advice for newlyweds?

Question

Hi everyone I just recently got married 2 months ago and i wanted any advice you guys had on the union of marriage, staying happy, etc. We are both 23 yrs old. So all experienced advice is welcomed. THANKS!!

Thanks to everyone for their comments and advice.

Answer 1

Communicate with each other. Happily Married 26 Years.

Answer 2

Think about this real hard......when you first met how did he act? Now look at him and see what has happened.

I speak from a Male stand point here and not all males are like me when it comes to marriage and desire, but there is a thing called beauty and the beast.

When beauty is new it is sought out with a sex drive to copulate and feel that beauty and hear that beauty.

Once a Male has received all of the cards from this action,. he makes a decision as to what he feels is true and what he feels is fake.
When you have caused the pages to turn again, he wonders why and then comes the non desireable plague that haunts many in marriage. He finds you no longer attractive or doesn't make love longe like he use too, the time gets sghorter and your no romanced like you want to be ...like it was when you met.

The worst thing a woman can do to her husband is giggle and that is taboo, do not ever giggle when he inserts his penis...that is the biggest mistake you can ever make.

This sex drive that Men have can last for decades with the right person,. but if something washes it away in marriage, the drive is gone.
He now looks outside of the home to drive once again with someone else and when he finds this women and he notices that she is brighter than his spouse, she is lovelier than his wife, she will sleep with the husband and what happens is that he now experiences a much more stronger drive than what he had when he met his wife though, his wife had him on a good drive that was okay for him at that time, but it was lost and when she finds him not so great..kaboom.

A smirk or a shout, a dirty look calling him a bad name or giving him the intention that you are not pretty to him even though you may be still pretty to others.

It is the little things in a marriage that destroys it. Name calling, or bad looks, unlceanliness...ect
Any time one of these triggers hit the husband you have found yourself in a bad siatuation where the drive is now gone. Nomatter how pretty you make yourself for him, no mater how sexy you may look in hot pants...you cannot win him back once you have put a scar on his heart. It is almost impossible to win it back.

The secret to a succesful marriage is to never scar each other at all. It must never happen. You must get along with each other beautiful and respect each others wishes. it is something that millions of people fail to conquest in marriage and the marriage fails. The damage is irreversable and it leaves scars.

So a new start is at hand and the infidelities start as he begins his search for a new mate other than his wife. This is a very painful experience expecially when one or the other is really deeply in love and the scar can remove that love from a Male
very quickly and the damage can be permanent.

The lesson to learn from a marriage gone bad, is that you must never allow it to ever happen again.
In many cases a woman or man will make the same mistake again in a new marriage and the repeated offenses begin all over again and once again divorce is at hand.

Maturity
Respect
Honor
Integrity
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All of these things must be in place in order to have a good marriage..notice I didn't say love, Ileft that out you know why?

Go figure!!

Answer 3

My wife and I have been married for 53 years; and part of the reason it's lasted is because we each had something to give. But also we learned how to admit we're wrong without the embarrassment.

Here's how it goes!

The couple establish between themselves that when one approaches the other, head bowed, and holding their forehead between the thumb and middle finger (something like this /0\ ):

It means:

"I hate it when you're right - it gives me a headache."

When one is wrong - it's usually sufficient too walk silently past the other in the /0\ mode and all is forgiven.

But sometimes that's not good enough, and then you'll hear "NO! Ya gotta do better than that." So you bow deeper in silence, holding the forehead in a manner as to say - "This is giving me a migraine!"

Long term marriages are really very nice - so best of everything.
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Answer 4

Remember that marriage is not in the past it is a choice each of you make to stay together each and every day. Divorce happens to those who choose to NOT to stay together. Being married gives you no protection from the future so don't put your faith in "being married". Instead put your faith in being each others friend and lover. Husband and wife are nothing if you are not friends and lovers. Being in love is the love of discovery, but loving is accepting each other as they are good and bad. If and when you decide to become parents don't lose each other in the roles of "Mother" or "Father". You will raise your children, but they will NOT stay. When time has past and you are old your children will be busy with their own families. Every day be a friend and lover to your spouse because they also chose to still be married to you that day.

Answer 5

A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

Answer 6

Be honest and talk to each other when something is bothering you. Compromise when you disagree and come up with something you both can accept. Talking instead of holding problems in, and agreeing together on a solution will make you both feel better and will help to keep fights at a minimum!

Best of luck, congratulations!

Answer 7

Congratulations! Best advice I could give is to accept your partner as he is, and hope he will do the same. Remember that even what we might perceive as negative traits can be flip sides of traits we admire in this person. Trying to change something fundamental about your partner is not a good route to take.

Answer 8

understand that a marriage is still two different ppl who will have different opinions from time to time. it's how you deal with differences that will be the make or break.

give each other some space now and then.

although you are a couple, keep your own friends as well, so that you have sounding boards when needed.

remember not to go to bed angry, no matter what. agree to disagree at least until the morning and start again.

Answer 9

Be each others best friends. Always talk about everything even if your afraid it might upset the other person. Spend time together don't lead separate lives's. Just have fun and enjoy each other! Congrat's on your marriage!

Answer 10

It is important that your lives do not revolve around each other. You are married, not joined at the hip. Make sure that you each spend time with your friends and do the things that you did before getting married.
I know that when my husband and I spend to much time together without getting out and spending time with our friends or on our hobbies, we start to get grumpy with each other.