because you more than likely had tearing if you delivered vaginally. ALSO know that you are your most fertile right now. u dont want to go back to your 6 week checkup with another one on the way. finally, know that it could hurt the first few times, or so ive heard...i didnt have that problem.
more than anything, just be careful, have fun, and use your best judgement...
good luck and congrats on the little one!!
2007-01-02 10:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Love my Family <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people don't wait the six weeks but it's your body and only you know when your ready. But know that it probably will be very tender and sore even though you don't feel it now and keep lots of lubricant on hand since it will be a while before your body goes back to pre-pregnancy sex drive.
2007-01-02 10:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by MELISA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to heal. Another big reason is because of infection. I have also heard of people ready before the six weeks. I think it is pretty much up to you and if you feel up to it. Sounds like you do. Make sure to use protection! I'm sure you don't want another baby just yet. Congrats on the baby!
2007-01-02 10:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body needs a little time to heal, but there are many people that begin to have sex again before the six weeks is up, but I will warn you that your chances of conceiving again are higher right after pregnancy!!!!
2007-01-02 10:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think it depends on the person. I know after having my daughter, we had sex after three weeks and it was really uncomfortable and sore for me, I wasn't even in the mood.
After I had my son, I was ready to have sex again in two weeks.
My doc never told me six weeks, he told me four weeks...
2007-01-02 11:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex five weeks after having my son and nothing happened except i got pregnant AGAIN. Thats why they tell you to wait for 6 weeks because you are at the most sterile fertile level.
2007-01-02 10:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Taquita S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wait the full time, but it's better to give your body some more healing time. Especially if you had a vaginal birth, you can easily irritate yourself having sex too soon.
I was ready at 4 weeks, but my husband refused to until 6 weeks.
2007-01-02 10:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by f319 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wife and I tried at 4 weeks and she just couldn't do it. You may feel fine but when everything starts gearing up for sex-mode, it's just too painful.
You need time to heal. Just because you feel fine, doesn't mean that your muscles are ready for "flexing".
Patience...patience
2007-01-02 10:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't bleeding anymore and you feel fine then it's fine. My husband and I resumed sex when our second child was only 3 wks old. It was fine but I'd recommend lots of lubricant. Hormones are still reaking havoc with your body. With my other three children my bleeding remained for several weeks so it was more by the guidelines.
2007-01-02 10:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to give your body time to heal after a vaginal delivery. 6 weeks is usually a guideline. we tried at 6 weeks, but I found that it was kind of tender.
2007-01-02 10:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋