My fiance and I relationship is no longer the way it was in the beginning how do I tell him...?

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My fiance and I relationship is no longer the way it was in the beginning How can I tell him when he is so over bearing to my feelings now that I'm pregnant ,How exactly do I tell him I'm not happy because of his attitude?
I still love him but his attitude and demanding ways are really starting drive me away from him. Is it just the hormones talking or am I starting to see him for his true colors? I love this man and I feel now that If I don't try to save our relationship now atleast for the baby sake what am i to do? Maybe it's the age difference I'm 20 and he is 25. Is that it?
my family members are voicing thier opinions from what they see looking outside in. Everyone around me has something negative to say. It is so bad that for the last 2 months I have not been able to enjoy my pregnancy. I'm due feb.15 and I don't know if my relationship is going to make it. I'm starting to realize things that I did not before.

What am I to do I'm so confused!

Answer 1

A serious relationship takes time and work. I've been married for 9 years today and while my marriage is not perfect, I love my husband. There are 10 years between us.

A serious relationship also means that you and he need to talk about things that are bothering you. Maybe you could phrase it like, "I feel nervous and upset when my feelings are ignored?" Then give examples and try to remain calm.

I don't know how long you have been together, but the first year or so is especially challenging. You are both developing your roles in the relationship and sometimes there is conflict.

I would also expect that maybe it could be partially the hormones.

Answer 2

Well, since you have already done everything wrong like getting pregnant before getting married. Thinking about divorcing boyfriend before marrying boyfriend.

Having your first child is an anxious situation. Your boyfriend is probably overwhelmed with financial responsibilities about taking care of you and supporting you and a baby. He wants to run, but he wants to be a man and do what is right also. He is just as anxious and upset and confused as you are.

You both need to calm down, get married so family members will have to shut up. Go to Justice of the Peace and get married. Now the baby has the name of the father. 25 and 20 are perfect ages for marriage, family and working out problems.

Work out your problems. You weren't promised a rose garden.

Answer 3

It's a bit late to have second thoughts. It's a hard time for both of
you-especially you-so just hang in there for now. When the pregnancy is over and the hormones aren't getting in the way
then you can work on whatever relationship problems you have.
Better tell your family members to mind their own business so they're not in the way either. Too much well-intentioned advice
can confuse an issue and only you really know your own situation.

Answer 4

I dated my Fiance for 2 years long distance while I was in college. I recommend getting a good web cam with a good microphone and a good computer and a long distance plan on your phone. It seriously can work, and you're forced to focus more on the emotional side of your relationship, rather than the physical. It totally hurts and sucks, but your relationship will grow so much. Just keep up with it, and know that you're never more than a web chat or plane ride away.

Answer 5

I'm in a very similar situation. Our relationship was good until I got pregnant (eventough he wanted the pregnany and I didn't). He reacted badly, and I took it badly. I knew as soon as I got pregnant that our relationship was never going to be the same.
Everyone, including my doctor, told me to move out before the baby came. I didn't, and she's 8 months old now.
We have still decided to split, but it's really hard. He's a great dad, but living together is really hard... we're just room-mates that sleep in the same bed.

Good Luck!! Do what's right for you, and if that means you'll be happier not together, then ultimately, your baby will be better off.

Answer 6

not only are your feeling affected by your pregnancy but your fiances as well. My husband was the same way with my daughter and is doing it again down that i am pregnant with my son. Wait until your baby is a couple months and see if things start to change again. Don't jump the gun on ending your relationship too soon.

Answer 7

It depends on what you mean by demanding. A lot of what you are feeling is hormonal. But if you feel threatened, ignored, or as a piece of property then you don't need him.

Tell him how you feel, tell him its probably hormones, tell him to back off. That's okay. Tell him you love him too. That's okay. He needs to understand the changes that are taking place in you. You need to tell him.

If he's a good man, he'll stand by you. If not, you'll have your answer.

Answer 8

It's not the hormones. You're seeing him for his true colors. It is good to see them now instead of after you're married.

Break up with him now. Don't stay with him because of the baby. It won't last if you do and you'll be in for the hassles of divorce.
I know many people who married for the baby. They were divorced within a year.

Best to end it now.

Answer 9

Best bet, speak to a relationship counselor, or ask your clergyperson if they will talk with you. Are you getting married soon? You could be sort of sneaky, and tell your fiance that your minister (or whoever is conducting your service) requires you both to go through couples counseling first.

Answer 10

Hormones honey. They suck... shouldn't be the age thing at all, I am 20 and my husband is 25, and we're great... although we have our moments too now that we're expecting in April. Fun stuff... just stay close to him, and let him know how you feel. *hugs*