just joined this and i've been wondering...
2007-01-02 06:12:40 · 9 answers · asked by ~Moi~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I don't see anything morally wrong with it.
God told us to be fruitful and multiply.
and if we are helping childless couples do that, how can we be sure that this is not what God's plan was for that individual or that individual, anyway?
remember the saying "God helps those who help themselves"?
2007-01-02 06:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the real question is "why"? (Do you just WANT to be one, or do you want to help someone you know?)
Is it because you want to help some other people? Because you enjoy being pregnant? Having children? Would they be completely someone else's child, or use your egg?
Then there's the consequences.
As a practical note, how would you explain the whole thing, without getting into a long story every time someone asks you about your pregnancy or where your baby is now.
There's the financial angle. It can be disruptive to any career you may have, and the pay isn't enough to do it full time.
Can you really carry a child for 9 months and then walk away? There's stories of women who gave children up for adoption years ago and spent many long years regretting it - even though the children went to good homes.
I assume a couple that finally got the child of their dreams dosen't want someone else around to take away their quality time, no matter how grateful they may be for the child.
However, if you can make a couple happy, then you've done a really good deed. I don't know why you would think it would not be moral?
2007-01-02 14:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a moral dilemma here. It seems rather admirable to me. There are a lot of women that would love to be mothers through the surrogate process. You would need to check out your own suitability to be a surrogate, IE.. physical , emotional, stability. Maybe that is where your answer lies.
2007-01-02 14:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by polly j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a wonderful selfless act to do it. If you are serious about it, I would talk to some women who have done it though. Maybe you can get some info from an adoption agency.
I had considered the thought myself. However, after having my own baby, I can see how many women change their minds after giving birth. There is such a strong bond from even before birth and you can't imagine how much you can love someone you have just met.
2007-01-02 14:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it takes a very brave woman to "donate" her body to another person so they can have a child. Many do it for the money but they fail to realize that you will became emotionally involved even if you don't want to. My boyfriend's cousin (she is more like a sister) wants another child but after 5 yrs of trying and two miscarriages they have given up. They are looking for a surrogate. I love them both but I couldn't do it, I couldn't carry a baby so close to my heart then give it away, no money or graditude in the world could help me with that choice. The woman would have to be very strong and kudos to her for it.
2007-01-02 14:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean moral? I think being a surrogate mother is a selfless act that is a blessing to many who cannot have their own children. I think people who chose to do this for someone--especially when it is not someone they are related to--should be held in highest regard.
2007-01-02 14:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by L80bug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't pass judgement on the morality of it per se, but it tends to be emotionally devastating for many women (you bond with a baby you cannot keep) and financially exploitative (who does it unless they need money, except in the rare cases where a sister does it with a sister). I have also heard of cases where the adoptive mother really does not bond well with the child, because it is "her husband's" and not really hers. I think children also react in negative ways to this--the research is just coming out as they come of age.
2007-01-02 14:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing at all immoral, you are giving an incredible gift to someone who could not have a baby at all. You will give existance to a human who would not be here at all without you, its so unique. You will create a family, how many others can say that? Few times are we given an opportunity to bring such joy to another.
For anyone to say that its immoral, is to deny that joy can happen.
2007-01-02 14:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there are many things more immoral than that!
2007-01-02 14:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋