Ok so have you ever had a best friend that has "broken up" with you. Like, told you she doesn't want to be your friend anymore? My best friend did this yesterday and I still don't know why. Her boyfriend, Taylor, told me that she completely hates me, but I have NO clue why! Like, I know we get into alot of fights, and all, but she has like, no right to "break up" with me!
This is totally the wrong time too, because right now we have: a project that is more then half our grade that we are working on with together with this other girl; a People to People trip this summer where we're spending like.... 3 weeks together; and another project in English, that I would like to get a good grade on.
Why did she just HAVE to do this now?? And how can I get her to be my friend again?? Because this is really BIG! she won't even talk to me and she blocked me on IM and she doesn't pick up her home or cell phone. I have NO way of contacting her. So what do I do??
Plus: She is ganging up on me
2007-01-02 07:44:50 · 30 answers · asked by H A N N A H(: 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
We are all 13!
2007-01-02 07:59:16 · update #1
She is ganging up on me, by getting all my other "bff's" to stay with her and not like me anymore.
2007-01-02 08:19:32 · update #2
♥ Yep, I have been in this situation 2 or 3 times. It is really hard on me to understand why she didn't want to be my friend. She didn't even explain why. She told everybody that she hated me and said all these other things. I'm afraid there's really nothing much to do except to talk to her and explain that you would like to forget the drama for now so we can get a good grade on this project. Or If you want to be friends with her just talk to her and look her straight in the eyes. If I were you I would just ignore her and tell her that we need to put our differences behind and not let it affect our grades. Also sounds like she is a bad friend.
2007-01-02 07:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't even try! Either you have done something we don't know about, because a true friend won't just say through a bf "I hate you" she will tell you and you will know why. So I suspect you are scared to death because you know what you did and don't have a clue how to get out of the web you made. If on the slim chance this is not the case---Then she is definitely not friend material, so do the class, but keep your dignity if she wants to talk it out, be diplomatic but tell her in no uncertain terms you will not again allow her to try to manipulate you as a ploy for her to get attention from others.
2007-01-02 07:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're clueless as to why this is so? I find that hard to believe but, in any case, let me tell you your friend has every right to break up with you any time she chooses. Another thing I can tell you is you can't force anyone to be your friend. If you really ARE clueless, it will take a long time for you to ever find out what really happened so try to act real professional about your project and don't let personal stuff get in the way because you'll find yourself in situations like this many times in your life so you might as well learn how to handle it now.
2007-01-02 08:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by carmelitacerda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well your friend is acting immature, sometimes our actions can hurt people but we dont know what we did that got the other person mad. so go up to her and tell her to lets just leave the business aside and just get the project over with. because u want to get a good grade and its not worth ruining your grade because of her being an immautre friend. so just act like you dont know her and just work on the project if she refuses u should tell ur teacher that u want to switch partners because u dont want her to effect ur grades right? some people just want to make others lives miserable. i dont think u need such an immature friend so just leave her and find new friends. and sometiems it may be hard since she may tell other people not to be ur friend but tell her thats just babyish and if u show that u dont care she will start to back away because there's no fun so just act liek u dont care. hope this helps.
2007-01-02 08:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships end. It's part of life. Some people are more confrontational about it and some people just stop calling. Your ex-friend did a fair thing by letting you know she didn't want to be friends anymore.
For now I think your only option is to accept her decision. If you do it with grace and dignity, she might even change her mind. Keep a civil tone with her so you can get your assignments done and then give her space.
Meanwhile, try to pinpoint if there was something bothering her. Did you listen to her problems or was the friendship mostly about you? Did she try to talk to you about anything that might be the cause for her backing out? Perhaps she is just selfish, it's hard for me to tell.
One thing is for sure: You don't want to be friends with someone who doesn't want you as a friend.
2007-01-02 08:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by tinkcph 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Omg wow k last year I was in a best friend trio (3 people) and then this year typically all the girls move to the school across the street becuase it accepts girls in grade 9. um yeah they don't talk to each other anymore but they're still bff with me.. and yeah. The reason why one girl broke up with the other is because she wanted to be popular and my other friend was hanging out with loser-type people. Tell her that she can't just all of a sudden break up with you and that she's being stupid if she doesn't like u then she should tell you. also you should really tell the teacher what's happening : say that you're concerned for the project becuase she told you that she didn't want to be friends with you anymore and is almost bullying you and you don't want anything to be said to her but yeah. lol.
2007-01-02 07:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Besch 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all dont change only to have a friend look friends come and go like seasons and if shes ganging up on you shes not really your friend why would you want her back??? look just realize that you are still who you are it does not matter if you are getting ganged up on just go to her house and talk to your other friends PS.ppl are sometimes envyus towards ppl
2007-01-02 09:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by caitlyn_so_fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her boyfriend prolly told her it was him or you and she picked him. And why would you want a friend like that anyways? Times like this is when you get to see a persons true colors before you really need them. Your project will just be a screwed unfortunately.
2007-01-02 07:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by calidude72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens a lot among teenage girls, so don't worry.
If I were you, I would write her a letter describing how you feel right now, well basically everything you told us. Maybe she is angry at you over some misunderstanding.
Send the letter to her and then call her or go to her house. Sort this thing out before it destroys both of you - and your grades.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 07:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she is unwilling to work with you go to your teachers and tell them what happened and that you need a new partner. If she is going to be that rude to you then you need to be the bigger person. No one can ever be ganged up on when they did the right thing. Just keep that in mind.
2007-01-02 07:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by *BRI* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋