my boyfriend and i have started to go farher in our relationship but i kinda want to slow things down and get to know him better...is this a good idea..and how do i tell him i want to take it a little slower?
2007-01-02 09:58:38 · 15 answers · asked by Taylee L 1 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Physics
I'm not exactly sure how this relates to physics... chemistry or anatomy maybe, but Physics?
2007-01-02 10:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzling 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You *must* tell him. The longer you put it off the more 'obligated' you will feel, and the more secure he will feel. Bringing it up too late will give him the wrong impression.
This is why communication, forthrightness, honesty, and compassion are key to any good and healthy relationship.
Sit him down, don't make a big deal about it. Don't make it seem like a monumental 'issue', and have a specific goal in mind *before* you talk to him.
In other words, decide what you feel you need to happen to feel comfortable without going overboard, and also without 'shorting' yourself. Then just very casually lay these before him.
Do it with kindness and ease. If you are all nervous and build it up like it's some crisis he will take it that way. He will think there *is* something wrong, when there really isn't.
Why people don't speak up when the time is right I'll never know, but I guess it's human nature to a degree. I feel for you, and hope things will work out for you. I'm sure they will. Good luck.
2007-01-02 18:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question depends on WHY you want to take it slower.
What is wrong or missing with either you or him that you don't feel comfortable progressing in your relationship? Will that wrong be fixed? Can it be fixed? Will that missing be found? Can it be found?
I ask because its been my experience that relationships where the female wants to "take it slow" never work out since she's taking it slow with one guy, but will speed off a cliff with another guy at the same time since the first guy was never what the girl wanted in the first place. You need to examine the "why" of your question. As in "Why do I want to tell him?" instead of "How do I tell him?"
2007-01-02 18:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is easy. Just sit him down and tell him flat out that you feel like things are moving too fast and you want to slow it down. set down some ground rules, just so in the future you don't leave yourself in a situation that you are uncomfortable getting into. If he really cares about you then he will understand and agree to your guidlines. But please do not make him your pet because that will push him away. This could also be a test of your relationship to see how much the two of you care about eachother.
2007-01-02 18:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you arent sure of your relationship. If you have any trace of doubts .. go slower..Its your decision. You must not have the feelings as he has for you and that's smart of you. Dont let it go to far. Heartbreak is hard for you both and i suggest slowing down maybe seeing other people if you have any doubts.
2007-01-02 18:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how is this a physics question?
Anyway, you are the master of your self. If you don't want to go further with your boyfriend to go any further, you have to tell him that. If he gives you a hard time about it, stop seeing him and start looking for a guy that respects you.
2007-01-02 18:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say be honest. Tell him that you like him and want to keep dating him but its going a little fast for you. If he cares then he will make sure your comfortable and if he doesnt then you shouldnt be with him anyway.
2007-01-02 18:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by skatermike7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dont think to much just do what u r heart says.. i think u shud say it as it is straight because u may be having a valid reason for slowing down ....
2007-01-02 18:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by RS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest doing it when you guys are having a really good night, perhaps watching a movie..tell him that you have something on your mind- and tell him the truth, he should respect you for your wishes, and if he doesn't then thats his problem, not yours! :)
2007-01-02 18:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good decision.
You can explain your feelings to him, and ask him what he thinks about your idea. I think that he won't refuse to do it because it is good for him and you. Good luck
2007-01-02 18:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by James Chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋