sister married 2 years, she had 15 yr girl he had 17 yr boy. now, 17 & 19, are in lust for each other and hiding it. what can the family do to separate them? its not right. they all live together and the girl has alienated all friends from her and he too, he's not a "good" boy either, drugs/alcohol problems, she was once a great student, college bound, and now, is circling the drain. any advice?
2007-01-02 08:08:17 · 12 answers · asked by CATHRYN K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did you see the movie "Cruel Intentions"? Everything worked out wonderfully for them!
2007-01-02 08:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... you sound like you have some serious ulterior motives going on. Like you've got a crush on the girl or something, since you demonize the boy and make her sound like the innocent one. And you say they're "hiding it" so when you talk about "separating them," you're not talking about having the parents seek counseling for the family, cause the parents don't know, right? You're talking about some kind of scheme to break them up because you don't like it for your own reasons. Maybe you need to separate YOURSELF from the situation and leave them to their lives...
But in answer to the question:
No it isn't incest, it's a pretty easy-to-anticipate consequence of putting 2 teenagers of the opposite sex in the same house together. They are not related, so while it may be unseemly to the neighbors, it's not "wrong", it's certainly not incest and it's not illegal.
17 and 19 are too old for you to think that you can control them sexually. And the more you try to separate them, the more they're going to want to be together. The parents created this situation, not the kids. Soon, they'll be old enough to move away and no one will ever know that their parents were married.
2007-01-02 16:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the parents know about this, these children should be separated. It may place a strain on the parents' relationship, but as parents, they need to teach the children the way to be. If the children are in a lustful relationship, and live together, the temptation will always be there. Family counseling would also be a good step, but they really need to be separated. If there was a divorce/separation from the children's birth parents, they may be acting out this way. To keep them together would be only allowing the relationship to continue in an unhealthy way, because telling them to stop isn't going to happen.
2007-01-02 16:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the families sake, the 19 year old boy needs to learn that society warrants you as an adult at 18. He should be moving out and finding somewhere else to live. Friends/Roomates, whatever.
2007-01-02 16:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On paper they are brother and sister by marraige.
I would tell them that. There are so many people in the world there is no need to date anyone related to you, ever.
Does your sister know? Maybe a need for intervention is in order.
2007-01-02 16:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side- it's not incest, as they're not blood related....but send her away to boarding school, set him up for prison ...
2007-01-02 16:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by chikensnsausages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
INCEST is terrible and it needs to be controlled because INCEST amongst teenagers in small towns is because there is absolutely anything to do but have INCEST!
2007-01-02 16:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is and the law can protect her daughter if complained i am sure.
2007-01-02 16:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by law it is not incest but i feel really bad for your family, sorry i couldn't help
2007-01-02 16:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
split them up i'd say
that is kinda creepy
2007-01-02 16:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋