I am married, with children.....always have been very straight.
But I have been finding myself so aroused at the thought of doing some things to a certain type of woman, and having that type of woman do certain things to me. But......when I came close to doing something about it.....I chickened out. (email tag and stuff like that)
AND when I SEE women around, the actual thought of literally doing something with them doesn't arouse me. I am afraid that I'll get cold feet and not want to do it.......and that I'll end up letting some bi chick, or lesbian chick have their way with me and be dry as a desert, and have no desire what so ever to do all the things i've fantasized about doing.
what should I do? get a porn tape, and just keep the fantasy in my head or indulge? What if it's just a mental thing.......i'm confused about it. any advice????
2007-01-02 08:02:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It all depends. My wife is bi-sexual and we have had many serious conversations with other friends (male and female) who are and aren't. I was curious once myself about the male anatomy (if you catch my drift) back in my high school days. I tried it a couple of times, it was interesting, but let's just say that Clitoris was the "yellow brick road" for me...and you know how the song goes.
However, everyone's different. I believe that really what you have is stage fright. Kinda like when a guy can't pee around other guys. Some would also say that you really have no desire to do it physically, and this is just a fantasy, and some fantasies are meant to be left "as" fantasies. However, you mentioned it was only a certain "type" of woman. There's nothing wrong with this either. That means you must be extremely picky. THAT'S A GOOD THING IF YOU EVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT!
The best advice I would give you is do what you feel you have/want to do. If you meet the right woman and feel like there's a chance, ride the wave and don't "plan" it. Let it happen on its own. Sometimes the best experiences come from the "unplanned" happenings. If you want to leave it at just a fantasy, then that is your choice to do. There's is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all.
Furthermore, in my opinion, I think EVERYONE is bi-curious. Not "bi-sexual"....but bi-curious. Even the straight-as-an-arrow straight guys I'm sure have thoughts at some point in their life about wondering "what it would be like".
Hope this helps! (PS...if you do ever have an experience...let me wife know...she loves stories...!! LOL j/k)
Good luck and Happy New Year
2007-01-02 08:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rizzy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you're married why not talk to your husband about possibly adding a third in to spice things up a bit. That way you can have your husband there to pick things up for you if it turns out that your curiosity is just that. Plus I'm sure your husband will appriciate the idea too =)
2007-01-02 08:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and really think about your desire...you said it doesn't turn your crank when you actually think about physically doing something. Sounds like your fantasy is still all in your head...keep your dreams & desires within your head. Let your imagination run wild, talk about it with your hubby...I'm sure he will get turned on with the thought of another lady having her way with you. It can lead to some wild pillow talk if you so choose!
So have fun with your fantasies and take them as they are...fantasies. Watch some girl/girl action with your man & go crazy together!
2007-01-02 08:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Looking at your questions you are a very confused person when it comes to sex and relationships. If you feel you have to force yourself to be with a woman, then don't do it.
Seek counseling and concentrate on your children and sick parent.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 08:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
id say give it a try, i did and love it. :)
2007-01-02 08:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by marta_f4f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can help you out.....and believe me, you won't be dry!!!!
2007-01-02 08:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by CURVY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋