im 15
my bf is 15
we have been together for 3 months
we BOTH wanna be alone
we are catholic
we BOTH wanna remain virgins
2007-01-02 08:34:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hmm .... things might change you know .... when you two are alone . in a room . yarh , you should know what i meant .
2007-01-02 21:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by precious moments babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, making some assumptions. You love your parents and your parents love you. You and your boy friend are normal teenagers. You don't use drugs, drink, or smoke. You attend church regularly. You don't tak back to your parents or teachers. You do well in school.
If all that is true, why are you questioning your parents. Do what they say.
Ok, kill the assumptions.
Your parents are trying to protect you. They don't know if you and your boyfriend are mature or strong enough to handle feelings that may occur when you are alone with your boyfriend. Sexual feelings are very strong and the will power to stop an activity.
At your age, you are probably wanting to kiss and make out; that is to participate in mutual masturbation - though usually not to orgasm. It's stopping before that point that is hard. And each time, there is a desire to go a little further. This is what your parents are trying to prevent.
I'm sure they expect beleive you are probably finding time to try some of these things. The fewer opportunities you have alone, the less they expect you will be doing. Take what opportunities you have, but don't expect to have a lot of opportunities. This should not be an invitiation to go as far as you can with each opportunity.
As you get older, you will get more chances to be alone. And as you get older, you will be in a better position emotionally to handle your sexual urges.
2007-01-02 09:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well what's alone to you? Going out just the two of you to go eat, to a movie, etc.? Or to be in your room with the door shut alone?
Alone can have several different meanings, and can sound like several different things. I'm 17 and I still can't have my door shut if that's the one your talking about, or if it's to be left alone at the house when there not home. I still can't have that either. If you both want to remain virgins you should be glad that yoru parents are giving you restraints. I wanted to remain a virgin until my wedding day but lost it at 15 because a parent wasn't at home, and did things because parents always let us have freedom. Hormones can eventually get to you and build up. So I would just wait until you get older to ask to be alone, you've only been with this guy for only 3 months.
But good luck with your parents if you try to talk to them again.
2007-01-02 09:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by mtoWCS09 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Best advice I can give is lay low your parents are up tight and they will not change until you are in your later years. Trust me don't think about sex until you re at least in a long term relation ship and been to get here with your partner for until a few years and are planning to get married. Don't hide be kids together enjoy everything such as skating, movies and out door activities.
Try to go out on the weekend and let your parents know where you are going SO THEY DON'T THINK YOU ARE HAVING SEX!
2007-01-02 09:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Can answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have a talk with your parents. Tell them your not having sex and that you and your bf both want to remain virgins. Just tell her that you and your bf want to have some alone time. Tell her your not going to have sex but your relationship needs it. Your parents were young once believe it or not and they should respect you and your bf alone time. If you do have sex be honest and tell your parents. They should at least give you that most to be honest.
2007-01-02 08:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by alibrown08 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to pick the first answer as the best answer because he got the right answer in a nutshell.Things do change as soon as soon you are alone,and your parents do know this becuase like the first answerer said,your parents were young at one time too.
2007-01-02 09:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can understand their children with their body language because they know you since you could not speak even. This age itself is such that you can not resist the temptation of enjoying sex when you are living together. Pl. accept the truth to your parent.
2007-01-02 08:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Pramod 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only a foolish parent says, "Oh no, my kid isn't having sex". If she thinks that you are having sex, don't worry about it. Just be satisified in the fact that you know that you aren't. And if you really want to convince her that you aren't, make sure she knows where you are every moment of the day.
2007-01-02 08:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well tell them if they dint trust you how are you gonna trust them if u not having sex tell your parents to take you to a doctor to get proof you are not having as if I'm saying get a "virginity test" or just explain why do you want to have more privacy. GOOD LUCK :-)
2007-01-02 09:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by caitlyn_so_fly 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Things change when your alone, and soon the justifications will come into the mix. Parents were young once too.
2007-01-02 08:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents DO trust you. Whatever they are doing is to take care of you and that doesn't mean they don't trust you. I think you should trust them as much as they trust you. It's not about telling everyhing, it's about believing what they do and say is for your own good and obeying them and doing what they say.
2007-01-02 08:39:52 · answer #11 · answered by carmelitacerda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋