Suspect my GF of 10 months is/ has been cheating on me with a married friend of hers. My proof is not concrete at all. Instead of getting into the long details of my story, I'm going to list out ways in which I think she isn't cheating on me:
She's 25
Holds a professional job from 7 AM - 3 PM.
Holds a secondary job as a music instructor from about 5 PM - 8 PM.
Lives at home with her parents (can't bring him home to them obviously)
Almost all of her free time (other than sleeping) is spent with me...any time not spent is usually odd hours where cheating would not easily take place (weekday/ weekend afternoon, weekend morning, etc.)
She never flakes out on me, never cancels plans with me
95% of the time she picks up her phone when I call
Always calls me when she says she will
Does the usual GF stuff with me
He (the friend) lives with his wife/ daughter (obviously they can't do anything there).
Does this sound like the actions/ signs of a cheating/ unfaithful person?
2007-01-02 08:32:35 · 20 answers · asked by ten_looking_for_a_ten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is mostly for my own assurance. Been freaking out all day. Rather not confront her until I have all the proof I need but it's difficult pretending everytime I see her that everything is alright. However, confronting her and realizing that I was wrong could also created trust problem on her end when they weren't there in the first place!
2007-01-02 08:35:16 · update #1
Where's the fact list of why you think she's cheating on you? There's not a single reason from your list to believe that she is cheating on you. You need to give more information on why you think she is cheating. Otherwise, you are just paranoid.
2007-01-02 08:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to cheat, it will be during a time that you least expect. For instance, during her work hours. She could start taking "long lunches" or maybe have "off-site meetings." These excuses provide the perfect cover for an affair. If you discover that she is out of the office more than usual, non-chalantly ask her about how her day went. If she hesitates, is evasive, or speaks in generalities, that is a potential red flag.
It is tough to catch someone cheating. Usually, a cheater is caught by accident.
If you can somehow access her computer and find out if she has any secret email accounts, or perhaps visited questionable web sites, you obviously have a red flag.
Maybe you can access her cell phone, and check to see numbers she has called or received... or any missed calls. If you see the same number repeated times.... you might have a red flag.
Another red flag is changes in sexual appetite or sexual practices, a change in hairstyle or wardrobe, or a new interest in different foods, drinks, or music.
Usually, when one half of a couple suspects the other of cheating, there is a good reason for such suspicions.
good luck.
2007-01-02 08:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be your own insecurites, or maybe you have cheated on her. The fact is whether she is cheating on you or not, it doesn't matter because you already suspect she is... no matter the reason.
If I were you I'd let it go for awhile, people can feel vibes, and if ou believe she is cheating your going to be suspicious and distant at the same time. You need to let it go and Love your girl the way she needs to be loved, if she's cheating you'll find out soon enough. I'm not saying be blind, but don't create unnecessary stress in your relationship.
2007-01-02 08:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets see...do you think she is cheating on you? Id have to see what the evidentce was to be sure. By all the info here id say that if she did cheat on you it isnt very often or was just one time.....have you seen her at both jobs? Check to see if she really has them both without ever letting her know your going to ahead of time. other than that id say she isnt.
2007-01-02 08:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Vyktor1971 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, maybe i'm missing something, but what are the reasons you think she IS cheating on you? something must have put that idea in your head, or you wouldn't be finding all the reasons why she's not.
2007-01-02 08:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by angeltear757 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound extremely paranoid. Sounds like your problem is your lack of confidence to keep a woman. Perhaps you were hurt before.
2007-01-02 08:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please ease up on her. Sounds like she's just trying to focus on her life and get it together. Doesn't sound suspicious at all, but I agree w/ Laughing Libra. Are you scared of this relationship becoming more of a commitment?
2007-01-02 08:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by sktchgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, there is a problem in the relationship even if it isn't cheating.
2007-01-02 08:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this sounds like you are too controlling. If she is not cheating or looking elsewhere, she will be soon enough.
2007-01-02 08:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by professionalmuse4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go looking for anything. Because when you will you will always get disappointed in the end.
2007-01-02 08:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mizz.Purdy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋