If your lover is trying to cut you off from your family and friends, blames you that you are fooling around with others when you make any plans with your friends to have a cup of coffee for an hour to catch up with and let him know that you will be with your friends and he wants to be with you everywhere you are going to, shows a frustration and anger, humiliates you under "jokes" in front of your friends with the past events that you told him changing the facts of the events that you said, says different things about the same story that he told you earlier at different moments and becomes violent and wants you to read his mind in the second month, goes to someone else's home for sex without letting you know while you wait for him wondering where he is and tells you the story after standing you up and putting the blame on you, is this a sign of abuse and manipulation? What could be the root of this when you try to communicate with him with a decent tone and he still screams at you?
2007-01-02 09:27:02 · 7 answers · asked by bubi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes it is a sign of abuse and manipulation, it is a sign of insecurity on your lovers part, feeling he is inadequate in the relationship. You should leave such a person, for they will never change, they see nothing wrong with their behavior, and will only get more violent as the relationship progresses. For your own safety, get out of this relationship.
2007-01-02 09:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i became married for 25years, we had 5 young little ones as I craved love yet became basically controlled and so on. even after i ultimately have been given away while the youngsters have been older i became nevertheless being controlled. we've been divorced for over 3 years now and that i'm gradually regaining my existence and self esteem. sure it somewhat is somewhat difficult and you'd be wanting to provide up at cases, yet get somebody you may have faith that can assist you, sure, without buddies its not difficulty-free, yet locate somebody, a technique or the different that can assist you. sturdy luck
2016-10-19 09:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask this question then you must know in your heart what the answer is going to be - this person is scared mentally by things in his past - don't let his poisoned mind and irrationality make you as crazy as he is! it will wear you down to the point that you will start to imagine that what he is saying is right and that will send you to the loony bin, believe me i know! - get out now while you have the chance
2007-01-02 09:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by lilith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity.
2007-01-02 09:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
INSECURITY. Run, don't walk to the nearest door and get away from the psycho. If you stay, shut up and take it, because you deserve it for not respecting yourself more.
2007-01-02 09:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He had a really messed up childhood. And I would advise you to stay far, VERY far away from him. You wll deteriorate mentally. My aunt is in that same situation. She is dying now.
2007-01-02 09:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would have to have a pretty low self-esteem to go on like that. I don't know anyone that would have let it get that far. You should just leave.
2007-01-02 09:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by DA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋