how bad am I hurting my child all I do is cry and im scared that i might be doing something to my baby im 18 weeks pregnant... what r some things I can do to stop thinking about how to get my baby father back but he will not write to me and I think he is seeing someone else and i want him back so bad but he does not want me back what r some things that i can do to stop me from thinking about my baby father.....
2007-01-02 10:09:56 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know how hard it is to go through a pregnancy when the father is gone. just try to focus on your baby and remember that you need to be healthy and strong for that little one. it will probably take a while for you to completely get over him, but trust me once the baby is born you will be to busy caring for the baby to worry about him.good luck to you
2007-01-02 10:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your doctor and try to relax. The stress is not good for the baby. I suggest you focus on the baby right now and worry about dead-beat dad later. If he doesn't come back and live up to his responsibilities he is a complete loser and you don't need someone like that anyway. There are better men out there that will take care of you and the baby and your child will call him dad. If he does not return make sure you see a lawyer and make him pay up for the next 18 years.
2007-01-02 10:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by mikearion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know you can not force someone to love you, Pregnant or not.
To answer more on your question I would have to say this in closing,
Get into Yoga-meditation, some type of activity keep your mind focused on other things, and learn to still your mind from all the thoughts that make you sad, and replace them with thoughts that make you happy. What ever you do though above all, be gentle and love yourself. Then you may love others a little easier. Give yourself some time ok...do not jump into another relationship at this point. You need this time to develop other good qualities about yourself, the pain will go, "what does not kill us makes us strong". Do not do anything stupid, just get over it and remember we all have gone through it who are adults.
2007-01-02 10:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mijoecha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over the guy and think about the child. When the baby is born, you need to contact the father and then contact the courts so that you can set up a payment schedule for him to pay child support.
You are going ot have to realize that this man may be the baby's father, but he will most likely never be Dad. This man is obviously not interested in you or the child and you are just goingto have to get over it!
2007-01-02 10:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, a fetus feels what it's mother feels. You need to stay focused on yourself and your baby which is far more important than any man. You and your baby need each other right now. You need to forget about this man that did you wrong and maybe take up a hobby or attend special exercise classes that will benefit you and your baby. Most of all, talk to your baby. Babies hear everything while inside the womb.
2007-01-02 10:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am stressed, depressed and sad, I watch very funny movies and shows and hang out with my girlfriends or close female relatives for support.
This will keep your mind from thinking about your baby's father.
The worst thing you can do is to be by yourself. Go over to your friends house or call them up on the phone or call your mom or visit your mom.
I'm sending positive thoughts and energy your way, so maybe you will feel better.
2007-01-02 10:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come to the understanding within yourself that just because you cant be with someone, you can still love them so you can move on and take better care of baby. Your baby is affected by everything that you go thru. From nutrition to mental. Only you can do it though. No matter what anyone tells you, you will still do what you want to do. Take care and goodluck.
2007-01-02 10:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO MAN is worth your pain. Stop worrying about what he's doing and focus on the life that you have to take care of. Any man that wouldn't want his own child in his life is not a man but a boy. You are better off without him.
2007-01-02 10:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forget it, it's over. Did you not know that men don't want to feel trapped. Now you have a baby that most likley the system will have to pay for because you think you are so in love that you won't go after him for money. When you play you must pay, the sad thing is you are paying with your heart. Get over it or you will not be happy with the baby and find yourself abusing it. Why not think about adoption since you could not wait until you were in a marriage to have babies and raise them the right way. Sorry think twice the next time you spread your legs open for aome one who says I love you and has not proved it by asking for your hand in marriage.
2007-01-02 10:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by nk 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
like worry about no man is worth crying over. Think about your baby.
2007-01-02 10:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋