I have been seeing an very old boyfriend he is currently with someone esle and so was I when we first start seeing each other again. My orginal relationship has ended and his has not. He say that he is in love with me and want to be with me, but say he is having a hard time ending the relationship he is in b/c of his girls. He hopes that the chick he lives with will just leave him and wonder why she has not since she know that he is seeing me and that he is just there b/c of the kids. I maybe pregnant he hoping so I'm hoping not. What should I do? We have been in this situation for a year now should i just cut my loses now or see what happens.
2007-01-02 06:34:21 · 9 answers · asked by SexyR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is just stringing you along. After a whole year?! *** on. He is lying and loving the double booty. Quit it and find someone that is true to you and only you, ---Please. Good luck
2007-01-02 06:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is full of crap. If he had any cajones he would have no trouble breaking up with the other woman. He can end the relationship with the woman without ending the relationship with his daughters. He's just trying to have his cake and eat it too.
First, find out if you are pregnant or not. Just go down to the drugstore and get a pregnancy test, then go to the doctor to confirm. As soon as you you know, inform him of the result. Hopefully you are not bringing another baby into this mess.
Second, tell him he needs to make a decision and stop stalling. Either he stays with the other woman, or he leaves her and commits to you. He is still financially responsible for any and all children he has fathered, and should continue to see them and be involved in their lives.
If he makes excuses or continues to stall, then break up with him once and for all. You (and any child you may choose to bear) deserve better than a two-timing loser.
2007-01-02 14:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your sake, I hope you are not pregnant. I think you should just leave him alone. If he has been saying this for the last year, then baby it's not gonna happen. If he wanted it to be just you and him, he would have really made her disappear. He is just stringing you along. His gf now probably doesn't even know he's cheating. I don't doubt that he loves you, but he wants his cake and eat it too. I think you should leave now just to save face.
2007-01-02 14:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to be with you and only you, he would leave the other woman. Right now, he's having his cake and eating it too. Don't allow him to make a fool of you any longer. Men usually say they don't know how to leave an empty relationship b/c of the kids because they know that this buys them time to play both fields. He's selfish and he's only worried about himself. He is just stringing you along. Speaking woman to woman, I say cut him loose.
2007-01-02 14:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Doc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not leaving.. he doesnt love you, you are a "fad" to him.. a booty call when his current woman is not putting out. You are the spice in his current relationship... a fall back.. even if he "leaves" his current GF.. whos to say he does not have another (besides you) on his back burner for when he is bored with you... Take the advice.. cut your losses and GO! this guy is a pig and has no intention of having a life with you and you alone!
2007-01-02 15:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by MistrMann 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it turns out that you are NOT pregnant with his child you should leave him. Just explain to him that you aren't willing to continue a relationship until he's single. If he's serious about being with you then he'll leave his current girlfriend, otherwise he was just stringing you along and it's better to be rid of him.
2007-01-02 14:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting go for person who has been with you for sometime is not the most harderst thing although it is to some extent but for sure as hell it takes time. may be they live too close bumping in to each other. may be they work close by. what ever it is its best that for few years he doesnt make any contact with her if he really does wanna let go. give him a chance be serious if he cant keep away from her get the hell away from him for good
2007-01-02 14:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by sowhatlk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut loose. I know it sounds hard,but i was in this situatuion once and i learned that if he really loved you he would leave to be with you and bring those kids with him,or at least still be able to share them or w/e.
2007-01-02 15:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by DiGi Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him along, its bad news
2007-01-02 14:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Hoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋