I'm 16 and pregant . I don't know wether or not to keep the baby or give it up. I have talk to my parents and they said that they respect my decesion either way. What should i do!?!?!?!?
2007-01-02 08:18:01 · 20 answers · asked by Sexy Mama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that at 16, and you are lucky enough to have lucky parents to support your decision, I'd say keep the baby. It'll be tough, but you may end up regretting giving the baby up.
2007-01-02 08:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like you can take care of a baby? Since, thankfully, you are not considering abortion, and have a close enough relationship to your folks, you seem to have a bit more maturity than most 16 year olds. It will be hard either way.
How close are you to finishing high school? Can you still attend classes while pregnant? If you decide to keep the baby, you have a lot of work cut out for you, but it sounds as if you have a great support structure at home. Just know this. There are many deserving families who can't have babies of their own, but if you decide to give that baby up, you are relinquishing all parental rights. You can decide when you are 26 that you are stable enough to raise your child.
I hope I gave you some info that will make your decision easier. Good luck in whatever choice you make.
2007-01-02 16:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maia's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say keeping this child would be the best thing that ever happend to you. It would definatly teach you responsibility!!! If your parents will respect your decision, then most likely they will help you in what ever ways they can. Children are the most precious gifts from God!! This being said.. if don't think you could be a great mother, then give your child up for adoption. There are such things as open adoptions if you still wanted to be a part of your childs life. Because there are LOTS of women who can't have there own children and would love to adopt a child to love and treat as their own.
I know a few girls that were in my class that got pregnant at 16 (they were all 3 pregnant at the same time) 2 of them stayed in school and the other dropped out. She got a job. But the other two finished school and went on to college. They are the best mothers they knew how to be. It can be done!
Sweetie, just follow your heart. And whatever decision you make, remember the concequences next time!
2007-01-02 16:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rileigh's MOMMY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
I had this same problem but I am 15 and pregnant, me and my boyfriend thought this same thing but my parents are trying to force me to give the baby up for adoption. Well after 8 months of thinking we have decided to keep our little one. I am just saying do what makes you happy because you are the one that lives with the decision in the long run. If you think you are going to want a normal teen life, with parting and friends I would suggest adoption. But you can do what I did and weigh out the pros/cons. It is really a difficult choice for young teens to make. I know I have posted many questions just like this seeking advise, but these people are really judging and critical. Well if you need to talk to sombody going through the same thing then E-mail at Jill71691@yahoo.com. I can help alot. really
2007-01-02 16:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are lucky to have support either way just get through the pregnancy without partying or anything (not to say you do) many women find it hard to give a baby up when they carry it for 40 weeks it is youre decision and you do not have to make it in a big hurry take youre time and relax i had my son at 16 and he is now 7 i am 24 and very pleased with the outcome of my life !! you will make the choice that is best for you and of course input from the daddy may be useful!! good luck keepyoure head up
2007-01-02 16:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by tasha l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 and pregnant, and I keep my daughter. Its the best thing I ever did. Just make sure you stay in school or get your GED. I got my GED and I am happy I did. I love being a teen mom. I am 19 now and have two little girls that look up to me everyday. They smile at me and my 2 year old tells me that's she loves me. You have to do what you think is right, but don't do something you will regret. Love goes alot farther then lots of money. I wish you all the luck in the world and if you ever need to talk, email me. I know what its like. Best wishes
2007-01-02 16:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by kristin h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to always do whats best for you. If you decide to keep the baby make sure that your parents are going to be there to help you out. because a baby isnt exactly cheap. if not you could always go for adoption and give your baby to a woman that cannot have kids. or you could have an abortion. but the bottom line is to do what you think is right. and when you go to sleep at night you know you made the right decision.
2007-01-02 16:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by jessg323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. First off, relax. You've got about 35 weeks to think about this, so calm down.
I want you to make a list of the pros and cons of keeping the baby at your age. Make sure that you include things revolving around finances, your social life, doctor's appointments, your sleeping schedule, your school schedule, and your parents' schedule.
Also, make a list of the pros and cons of giving the baby up for adoption.
It's always going to be your choice, but at this point, try to think of what's best for your baby. If you think that you're going to be able to give a baby the life that it deserves, keep it. If you think that you're too young, and that the responsibility is going to be too much, consider adoption.
2007-01-02 16:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have a abortion it is wrong you it will still be with you for the rest of your life adoption is really great there are alot of great people that really want babies... I think 16 is way to young to take care of a child but if you have help then that might be okay but i firmly believe in a mother and a dad it helps with the child knowing how relationships should be...
2007-01-02 16:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by GrassRootsRabbits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to another trusted adult for an unbiased opinion. Even call your local Planned Parenthood. They will have someone sit with you and go over all your options and help you to figure out what is best for you. Only you can make that decision, but lean on others to make sure you make the right one. This is such a heavy burden, don't do it alone, be thankful that your parents are supportive of whatever decision you make.
2007-01-02 16:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋