Im 18 yrs old. Im about to start college and i've only been with the guy for a little over a month. How do i tell him and my parents?I know he will be there for the baby, but im not sure how he will react.
2007-01-02 06:21:35 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
"Mom, Dad, me and "your bf's name here" have been having unprotected sex. We know it was risky when doing it and weren't prepared for this, but we're going to be having a child. We want you to be a part of this child's life and we plan on taking care of this child and I will work full time and so will he. I will be going to college part time and taking online classes so that I am able to still make something of myself. We would like you to be supportive of us for making the decision to keep this baby and hope that you will be happy as grandparents."
Something like this will probably work.... just hope the father sticks around.
-EA
2007-01-02 06:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. You may need help from a trusted friend/relative to help spread the news (which, by the way, a baby is GREAT NEWS!!!) Find one relative (mother, aunt) or friend that you can share your news alone. Then, bring her with you to tell the others. This will help protect you from any anger that the people may show, if any. Also, it will give you a back up plan if you can't find the words to tell them.... your helper would say the words and you would just nod.
Some people will get angry at you. But babies are a blessing from God. Yes, you made a choice to have intercourse with someone who you're not sure will be a good father, but that's past. All done. No going back.
What you need to focus on now is how you are going to be able to take care of the baby. Don't be afraid. And don't be scared to ask for help. LOVE YOUR BABY AND YOURSELF!
2007-01-02 06:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by CH 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First; Make sure that you're pregnant and that this isn't a false alarm. Think about it; if you been with him for a little over a month, are you assuming your preganant because you haven't had your period, or did you take a test?
Second; If you are, then talk to your boyfriend.
Third; Disscuss with him whether you want to keep the baby.
Fourth; YOU decide whether you want to keep the baby.
Fifth; If you don't, have an abortion.
Sixth; Sit down with your parents and tell them gentley. If you do it in person it's showing that you're taking responsiblity for your actions & that you're not afraid of what they say (even if you are). Take that they say seriously and graciously, they will admire you for it. Ask them their opinion and see if yours is still the same. but in the end; do what you think is best for YOU.
If this is a false alarm or you decide to have an abortion, it may never come to telling them at all.
I wish you luck.
2007-01-02 09:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by bangmandown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy first - a simple "there is something we need to talk about" and go from there. As people have said be prepared for any and all reactions - elation to anger.
Then the two of you go to both sets of parents and explain the situation. Again be prepared for any and all reactions - and have some answers to the questions they may have: future plans, supporting the baby, school, etc.
Guess what - they are probably gonna be angry/ disappointed, but you have to face them sooner or later. I don't know what your relationship with them was to begin with, but you know them better than anyone here - if they were reasonable parents to begin with then they should be fine now. Just expect that they are gonna be thrilled.
2007-01-02 06:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the father of the baby know first, you don't want to tell everyone all at the same time because you don't know what their reaction may be. Hopefully your boyfriend will be there for you if so you should defiantly tell your parents together. If your parents see that he's supporting you through this it may give them more hope that everything will be fine. The tough thing is that you haven't been with your boyfriend but for a very short time, that's what makes it difficult. Also if you still plan on attending college it will also help with the situation. Tell your partner first and see how he takes it, let him know it's just as hard for you as it will be for him.
2007-01-02 06:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jenn 1324 do not listen to the negativity of the nimbasoles on here they are goof ups I got pregnant at 16 years old with my son. I too was not with the father long and unfortunately for him he chose to flee the scene I had a really hard time explaining the situation because my parents did not know I was sexually active, much less pregnant! It seemed like the end of the world but keep you're head up it will all come out the way the good lord intends I finished school I am now married 24 years old and have a wonderful 7 year old son I would not change a thing now!! good luck!!
2007-01-02 06:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by tasha l 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well you can forget college for now. I hope the father will marry you and give your baby a name. It will be hard working and being pregnant but I was married and I did it. I worked up and until my last 6 weeks. You need to find an apartment for the two of you or three if the boyfriend marries you.
This is your responsibility so start making some decisions on your own. You decided to have sex on your own.
2007-01-02 06:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got Pregnant at 15 years old and I told my mom. Please tell yours. The worst part of this is you are not sure what people will say or do. Once you tell your mom, she can help you and it will not be this big giant secret. You are also older then I was and you really are a legal adult. So, tell people you love in an open way will gain you some respect on their part, hiding it is what children do to stay out of trouble. Good luck sweetie and love that baby.
2007-01-02 07:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting it done soon is much better than later. Are you positive?If you know for sure you are pregnant, you should talk to your boyfriend first. You then should go together to your parents and tell them that you are pregnant and although you know it is not the path they had wanted for you, it is a reality. Only you know your parents, so it is up to you to find the right words, but the longer you wait, the more stress you are under which ultimately affects the baby. Best of luck and please take care of yourself.
2007-01-02 07:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by nellyann1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you are 18 makes this much easier for you than if you were underage. You know the best way to tell your parents (either tell both of them together, or tell the less-explosive one first, or tell them long-distance over the phone.)
As for how your boyfriend will react...well, tell him he has a new responsibility in the world. How he reacts will determine whether you continue the relationship. (By no means is he ever absolved of his responsibility toward the child, and never let him forget that.)
2007-01-02 06:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Oxhead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, just be honest. It truly is the best way to go. Your parents will stick by you. I won't attempt to speak for the guy. Everyone needs to be in the loop here. Talk to the folks at pregnancy crisis center. NO, I did not say planned parenthood.. I wish you the best and will say a prayer for you and your baby......
2007-01-02 06:31:27 · answer #11 · answered by polly j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋