girls are already messed up with eating disorders and **** and you're sitting there saying wow shes hot, and ten you mak your girlfriend throw up. she wants to be perfect for you you know. why do u do that to a girls self esteem?
2007-01-02 08:19:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She wants to be perfect until she gets a ring on her finger; then she can let herself go.
2007-01-02 08:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Aww, honey. I know exactly how you feel. You sound exactly like me just a few years ago. That s*** used to really get to me too.
Not anymore though! Take control of the situation. Develop a body that you are very proud of. The best way is through weights; they make you shapely and firm. Eat frequent, nutritious meals (Zone diet is the BEST). YOU DO NOT NEED AN EATING DISORDER TO BE THIN. Be smart; do it the healthy way.
Step 2 is to control your thoughts. I think you are having negative thoughts about yourself. Always praise yourself (to yourself!). In your own mind, be as conceited as you want; its good for your self-esteem and personality! Don't EVER put yourself down. I am hotter than a lot of the VS models, and I don't care if that's conceited to say or not. You might be hotter than alot of them too. If not, you can be, with the right diet, exercise, and mental attitude!
Finally, if you want your boyfriend to be super-attracted to you: Do not show insecurity in front of him; its not sexy!! Instead, just flirt with him! Show confidence; men are VERY attracted to that, believe me.
2007-01-02 17:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for a little biology 101 and how men and women look at each other.
Women are genetically predisposed to be attracted to powerful males as potential mates. This offers the best chance of raising offspring to the point they can fend for themselves. In the early days that was the bigger stronger males but in today’s society rich men or men in positions of authority equate powerful so there is a biological response. For men, the dominate males had their choice of mates so the female biological response was physical beauty. The more attractive you are the more likely you were to attract the big dominant males, so we are biologically designed to recognize certain traits as desirable. Evolution and biology in practice.
Don't get mad at us for following behavior that millions of years of evolution has so deeply ingraned into our behavior.
2007-01-02 16:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by crazyhorse19682003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
judging by the other questions you have also asked, you have a serious problem with your self perception. how 'overweight' are you? i ask because it is one thing for the question to be asked by a large person, and another by a person who 'thinks' that they are too fat.
being 'good looking' has only a little to do with weight. ones face, ones disposition, and the image one chooses to mimic through ones choice of clothing all have more to do with ones being attractive to others. not many women actually qualify as a "hottie", and you should not be surprised to find out that most men do not dig the skeletal female. one the other hand, many of us do like the idea of being able to lift our partner every now and then.
you have a warped perspective about yourself and others. do not worry, that is easily fixed. don't listen to or imitate the idiots.
2007-01-02 16:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by bjohnson808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love means not having to be perfect. True love is about acceptance of who the person really is, not what they look like on the outside. From my experience, I never minded my husband looking @ VS. He was totally committed to me & I knew that, just as he knew I was totally committed to him. He passed away in 2005 @ the age of 42.
2007-01-02 16:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by wanda3s48 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't do that to girls. Girls do that to themselves. When a girl looks at pictures of other skinny girls and feels bad, then it's her fault. Why would you look at a magazine that you know makes you depressed? And most chick magazines (Cosmo and all those knock offs) are all written mostly by women, so women produce the image, not men.
2007-01-02 16:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by gregtkt120012002 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate whiners. I really do, i used to be a feminest, then i realized how stupid it was, lets whine about everything in the world because i don't like myself. It disgusts me. like you don't have anything better to do than whine, how about you go out in the world and get a job and stop complaing about the way you look. Some women are beautiful, big deal, stop complaing because they look better than you do and you can't look as good as they do. Why is it wrong for a women to be skinny, or to look beautiful. No one is standing there, saying you need to look like her. I happen to think that skiny girls really don't look that good, i prefer a little chunkyness myself. I hate the fact that poeple want to complain because poeple are beautiful. But yes, keep your comments to yourself, it's better for all of us.
2007-01-02 17:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Static_zero 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Us chicks should be strong enough to love us for us, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. And, if that's what your bf does, you're not with a good guy. He should love you for you.
2007-01-02 16:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have no problem with it. i am farrrrr from skinny, but i don't get mad or jealous when i see a skinny girl. u need to be secure with yourself and not let a man rule how u feel about yourself.
2007-01-02 16:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋