What did I do wrong?

Question

I asked a close female friend that we need to lose contact for awhile-so that I can get over my feelings for her.She said “If thats how you feel sweetheart,ok and that maybe you do need time out”.She only wants to be friends.The conversation ended with an argument, with her calling me 2 faced and selfish.(asked her if she ever felt anything for me and for her to be truthful).Why would she call me this? We're close friends.

We've not spoken for a whole month.I have tried calling\txting(last 2 days) and have got no response from her.For christmas I sent a card saying how important the friendship is to me and how special she is.In the txt I wrote how stupid I behaved and I regret it,would do anything to make amends. Why hasn't she responded to the missed calls\txts???Also the xmas card?

Could I have offended\hurt her really that much-how could I if she agreed to no contact?

Does this mean the friendship was never genuine?Will we speak again--or is she clearing her head?

We’re not a couple.

When would she get in touch?

I really want to get in touch.She wanted to remain friends-so I am respecting her wishes,no?I have delt with my feelings-so I'm ready to get back in contact

She said that we're only friends---could she have possibly fancied me and not told me?

Answer 1

give it time ,if she is a genuine friend she will contact you ,be patient

Answer 2

There is really no explanation for her calling you two faced and selfish, you were only being honest and truthful about your feelings and she should be grateful for that. It does seem that she may have felt the same way for you and when she found out about your feelings, she felt scared and decided to push you away. You should really have a long talk and sort things out. If you call her and she doesn't answer, then try again and if she still doesn't answer, then you're going to have to reach her some other way. Be persistent and don't give up until you sort this out between yourselves...it's the only way to solve misunderstandings... If she doesnt want to hear any of it, then the friendship wasn't true and you should focus on other important people in your life. I hope this works out for you and i wish you all the happiness in the world...you seem a very genuine person...Good Luck! :)

Answer 3

it sounds like she could of had feelings too, but wanted to see if the friendship was going to turn into anything! But on the other hand she might not have expected you to have had feelings for her, that's a hard one, all i would say is, if you don't get any response from the text or cards then take it as she don't want to know, she might have met someone and don't wanna hurt ya feelings, i suppose there's lots of reasons, but unless she tells ya your not going to know, send one last text saying that it will be the last text and your sorry that your friendship ended the way it did, and stick to it, don't send anymore, she might think twice,(if shes getting them) if that don't work nothing will.....
Unless of course you go to her home and try and speak....
Good luck and all the best for 2007

Answer 4

Don't think about what she said just look at her actions. She has obviously cut herself off from all contact with you and I think you have to accept that is what she wants; but no, I do not think , on the basis of what you have written that you could have offended her . if you have then she would have to be a rather oversensitive little flower and that is not your problem. It seems that there was not a real friendship as most people would understand it. Forget her and move on.

Answer 5

Well, it sounds like she thought she did something wrong to begin with (when you separated yourself from her) and that may have hurt her feelings.

It sounds like you are going to be forced to wait it out. It is possible that she did have feelings for you but did not want to ruin the friendship, which is why she is giving herself space now.

I would just stop trying to contect her, if she is not responding you are just going to frustrate yourself by keeping it up.

If your friendship was a great one, it will re-kindle when she is ready to talk about it.

Just sounds like immaturity (the name calling). So do NOT think that is your fault.

Good luck

Answer 6

I have no idea what to tell you. Maybe show up at her house with a box of chocolates and a movie? Definitely not flowers, that will send the wrong message. Good luck!

Answer 7

i doubt it. if she did like you, then she would have been the first to make contact. girls dont like it when boys dont pay them attention, so she would have anitiated some contact in this gap. instead shes ignoring yours so i think she may just be a bit fed up and needs some time to chill without being hassled. you do seem to concentrate on your feelings alot and i think shes probably taking time out to think about hers. dont keep pestering her, she'll come round when shes ready. good luck x

Answer 8

You need help,you ask this question everyday,if you spent less time on here and more time living in the real world you wouldn't keep asking,aaaaarrrrgggghhh

Answer 9

chances are she did like you and wondered why you didn't ask her out already?! also, she could, possibly think that you are gettin over her for another girl when in reality you had nothing romantic in the first place.

Answer 10

Umm,, you asked the same question like 348 times, dont you get tyred,?
I mean if she dosent want to talk to you then let her go,,

Answer 11

just give it some time... she probably wants to think everything through before talking to you again...
have you tried asking her if you can talk about this with her face to face? it's more personal, so it can make it easier if you have problems to resolve...
good luck!