........that he's married (unhappily) and I have a BF (unhappily). He keeps calling and coming by my work, and I know I should try and put a stop to it, but...............
Am I a bad person for even thinking about it?
2007-01-02 09:22:57 · 26 answers · asked by south_san_chica 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
What is it with married men..STAY AWAY FROM HIM...It's a good thing I'm not his wife...for your sake!!!
2007-01-02 09:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he making any moves to break it off with his wife? Because if he's not, that's not good.
Also, are you another person in a long string of extramarital relationships this guy has had? Or are you the only one? Because if he hasn't cheated before, that's not as bad as if he's had a bunch of other girlfriends while he was married, and you're just another conquest.
It's generally not a good idea to go with a married man. Tell him that you won't consider a relationship with him until he makes moves to divorce his wife. Of course, you'll have to break up with your boyfriend, too. But if those relationships are really as unhappy as you imply, that shouldn't be a problem.
2007-01-02 17:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not happy with your boyfriend? I think you are disrespecting your boyfriend by continuting to encourage this relationship/flirting etc.
You should deal with issues in order. 1) If you don't want to be with your BF let him know now. Very selfish to drag him along while you think of others. 2) Why do you want to see someone who is married and disrespecting the woman who loves him? He may someday do the same to you.
My advice is to breakup with the boyfriend and look to start dating someone who is single. If and when your other friend gets a divorce and can prove he lives alone etc...then maybe you can consider him.
My advice: Find a new guy other than these two or try to work out problems with boyfriend. Don't embarass someone who has been good to you.
2007-01-02 17:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When married men want something.....they're always unhappily married whether it's the truth or not. I'd put on the brakes at the very least.
2007-01-02 17:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Doug 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That old chestnut, married men who play around are always unhappy, its the lost puppy syndrome. If your unhappy with your boyfriend ask yourself why? and think about the relationship.
Forbidden fruit is generally not that wonderful after the first bite.
Your not bad for thinking about it, but think about why you thought about it in the first place and solve that problem, don't create more.
2007-01-02 17:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by dancingmaveric 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person, but it's never a good idea to get involved with a married man. They always say they're going to get a divorce, but they never do.
2007-01-02 17:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's married. . . if I were u I wouldnt go there, u having a bf, u can break up with him if ur not happy. . .now the married guy can tell u a lot of things, but dont trust him unless u see the divorce papers
2007-01-02 17:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lil'MissSnshne 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Carry on as you are and it'll only lead to trouble. Break up with your respective partners if you're really that unhappy then start enjoying quality time together.
2007-01-02 17:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by PT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my Grandma use to say "There's big trouble a brewin'", first don't stay in a relationship you're unhappy in. Free yourself from that burden. Second, if he's serious he will also do something about his relationship and soon.
If he doesn't, he's just leading you on, cut it loose.
2007-01-02 18:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to make it personal by saying you are bad. But you are wrong. Stop it now. It is only 1/4 of the heartache that you will feel should you pursue this.
2007-01-02 17:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it can only come to a bad end. You should both resolve your current realtionships respectively before pursuing each other.
2007-01-02 17:28:09 · answer #11 · answered by marie_roberts2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋