i know he's the right guy im just a little nervous and need some advice so anything that you think would be interesting please let me know. position. time. etc
2007-01-02 08:47:57 · 12 answers · asked by cynthia v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
make him wear a raincoat!!!
2007-01-02 08:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by dr_greybeard 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm concerned.
If you're asking this question in this way, odds are you aren't aware of everything you're starting.
Consider that if he's older than you, and you're a minor, your parents could have him locked up for rape. If you love him like you claim to, you won't put him in that compromising position.
Wait until you're both legal adults, then if you still want to give him your virginity, there are a few things to consider:
1) You're not just sleeping with him, you're sleeping with everyone he's ever slept with. Use a condom. They're free at most "Planned Parenthood" locations.
2) Having sex with someone doesn't mean that they're going to stick around for the long term. Make sure that you know he's going to hang around, or that you're ready for the emotional pain when he leaves.
3) Start slow and gentle. Even if its your first time, contrary to popular belief, it should not hurt. Yes the breaking of the hymen needs to happen, but there are more gentle ways than others of making that happen. Finger play (use gloves) as well as sex toys (new, sterilized, or condom clad) can also help gently break the hymen.
4) Know that this will change you physically. Your body will respond in ways to make you want sex more at the times when you're more likely to get pregnant. Be in tune with your body.
5) When you do get down to the physical aspect of sex, "slow and steady" wins the race.
6) Know that this will change you emotionally. Your feelings may vary, but some people get depressed with "That's it?" type thoughts. Some people feel a sense of relief, some grieve. Know that whatever you feel about it, that it's completely normal and valid. Make sure that your partner is supportive.
Regardless, sex isn't something to be taken lightly. Each and every time you're intimate with someone, to a degree all of these things should be in your head. Whatever you do, make sure to take care of yourself and your partner. Loving decisions, even if they mean "no sex" are still the right decisions.
2007-01-02 17:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by putermd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you know? You should wait.
What you should do? Wait.
That's one of the only things you have, you.. consider also the person that answered and said, you'll be not only with him, but all folks he was with.
It's more spiritual than people care to realize, and check your surroundings in the world. There are increases of many things on the rise... and no commitments and so on... don't give yourself away so easy. There is much more to life than that moment. Know who you are. Know where you plan to be in your future. That's what else u should do, definitely know who you are, what you stand for, and where you plan to be. Refuse to be another statistic. Many folks head down the baby momma road, and giving yourself away is where it begins. Not just baby momma hood, but some go from relationship to relationship, left unfullfilled everytime. I understand you might have thought about a lot before now, I wish you could e-mail me. But, seriously think about it again, and what you are really looking for in your future, and at least consider waiting. I say until marriage. And I practice what I say, so I'm not just telling you something I'm not doing. But just think about it again... look at the examples of those around you, friends, others in your community, on tv... take a second look. Once certain emotions and feelings are welcomed into your life, all you'll be able to do is wish you didn't have to have certain feelings. Consider waiting, trust me on this.
If you tell him no, and if your groomed into the moment, or any light threats like I thought you loved me and so on, or show me how much you love me.... if he says that...know that the guy really doesn't care about you. If he cain't wait for you..... he's looking for a girl like great america. Just another ride.... Stay smart, don't ever be afraid to talk to someone, and many times don't be afraid to talk to someone you trust about this kind of stuff. I hope you have that in your life. God Bless.
2007-01-04 16:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Let Me Tell U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"ima loose" ??? You are obviously way too young to be thinking about losing it. If he's older, and has lots of experience, then his goal in life is to steal girls' virginity and move on. If that's what you want to happen, you will have a long, miserable life ahead of you!
2007-01-02 16:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's going to hurt and going to bleed. That's about all you need to know and understand. Your first time may not be all that much fun but believe me....it will in time get better. Just relax and try to remember that the gift you are giving him is the ultimate gift.
2007-01-02 17:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to know is that if he is "experienced" you will get all of the germs and microbes that he has picked up from his other bed mates.
You are a virgin! Don't you realize what a special gift you have to give your future husband??!! Don't give it away to someone who has proved that he will move on to the next body. Please think it over. You have something very special that you cannot get back.
2007-01-02 16:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by bagoftwix 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.well first of all how old are you, and how old is he?
2. make sure his first name doesn't start with an R and that his last name isn't Kelly!
3. relax and stay calm
4. make sure to have a lot of lubricants for comfort.
5. make sure you lose it in a nice respectable place....(not the park or backseat of a car)!
6. make sure to let him know if something doesn't feel right
7. make sure if this is what you really want!
8. make sure to have plenty of condoms! Please use em.......even thou you think he's the one, guys do lie!
Take care girl and please don't be in a rush to lose it, for you don't want to regret it later in life!
2007-01-02 17:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by MYPHARRELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First time always sucks, wait till you're older!
2007-01-02 17:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jnine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best position for you, put your knees together, and your hands in your pockets, maintain this position untill you are old enough to consider the issue of sex responsibly
2007-01-02 16:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by marduk D 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
spread your legs WIDE or stuff your face in the pillow
2007-01-02 16:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋