I have always had a close and awesome relationship with my 16 year old son and still do! Last night he came home and says " do u remember mom when u said I could always ask u anything?" and of course I say Yep shoot! He wants to know about why girls like ummmmm o**l sex? and REALLY person things! Should i be like completely honest but use BIG words? GOD he has me blushing and thats NOT easy to do!!!! He and his dad are not very close and he wants a WOMANS opinion of it!
2007-01-02 07:04:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well yeah just explain all the basics and stuff and he is right he does need a woman's opinion so just give it to him. its good he actually came to u, sometimes parents have to actually tell their kids isnt that even more embarresing? so just tell him u dont need to use big words just explain thats good enough. i mean ur 16 year old son will find out one way or anotehr right?
2007-01-02 08:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer him as truthfully and honestly as you gain. Maintain your composure. You're going to send him a HUGE message right now. Either its-"wow. I really do an amazing mom. I actually CAN talk to her about everything" or "well, she SAID I could talk to her, but apparently this subject and subject matter are off limits..lets go talk to big gus down the street and see what he has to say"
I KNOW its not going to be easy. Don't talk down to him or try to trip him up using 'big' words because he WILL find out what they mean and wonder why the heck you just didnt use words he'd understand. I think, instead of focusing on how embarassing this is for YOU, you should really consider how MUCH this took for him to come to you. I doubt I could ask MY mom anything about sex NOW (and Im 25) much less when I was 16. Its amazing that he felt comfortable enough to talk to you in the first place. I'd let him know that :)
2007-01-02 15:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by jmnixon1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is not a little child anymore, even though we all want to keep thinking it. I think you need to be honest and keep those lines open. If he respects you enough to come to you with such an intimate opinion, THATS IS GREAT!. I have 6 teen and older age kids right now. They ask me all sorts of things boys and girls alike. I always give them the answers that are real and honest and then after you give them your answer, ask a few followup questions of your own to find out where they are in his or her sexuality. In this day we can not assum our kids are not sexually active, but we can give them the knowledge and the tools to be safe and responsible about it. It is also ok to let them know you personal veiws on holding off certain sex acts until they are really ready and not to fold to peer pressure. I told mine that is goes to show their individual strength. My only pre-18 year old is 16 and she is still the big VIRG and she is proud of it. Good luck and when talking to him be honest and open and bif words or clinical words are not needed. He wants to hear it in the real American virbiage.
Good for you mom for keeping thing open with your son
2007-01-02 15:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may help him achive abstinance from true vaginal intercource.Be honest with him.Talk about women in general,no mention of yourself in anyway at all or of his dad.He odviously feels very confortable talking to you if he asked this question and thats all a parent can ask for.If you are open and honest about this then he will come to you with more questions,important questions,things he needs to be comfortable asking his parents without depending on his friends opionions.Im sure will make the right choice for you family,and know all the right words when the time comes.Take a deep breath-it will be ok.
2007-01-02 16:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son is asking your opinion on something and you should be honest with him
I have a 17 year old daughter & we have a close relationship, I admit it is probably easier having a mother/daughter conversation vs. a mother/son conversation, there are times I have to take a moment, or even a day, to think how I am gonna handle this, and word this. But he is asking you and I would think as a parent you would rather him have info from you, than from the boys locker room!! best of luck....
2007-01-02 15:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to have sex no matter what so be honest with him!!This that time when you need to show him to take the proper steps in being careful with his sex life. Of course there is always using protection, but there is also being tested. Take him to a place where they do testing for STD's and tell him that if he is going to be sexually active and obviously he is if he is asking questions then he has to be grown up about it to.
2007-01-02 15:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by *BRI* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great problem to have!!! If only every parent had that kind of open and honest relationship with their children!
Tell him the truth! Be honest because that is what he is looking for!
2007-01-02 15:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by me:0) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer honestly... thats why he came to you. What BIG words could you possibly use besides cunninglingus? He KNOWS most of 'em, I assure you.
Holy crap, you must be the only person over 30 I have ever met who writes in IM like that... please stop! (I know you're over thirty since you have a 16 year old son.)
2007-01-02 16:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take a deep breath and tell him what he needs to know. You really dont want someone else telling him as they may give him bad advice. Its kinda hard but not that bad -my husband was no good with the talk if you know what i mean so I talked to my son and at first it was hard but it got easier.
2007-01-02 15:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are close tell him you can't hide the world epecially since his father isn't close with him i wouldn;t give him personal details about you. My 12 yr old stepdaughter asked me if i have had sex with her dad who i am about to marry and i told her that it is personal. If she was older i probably would be honest with her but i am not one to do the deed and talk about it.
2007-01-02 17:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋