My boyfriend of 7 years wants me to move in with him in June after a two-month recovery period after leg surgery. He's my landlord, and I've been living in one of the houses he owns. I've been living there about two years and absolutely love it there. Every weekend, I live with him in his house which I also love. I can't make up my mind if I want to keep things the way they have been or if I should move in with him which I would also love. But, then I would permanently lose my house to a new tennant. What should I do? I would be very happy with either arrangement, but I can't have both.
2007-01-02 09:42:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Other - Politics & Government
I'm leaning towards living with him.
2007-01-02 09:57:52 · update #1
After 7 years, it's time to get married. Why should you take a risk without a commitment?
2007-01-02 09:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, the relationship seems to be pretty serious if you've been dating for so long. which is more important to you: living with the man you love or living in a house? i know you like it a lot, but maybe you can convince him later to move in there. after all, he owns the place, so that's always an option. but in the end, it's what you feel you should do, not what random strangers say to you.
2007-01-02 17:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by HansonFan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you will have more than both. It is not the materialistic things that you should be thinking about.
If where you live is more important to you; Then I would advice you to let him go, since he is not the most important thing to you.
You both will end up being miserable. If he is the most important
thing to you reach a compromise till you both are sure where you want to go.
2007-01-02 17:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by esteli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if you have a rough patch with your boyfriend, you not only lose your home there, but also don't have a house to go back to. Living apart allows you to have time away from him when it is needed. This is especially important since he has "power" over you as your landlord. This is a bad idea...don't do it.
2007-01-02 17:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just stay in the house you currently reside in. I mean it won't hurt your relationship so why bother to move? Besides you don't know how things will turn out after you guys move in together...Good luck and best wishes...
2007-01-02 17:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have both, you said it yourself. Your reluctance to move in with him and give up your independence in the other home you love is very telling. You don't sound entirely ready to give up the house you are in, nor are you ready to give it up to live with him. Maybe staying where you are is the answer. Only you know what you want to do.
2007-01-02 17:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by teacupn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Come on you, shouldn't have this kind of dilemma. You are trying to chose between the person you love and a house... are you serious?.
2007-01-02 17:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get married you should occupy the same bed in the same house
2007-01-02 17:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by curious_One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to move in with you or buy a new house togather that you both like
2007-01-02 17:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by The Brown Bomber 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he wants to marry you, in a relationship one must make sacrifices etc.. if you love him, do it, but if not don't stress anything and tell him to wait
2007-01-02 17:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by infinitcash 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋