Is going to school and feeling as unwelcome i do normal for young lesbian's?

Question

I am 15 and pretty much out to everyone... my school, my parents(though not accepting of it), Friends.
Most of them are pretty chill with it. But me being "butch" or typical lesbain.. give me away. Though i am not hiding it i really hate people coming up to me in the halls and calling me fag or other things. I truly have gotten to end of everything i can do. I have tried to get help and everything.. My girlfriend and i are really un elcome in my highschool and i regret that we have to go through this. My oher gay friends don't get it as bad as we do though.
So is beacause me and girlfriend are together we harassed?
Anyway I can stop caring about what they say?
Any tips how to deal with these closed minded people?

Answer 1

You're harassed because people fear anything that is not exactly like themselves. As to how to deal with it ... do you really care what these people think?

At your age it's a little harder to stop caring since most people your age are struggling to be accepted socially. Add to that the fact that you're openly violating accepted social conventions (stupid as they may be) ... You're in for a rough time. You are who you are, best get as comfortable with it (and the ramifications of it) as you possibly can. The only alternative is to try to be something you're not, and I've never seen that work and, in fact, seen it lead to suicide more than once.

How to stop caring? I'm not sure what to tell you. Self-deprecating humor, and sharp witty retorts have always worked for me, but that's not for everyone. All I can really say is that if someone doesn't like you ... **** em. They're probably not worth the energy it would take to make them like you and certainly not worth feeling hurt over.

I hope you can find a way to deal with and wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, it happens all the time and it does tend to happen more to butch gals. People, particularly people your age, fear what they don't know and a lot aren't very good yet at thinking for themselves. I used to work with gay and lesbian youth and the large majority of kids in the group had dropped out of high school because of being hassled. It is the job of your school to make sure you aren't bullied. Naturally this would be easier if your parents supported you - they could approach the school and ask what they're going to do. Do you have any adult support? A teacher, an aunt? Because the school really should get involved. Of course, depending on where you live, that might not happen. It would be great if you could start a Gay/straight alliance at school. That would give you a support base and would also educate people. Is there a gay/lesbian community center in your town or nearby? They might have a gay youth group - they also might have speakers available to come to your school.

You also might want to consider changing schools if you can't get support at your current school. If you live in a city there are probably alternative high schools - sometimes those students are cooler with diversity. The best of luck. It does get easier.

Answer 3

If you have talent, please post your poems. There is never too much good poetry in the world. I've read some poems on this site that really aren't very good and some that were. No one should tell you you aren't welcome. Just put it up there. Anyway, to answer your question. Sometimes when I go to Polls and Surveys I get the feeling it's like the in crowd from my high school days. Like you're either part of it or you're not. Like you need some kind of special card or something to gain admission. I don't know. I guess that's just my insecurity coming out.

Answer 4

Does your school have a GSA? If so, it would be a really good place for yourself and your girlfriend to go to. You get some moral support and people who have "got your back". At the very least, you can vent.

Answer 5

I would suggest ignoring them. When you give people the benefit of the dobut by responding to their ignorant comments, it adds fuel to their fire. When people make comments about you and/or your girlfriend, just remove yourself from them. People who are like that will never progress because they are close minded people. Just be who you are and forget those people because they will never know who they really are until they are shown how they are by other people. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your girlfriend :-)

Answer 6

Focus on the good in your life. Try to ignore the hateful people and try to surround yourself with nicer, more open-minded individuals. Eventually their remarks won't sting like they do now. Also, you can try to get the administration to put a stop to it. Oh, and don't react to the name-calling. Those people aren't worth your time.

Answer 7

Just ignore them. This type of experience should make you two stronger. Learn to fight through it, but not the wrong way. Just don't let them bring you down. They obviously they have nothing better to do with their lives and they are still immature.

Answer 8

U HAVE UR GIRLFRIEND TALK TO HER U GUYS HAVE EACH OTHER AND SCHOOL IS FOR LEARIN NOT GOOFFIN OF OK DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY HAVE A LICKIN NEW YEAR GOOD LUCK WIT UR PROBABLM BABY

Answer 9

Concentrate on your relationship with your girlfriend and others who are accepting. I am sorry this is happening to you. Please know that not all straight people are judgemental haters.

Answer 10

Sounds to me your making an issue of displaying your self.
It may be your just showing off to get the negative attention.
Like your attitude 'to stop caring' you make your tough luck.
No ideas from me ! You have the 'closed mind", your just bragging now.